Is it ok to date 3 guys at once if you are single?

[Sugar100]

I’ve never really dated or had a boyfriend as I’m 27. Last year and the year before I have interacted with boys at my job as at my job there’s hundreds of boys literally but I still never had a boyfriend or dated any. The one boy I liked got fired in 3 days of us meeting at work so we lost contact.

I dated one guy when I was 18 we met at work but it was a fuckboy that never treated me like a real girlfriend so I would be alone daily.

so it’s my first time I might go out on date with guy I met on dating app that almsot got hired at the job I work at. Then same time I met another guy but It seems he only wants hookup but I want meet him because I’m lonely & been hallow bored in life & haven't socialized with any one for long time.

then at work I been trying get with a guy I like we been talking since Dec but it’s just like talking one time a week and then we had distance so it’s all slow then we reconected vakentines day etc. then I missed more previous chances to talk more to him last wk lol so it’s slow. But I still want see what happens with him & get closer to him soon.

so is it bad date 3 boys same time? I still have no boyfriend.

[Summeroflove]

As long as you’re honest and not exclusive with someone. The point of dating multiple people in my opinion should be to eventually narrow that down without wasting your time and more importantly the time of someone else. Eventually most of the time you’ll narrow it down to one person and that person will narrow it down to you or maybe…. Nobody works out and you find someone new

[abbyjgriffin98]

I'm not an expert in this subject, though I like to watch a lot of dating/life advice on YouTube. I especially love watching Sabrina Alexis Bendory from A New Mode. com. And some advice of hers is to never commit before being committed to. If you are in the talking phase or the dating phase, unless you have established you are in a committed relationship, you are free to date as many guys as you'd like. In fact, it's a good thing to not put all your eggs in one basket. Because if one guy does not like you, it's easier to move on as you are not putting all of your hope onto this one guy. If he does not like you, okay. Onto the next. She gives great advice. I would recommend watching her YouTube channel.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I'd say so. You're single, you can do whatever you want. It's not for me, I can't properly commit to a person with others involved. But if you can, you go ahead and do that.

[Sugar100]

No one is saying comittment. I’m talking about meeting for the first time 3 guys. None are my boyfriend. None will ask me to be his girlfriend at the first date.

I have no boyfriend, that’s y I want meet these 3 guys, besides it takes months years for a guy to comitt to me never had a guy comit to me, never had a guy ask me to be his girlfriend fast in one date. Never had a comited relationship

[Sugar100]

It’s very difficult get a boyfriend.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I know, that's why I usually put all my time and energy in the same person so I know for sure if he's right for me or not.

[Purpleronnie]

I don’t see anything “wrong” with it but then I’m not one of your dates. Any woman that told me she was dating me as well as other guys would suddenly find themselves with a narrower set of choices 😂


For me there is no NEED to date multiple people and sends the wrong message. People are not clothes that you try on or flavours of ice-cream you try before buying.

[slatyb]

Yes, and I think it's a good idea as long as you aren't lying to one about the others. This used to be common. If your goal is to eventually choose a life partner, you want to meet as many possibles until your decision date. There's a theory that the best strategy is to estimate the number of men you can meet before you settle on one, then date 37% of that number without choosing any of them. After that, choose the first one that is better than all the previous ones.

[Jhoward]

If you can handle it and have the time why not I'm currently involved with two men and sometimes my personal trainer who is a female if that counts or not. Needles to say it can be hectic at times but very satisfying as well.

[NathanDavis]

it's a choice...

dates are just dates... and single is single

personally, whether dating or not... I always had an interest and focus in just the one person, nobody else

[Sugar100]

I didn’t mean date the same perosn for many months years. I meant meet 3 guys at once. See who will end up being my boyfriend. That’s what I meant.

[Sugar100]

Then end up with one perosn.

[NathanDavis]

yeah, that's what I meant... the dating stage is to just to get to know someone a bit better...

[Joshydavid25]

I mean, if you're casually talking and nowhere near serious that's fine. But, I do think that it is a bit sleepy to date multiple people at a time.. As an past the "talking" phase and you've been on multiple dates with each.. IMHO..

