Take all of the locks off of the exterior doors, have someone remain at home while you take the locks to a locksmith, and have the locks rekeyed. This is a relatively inexpensive means of changing the locks on the house and then you can stop worrying about getting the key back from your ex.
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Very simple. You can either go over there, hope all goes well, and get your key back hoping there are not a half dozen copies floating around among his friends.
Or you can tell him to keep it, don't go over there, get your locks changed/have the landlord change them asap, and then tell him to bring the key over and be strict. Make it very clear you are not comfortable with him keeping your house key. If he still goofs off well he's definitely not worth keeping.
I tried giving back his keys when we broke up. But he asked me back so I feel like he dont ask I won't give it back.
You should definitely ask for it back. And also change the locks.
Let him come over and talk, but get the key. If he refuses to give you the key, then tell him that he has 1 hour to get that key in your possession or you will call the police.
(This works, believe me. My roommates held my stuff hostage until I threatened to get the police involved. Miraculously, I got everything back!)
That said, change the lock anyway since he could have made a copy.
Get this asshole out of your life.
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Change the locks as soon as you can. As soon as the couple breaks, he's not a part of the household anymore. If he refuses to give the keys back, that'd make him a potential trespasser, plus that kind of behaviour could bring to an amount of potential events, some of which not too pleasant. Try to convince to give the key back once more, if he doesn't, change the locks.
Of course, talk with him before anything, though. It might all be a huge misunderstanding, too.You got a few options, you can talk to him (get the key first so you can run if things go south...), you can change your locks, you can demand the key back and threaten to call the cops, you can invite him over with the key and hear him out. Your choice. Either way, I suggest changing your locks just in case he copied it and goes nuts... He may just be looking to apologize or just get some closure from the relationship...
Imagine calculating how soon you think you should stop living and this question pops up in your phone notifications. Lol.
Well thanks for the invite... Well fuck 'em, why doesn't he give the spare house key!! As most helpers said, change the lock ASAP.Change your locks. He is disrespecting you by not giving your key back. He has no right to keep the key after you break up. Considering that is being difficult about this, even if he gives the key back, he may have made a duplicate to keep. Again, change the locks.
Change your locks don't fight with him. That's what he wants anyway to get your attention as what he wants anyway to be involved with you that's what you want to either piss you off or to piss you off be smarter change the locks don't say a word
Ask your landlord if he can change the locks (this is the safest and least-confrontational way), or call the cops and have them retrieve it for you (you may need to go with them), or tell him (as politely and kindly as you possibly can, you don't want to piss him off) that if he doesn't return the key to you then you will call the cops.
But again, the first option is the best option.Change the locks even if he does return it. Getting a copy cut isn't rocket science and if he didn't return it straight away when you asked for it I wouldn't be inclined to keep the same locks in place.
Tell the landlord your situation. Tell them it's regarding your safety. You'll need those locks changed. Confronting your boyfriend especially at HIS place is just dangerous. Thats how things can go bad quick.
Just change the damned lock! Be done with him! Jeez, it shouldn’t take a Brian surgeon to figure THAT out!
Change the locks, send him the bill with a note saying " If I want to talk to you ever again, I'll let you know. Keep the key, it's as useless as whatever you want to tell me".
LOL There you go!He’s doing it so u can keep contacting him. It’s a way for him to have leverage over you and as a tactic to blackmail u.
He wants an excuse for you to keep contacting him and hopefully for you guys to talk. I would just change the locks hun so you can be done with it all.
Change the locks.
He could give you the key he has but there's no guarantee that he hasn't already made another copy.
He might even have put cameras hidden in your place.
$100, buy a new lock and have it installed.Change your locks but you should talk to him to give him closure
Go over there, but bring the police with to recover your property... OR call your property manager (if you are renting) and explain the situation... they can rekey your locks.
if all trys fail you could change the lock if you can do it. i changed the the knob on my bedroom door to a locking knob it wasn't very hard at all you could probably do that on your front door too.
So, you two never were able to TALK?
It does sound like it's over. He has YOUR key? So you let a guy move in with you?
For gods sakes, here we go.Need to change the lock. This is why I like keypad locks, I just change the code.
Change the locks. And for the next boyfriend use what I use, a code pad lock. That way they never get a key you just change the code when they leave.
I think you should definitely have your locks changed as well as your keys for safety purposes.
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