Why is my ex being such a bitch?!

Question

So I broke up with her last month and I thought we were cool.  I told her we weren't right for each other and that we were too different to last, she agreed and said we could still be friends. But I just found out today that she's been talking sh*t behind my back.  The worst has to be that she says that my d*** is small and that I suck in bed. Wtf right?! I was always a good lover and my d*** isn't small, its a good 6.5 inches, she was there when I measured it. So could anyone shed some light on my situation? Should I confront her or just ignore it?

TheAnswerer · Accepted Answer

From the perspective of human psychology:

I think she still likes you, just like Alanaaa suggested. Therefore, she feels somewhere between "bad" and "horrible". The immature person that she is, she tries to feel better by talking behind your back and bashing you in every way possible.

So I'm not surprised at what she does. This doesn't mean I support her decision, but I don't think there is much you can do.

If you talk to her, it will lead to an argument, which will make her feel even worse, which means more "talking behind back".

Just let her say whatever she wants to say. She will eventually get over this, and will probably feel embarrassed about it.

On a side note, I'm sure that this is not the only thing that she said about you, yet this is the one that seems to have bothered you the most. In fact, it bothered you to the point that you felt like sharing your actual penis size is 6.5 inches and how she knows that number.

Why does it bother you that much?

A guy's penis is "tiny" right after breakup. Conversely, a girl is a "bitch" right after breakup. (Hinting at question title).

I don't think that you would still have a relationship with her in the first place if she really was a "bitch", yet you called her one.

I'm implying that neither of you mean it when you say bad things about each other. Or at least, you know that it is not true.

BirdofParadise · Accepted Answer

My ex did a similar thing after we broke up... I broke up with him because he had become distant and didn't seem very invested in the relationship anymore. I thought things ended on good terms, he said he wanted to remain friends but I told him I didn't know if I could do that, and would need space first to move on.

After the split he went around saying he broke up with me, I was begging for him to take me back and that he had met someone else. I confronted him about this and denied it all and told me there might be rumors about him and someone else, but that they weren't true. He was really just being immature about the whole thing... and I think your ex is being the same. She just doesn't know how do deal with the break up and is reacting this way. In the end, its probably best to just ignore it... since what she is saying isn't true, there isn't much point in giving it any attention

JanJan · Accepted Answer

Just because she acted alright doesn't mean that she was.  It obviously hurt her when you broke up with her, and this was her way of dealing with it.  Remember, just because YOU have moved on, doesn't mean that SHE has.  She isn't dealing with it in a mature way, but she is just upset.

Alanaaa · Accepted Answer

You dumped her, cut her some slack. She still likes you,

Anonymous · Answer

lol... I don't think she's doing because she's hurt, or hasn't 'moved on', I think she's just doing it to f*** with you, just out of her own amusing humor, and she's getting to you so she got what she wanted, to piss you off, let it go, she'll eventually move on to the next thing