[Sugar100]

No not past talking phase and no first date only

[Sugar100]

These r all guys I haven’t met yet or gone on date yet

[Joshydavid25]

Sleezy**.. And aw yeah that's just fine.. Nothing wrong with that..

[Sugar100]

I’m not saying sex with all 3. I meant meet all 3 for a first date. Isn’t what what u do when your single? Date meet many men til u find the one that can be your boyfriend?

[Joshydavid25]

Yeah, that's fine.. I was just talking about more seriously dating.. Like you've been on multiple dates with all 3 and are close to considering all 3 for a relationship.. Man or woman, it's pretty sleezy..

[Sugar100]

I’ve never had a serious boyfriend that’s y I single. I never had a guy confirm yes he’s my boyfriend. They say no or I’m his friend and then I block them and nothing happens never had a relationship

[Joshydavid25]

Yeah, that's too bad I feel that one.. Well hope any one of these 3 guys will end up wanting to call you their girlfriend..

[Nikki1989]

Sure, you can date as many as you like.

[Zack-Bann]

Is it ok? Yeah it’s not illegal


Is it a good idea.
No


Too much drama an increased risk of spreading stds
A headache to deal with and keep together

[Shiprex]

I would say yes if you're not open to all of them of your intentions. Is it a long term relationship you seek or just going through a phase of testing the waters?

[Sugar100]

No one has called me his girlfriend I’ve never had a serious relationship that’s y I’m looking still

[Shiprex]

Is that what you want them to do though? Mark you as theirs or commit to a relationship with you?

[Sugar100]

Yes that’s what ur supposed to do to have a boyfriend. I’m looking for a boyfriend a comited relationship

[Shiprex]

So it's worth considering each of the options and make a decision on which to pursue. Find the one who best fit for what you're after

FYI
Men are not the way romantic novels portray in that they will very quickly lose interest and drop out as soon as the games of competition between them and others are started by a woman. It isn't fair on them or you.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's generally okay to date multiple people when you're single. Just be honest with yourself about what you want, and be respectful of everyone involved.

[Sugar100]

I thought people say u need date guys to find a boyfriend? You need date many men if u r single to find a boyfriend? Isn’t that what single people do?

[Mark987]

We/re in 2025 if this was 20 years ago... majority of people would make rude comments etc, but as I said before times have changed. I think you can date whoever or how many people you want, just don't lead the person on.

[Agape93]

This makes no sense. You can't date 3 guys if you're single.

[Sugar100]

I heard people say once wen u r single u have to date many guys at once til u find the one that can be your boyfriend?

[Sugar100]

I’m confused

[Sugar100]

I didn’t mean forever date all 3 and sleep with them same time all 3 no. I meant it’ll be first date with 2 and the other one still talking

[Sugar100]

I don't know which one would be my boyfriend yet

[Agape93]

I'm saying you can't be single and be dating anyone. That's like saying you are not hungry, while eating 3 different foods

[Kelly6]

@Sugar100 its totally okay to date more then one person. Dating has no limit but relationship has

[Jerre]

Keep on looking. One day, that guy will show up.

[nicfire171]

As long as you’re not telling any of them that you’re exclusive

[Anonymous]

Date or fuck as many guys as you want until you find one you want to be exclusive with.

[Bklynbadboy12]

You can but if they find out what your doing you'll probably get dumped

[Silver89]

its fine to explore options but communicate what you're doing.

[Paige90]

Are you having sex with all three?

[Sugar100]

No. I didn’t mean date all 3 same time. I haven’t met any of them. I meant meet all 3 . Isn’t that what u do wen ur single loooikg for a boyfriend,? U meet one for date then it don’t workout so next day u need another guy for date. And talk to other guy. But none r your boyfriend yet.

I neevr have been asked by a guy to be his girlfriend I neevr had comited oficial relationship

[Sugar100]

Cuz men don’t ask me to be his girlfriend. That’s y I’m always single no one wants to put label

[HungTexan]

Why not? You’re not married!

[Sugar100]

I meant meet all 3. See which one wants date me and see if any will ever ask to be his girlfriend, never ever had a guy ask me to be his girlfriend, I only dated one guy in my life …. Never had a serious comitted relationship yet

[Sugar100]

No guys I like want comittment or gvie me label.

[Sonorous]

You're a girl y'all can do anything bro