My girlfriend slept with 3 guys in one night?

[GrowStrong]

so the night before we hooked up she slept with 3 guys. her flat mate told me about her seeing them all walk into her room and listening to them banging, aswell as my other friend who knows the guys confirmed that they did have sex with her.

then the a couple days after was when we first had sex and turned it into a relationship we have been going out for 8months now but it still ponders on my mind i think about these three guys going to down on her all the time it really bugs me. i confronted her about it and she denied it obviously but she is a bad liar and i cud see that somethng happened. im disgusted by it, truely... should i tell her i know and see what she has to say or just let it go and accept she used to be a slut.

let it go

confront her again

[JSmuve]

Two more guys and she could have done the retarded eagle... opportunity wasted.

I'm torn on this issue. On the one hand I completely understand what you're saying. Getting drilled by 3 dudes at once is a turn off. I mean, what else has she done that she hasn't told you about? Noone wants to be the guy dating everyone else's sloppy seconds. However, if given the opportunity, I'd totally try a 4-some with 3 gorgeous ladies. So I guess I'm a bit of a hypocrite on this issue.

If it really bothers you, then maybe you need to reevaluate your relationship. You don't want to be looking at her every day and picturing 3 guys slamming her in different holes.

[icantwait]

Although that's pretty disturbing and I think most people would have a hard time with it, she didn't cheat on you. Its sucks and shows something about her character but this was before you guys hooked ul

[Stacyzee]

Being that this happened before you two were ever in a relationship I don't think you should hold it against her.
The fact that she is dishonest is something that would really bother me.
She could be doing this while you two are together, and you would never know.
At least if she were an honest individual you could put it past you.

I think you should talk to her about this again.
Not about what she did,
But the fact that she is withholding it from you.
I think that's the real issue here.

[Stacyzee]

If she's unwilling to talk about it, and you can't let this go, you have to end your relationship.
The foundation is broken.

[GrowStrong]

thanks for the insight i appreciate it. i recon she has got some explaining to do

[Stacyzee]

Thanks for most helpful.
I don't think there's really much to explain.
Maybe she's ashamed and afraid that you'll judge her.
That's usually why people withhold information.

[pooper89]

I think you should let it go. But if it's bothering you to no end, ask her nicely to explain what happened and tell her that it won't change your relationship so she'll be more likely to open up. Think about it? Why would she not want to tell you? What is she afraid of? She's afraid of it compromising the relationship. So tell her not to worry but tell her you need to know

[GrowStrong]

thats good advise, when i did ask her i did it in this manor but it was very early on in our relationship like after a week. so i think if i asked now maybe she would open up abit more about it thanks

[Sweetescpe13]

I'm very sorry you're in this situation. It's hard to walk away from someone you have invested so much time into. But I promise, the hardship of walking away WILL lessen and you WILL find a girl who is loyal, honest, truthful, and beautiful in every way. Never put up with someone who is treating you less than you deserve. Never settle :) Wishing you all the best.

[favoritism356]

If this is something you can't move past, that's on you. I mean, you're saying she was a slut, but you obviously liked what she had to offer.

I can understand this being hard to handle, don't get me wrong. That's... quite a resume. But, if this girl makes you happy, is it worth ending the relationship? Ultimately, it's up to you. She can't change the past. You can forgive her, or you can end it, but holding this over her head forever isn't very fair.

[GrowStrong]

she's such a sweet girl and i like her a lot but when she's drunk she gets ridiculously horny and does shit like this. and i think if this happened a few days before we hooked up, she must have done stuff like this before too. you can understand why im finding it hard to get over though right, i mean im not moaning about spilt milk. i recon i could probably get over it, i mean when im with her i normally forget about it. but sometimes it just makes me so angry

[favoritism356]

Unfortunately, girls in their lower 20s can sometimes make poor choices. It's a maturity thing. It wouldn't be out of reason to ask her not to get drunk without you just to ensure that she doesn't make a very, very, very poor choice (like cheating).

[Stacyzee]

I don't think it's much of a maturity thing, but definitely more a morality thing.
There's plenty of women in their early twenties that wouldn't do that.

[LookatDuhDonkay]

What the fuck, you're actually thinking about this? Dude, drop her NOW. She got a train ran on her, she's been branded by a locomotive and expects you to be the sucker who soothes her calmly after her actions. Worst case scenario you end up arguing with her one day and she ends up saying "yeah thats why I ended up fucking 3 guys at once"

[GrowStrong]

thats a good insight, and if she ever said that to me i would dump her there and then. i do feel like that guy now u mention it, you know the guy from the hangover whos the dentist, in the first episode his wife is a major slut who sucks some guys dick and he defends her by saying aww cmon guys she was really drunk. i feel like im defending her for being that kind of girl.

[LookatDuhDonkay]

If it's bothering you this early on I suggest you end it or at least keep it at a sexual basis. You could possibly end up sticking with her despite what you know and develop feelings that will make it significantly harder to leave her. Leave while you still can.

[GrowStrong]

i think your right i sort of grown a lot of feelings about her, but when i remind myself of what she did those feelings go away again. so ithink ill just keep it sexual and just remind myself of what she did so i dont grow to like her more

[decemberxblue]

You either leave or you accept it. Not the kind of girl for me, though...

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[GrowStrong]

hahaha this made me laugh

[decemberxblue]

Haha. :D

[Anonymous]

well, it was not really while you were together. You should talk with her about it and if she slept with 3 guys she's not a slut. Things happen and maybe it was a moment decision or simply a mistake.
Put yourself in her shoes, I don't think you wouldn't like having sex with 3 girls.

