I made out with three guys in one night?

[Anonymous]

Hi, I need to get this out. The other night me and my friends decided to go to this party, and I never go to parties or drink or anything like that and everyone at my school sort of knows me as kind off shy. Anyways, I was at the party and I got totally drunk and I made out with three guys. I have never made out with anyone before and I feel so ashamed of myself. I have never met anyone of them before, am I a total slut for doing that? because I really feel like one and I am so worried for meeting the other people on the party on Monday if they saw me. So I feel terrible, was it really slutty done of me? I mean, its the first time I have ever done anything like that and it was just making out, nothing else. And also, I used to have a huge crush on this guy who was there and probably saw me. I know he doesn't like me but do you think he is going to stop talking to me now? Please help

[InAmberClad117]

Yes, it was a mistake, but everyone makes them, and yours is easily forgivable. =j You just have to learn from it and make sure it never happens again if that's not who you want to be.

Personally I think it's a bad thing to have done, but not something I'd stop talking to a girl because. It would merely make me more cautious about my feelings for her because of it, yet you have a reasonable explanation, and if it's the first time you've ever don anything like that, then you can easily reconcile any doubts. =) Again, learn from it, and make sure you know who it is you want to be, and match your actions to the desire. ^-^

[jacquesvol]

I don't judge you, I understand it but t was a mistake and I hope the hypocrites won't make you suffer too much for this.

Had a guy done it he'd be considered a Casanova. But a girl is different:

"Moral er godt, dobbeltmoral er dobbelt sea godt"

"Hvis standarder er gode, dobbeltmoral er dobbelt sea godt." (Danish sarcastic saying: if standards are good, double standards are twice as good)

Double standards triumph...

[Anonymous]

Ok. It's not like you had sex. If you had sex with three guys in one night then you'd really be a whore. Making out isn't as bad as that. While it's kind of crazy to make out with three guys in one night, it's not as bad as that. If people bug you about it, just tell them you were drunk. Blame it on the alcohol. Since you're shy, people probably won't think you're actually like that. As for your guy issue: That's to be determined. If the feelings were mutual, you'd be in trouble, but since they aren't, I think you're safe.

[shesaladyround2]

dno't worry everyone else does it too, they have no right to judge you. do what feels right for YOU. I went clubbing with friends for many yers without ever even kissing a guy, because I didn't feel like it, while they went home with different guys each night. now sometimes when I meet a really nice guy I don't mind kissing him when there's chemistry and it feels right for me. so yea, do what you want :)

and you know, I'm known to be a good girl too, but smart people know that those are the worst ;)

[May31]

You're not a slut, you just made a mistake. One that I think is kind of awesome for your first time. But to other girls, and depending on different people, you may now appear as one. I wouldn't worry too much about it though. If your crush does talk to you or give you the cold shoulder, try to talk to him, and if anyone else treats you badly or calls you a slut, ignore it, it doesn't matter, there's been worse.

[iXenomorph]

Yes your reputation is ruined. Yes, you will now appear as a slut. Yes, it was really dumb of you to get drunk like that.

If you can't take your alcohol, don't drink.

[Anonymous]

well it's OK to make out with guys but all in the same night? really?

the problem is people you know where there and you don't want to be judged, that's why you should only do stuff like this where you don't know a lot of people at the party

OR...you can make out with the 5 guys but in a hidden spot, like go in the corner or close to a wall so it's not so obvious, and don't let them see you making out with someone who you just made out with...

[aventaes]

Probably wasn't smart but its just kissing. I let 3 girls kiss me when I was drunk. Felt bad about it too then. But its just drunk kissing doesn't really count. Not that you should make a habit of it but you know ;).

[Anonymous]

Yeah, it was a mistake. The only thing you can do is to move forward though. You know the kind of person you are, so if anyone else says stuff about you, then don't let it get to you. It can hurt, but don't get too affected by it.

[katylaura]

a mistake yeah, but one you admit. you were drunk - learn from it, and move on. everyone screws up sometimes, and no good guy is going to hold this against you if you explain to him what happened.

[Anonymous]

im no1 to judge what you do in your life ...but personally I feel its a sin

[Anonymous]

That's not good, but no you are not a slut- you just made a mistake. Try to forget about it!

[FlamingoHunter]

Well aren't you a playa.