Why is my ex still bad mouthing me?

[Anonymous]

To make a long story short, my child's father keeps bad mouthing about me to everyone when he was the one who cheated and broke up with me. He is getting married now, and I talk to his fiancee' every now and then and she tells me that almost everyday he is talking about how he never loved me or how I was just a rebound. Everything in the book. They could be talking about ice cream and he finds some way to bring me up then. I'm like why does he makes it his business to talk about me randomly every day, OK! shouldn't he be worried about his fiancee' and not bashing me every hour on the hour? He was the one who cheated so...what's up with all the animosity?

[stubbsy]

I would say, he is jealous of maybe the strengh you have to move on, and doesn't like the fact that your not in bits due to the split, so he feels as if he needs to slag you off, to make your life hell in anyway he can, because his concious is not entirely clear, he realizes that he lost a good thing in you, and does not know how to handle it, and to convince everyone else his emotions are not what they are, he makes out he hates you, and does it with passion, because he needs to convince them"or himself" so when he does bad mouth you, you can bet that the reason he does this is because he is bitter at the fact he lost you. He would of moved on otherwise, he wouldn't show you any attention, apart from the odd hi here and there, but because your always on his mind and memories are raw, he needs to try and convince himself he hates you, so you need to stay away, because his jealousy is for some reason direct, and can get nasty, especially if he is in a relationship, and I never say never regardless of mothering his child, but he does need time away to realise, YOU have moved on, so try and stay away and tell everyone your not interested in what he has said, is going to say or has said, just be you and don't let him know any part of it, this way he will have nothing more to bitch about, because if he does, he will expose exactly why he does it to everyone, stay safe,x

[Asker]

& its so crazy because he cheated on me when I was five months pregnant, changed his number, and then is getting married to the girl who cheated with. I talk to her every now and then, and she tells me he bad mouths me ALL the time, always is bringing me up. He tells her that every time we got on the phone, we argued. Wheras, when we got on the phone he made a pass at me and we were civil. He was the one who made a mistake so why regret it now? go ahead and get married and leave my name out of it

[stubbsy]

I agree, just put this one down to poor judgement, and let him be the child he is, move on and let him f*** up his life, not yours,x

[Asker]

Then his fiancee' is trying to be friends...no thanx

[KBMC1]

"When people are upset and when life seems to crash down on to them, they grab on to those who our the closest to them"

[Anonymous]

He's probably not over you. That, and he's really immature.