[xPoison]

That's disgusting. This is not about whether you should confront her or not, this is about you WAKING UP and finding someone better for you. You should leave her. Or are you really so insecure and desperate to stay there?

[GrowStrong]

if you saw her you REALLY wouldn't expect this from her, she's so cute n nice which is why i was so shocked. but yeah i guess u could say im abit insecure t leave her because she was my first girlfriend (just my luck)

[martyfellow]

I endorse this opinion!

[xPoison]

You are blinding yourself with the appearance and the mere infatuation you have for her. Appearance can blind you and not let you see clearly, that's what's going on with you. Think with your mind. 1st gf? Who cares! Many more to go.

[NoblesseOblige]

If it were me, I'd downgrade her to low commitment gf at most. No girl who's had a train run on her is worth more. Don't marry her, for the love of god.

[GrowStrong]

thanks ill consider that actually.

[NoblesseOblige]

Ya. I'm like you and I think most guys are too. A girl with past bfs is already kinda not so great. One who fucks 3 guys in a row and then LIES ABOUT IT KNOWING IT'S BAD is just... ugh. Check your condoms for needle holes.

[GrowStrong]

thanks for agreeing, its just gross right? i mean, im okay if she had a few lovers in the past like 10 or so. but having 3 guys in one night just shouts something at me. and i only found this out because people were warning me to be careful because of what she did a few nights before we hooked up. im sure she must have done stuff like this before

[NoblesseOblige]

I mean let's do the math 3 guys a week, let's be conservative. 150 a year. YOU WHAT MATE?

[GrowStrong]

i doubt its 3 guys a week but i get what your saying

[NoblesseOblige]

I mean, once a girl isn't a virgin anymore, I just assume 100+ guys automatically. A switch just turns off the care in my head. She goes into a totally different slot.

[NoblesseOblige]

As your gf has proven, girls fucking lie lmao.

[ShaeNielson]

It's her vagina, she can do with it what she want's. And if you weren't together at the time, it's none of your business.

[GrowStrong]

i guess you could say that, but the fact it happened a few days before we did turn us into a thing bugs me

[ShaeNielson]

So you dated her while she decided to play whore? Thats NOT okay. I think it's slutty to fuck 3 guys in one night, but it's still her business, unless you where dating, then it's very much your business. I'd kick her out.

[GrowStrong]

nah we wernt dating when she did this, literally just a few days before we did turn us into a thing though

[ShaeNielson]

I can see Im getting a lot of dislikes on this, but really if your weren't dating, then I don't think you should be mad at her about it. Yes, I think it's slutty, but the past is the past, and she probably didn't know you two where going to be a thing, at the time.

[GrowStrong]

yeah she didn't think me and her would get things going until after this happened because we wernt that serious before it happened. thanks for your opinion though i really do appreciate it :)

[AndyWes]

Lmao, she doesn't just live in Slutville, she's the MAYOR! :O

Dump her and find a girl that waits until she actually goes on a date to bang a guy, lol.

[PureCapoise]

if you let it go, it's like hiding it somewhere in your mind... when you are mad again, it will come up...
discuss it once and for all... forgive and forget if necessary,... do what you gonna do!

[kheserthorpe]

Out of interest, when single, would you have taken the opportunity to have sex with three attractive women at once?

[GrowStrong]

i get what your saying but i can't help feeling disgusted when i think about what she did

[kheserthorpe]

If the answer is yes, you know girls have opportunities you don't.

So do you want a gf with more wild experiences than you, or a gf with less dex drive? Which would you rather deal with?

[pedro28]

let it go and find yourself another girlfriend, you deserve better than that. people can change the way they do things but never the way they are, let her go and find yourself a better girlfriend.

[martyfellow]

If you are still obsessing, you should let HER go. She won't change; she'll be right back banging again if she isn't already.

[xPoison]

Better for him to leave her. I mean you hooked up with 3 guys in one night, then you hook up with another guy. Clearly, CLEARLY something is wrong.

[Anonymous]

So she's not a slut when she has casual sex with you, but she is when she has casual sex with other guys?

[GrowStrong]

she's a slut when she's sucking 3 cocks at once

[Opinion Owner]

But you had no problem considering her for casual sex first, then figuring she was a girl you wanted to be with... and then later downgrading her again to unworthy of your attention. You've spent 8 months with this girl, long enough to see if she's a good partner. But now suddenly your sexual pride is defining you and other guys having sex with her makes you feel like she's damaged goods.

Can you see how you're thinking like a caveman? If you can't handle her sleeping with other people and enjoying casual sex, that's fine. Nobody is making you feel that way against your will. But when you're down for casual sex, but draw the line for her having casual sex... it just doesn't make any sense.

[LaceyG]

Let it go mate. Ye werent together when she did this. You can't get annoyed about what she did when she was single.

[Anonymous]

I keep telling people women and girls can get sex with anyone, anytime and anywhere. Guys have to work for sex or prove to the girl he's worthy of getting a date. Double Standard.

[GrowStrong]

pretty much yeah because every guy is down for a shag

[Opinion Owner]

@Asker agreed Its sad that Us guys will fuck just about anything, but why do we have to work for it?

[Eternallylucky]

Shit, no breaktimes? Strong muscles there. 3 in one go... confront her.

[_Vidar_]

The odds of her not cheating on you, or of not thinking of other guys while your having sex are 0. She let 3 guys essentially run a train on her, but made you wait

[Anonymous]

bravo, she needs a medal