How to tell between a true gentleman and smooth player?

[Anonymous]

Just because a guy is not pushing for intimacy does not mean he is a true gentleman. He could be a patient wolf who would wait til he get what he wants.

Any tips on how to spot a fake gentleman?

[zeroth88]

Its probably difficult to tell with clever players but as they say, many of them think with their... there could be some hints:

I reckon a player tends to be pushy if they get impatient or feel threatened. Try talking to a similar guy in front of him. If he find you're enjoying their company, the player would try and disrupt it. Now since any jealous guy could do the same, watch how the guy play the game differently than before. If he was just a gentleman who likes you then he would get annoyed, distant and maybe question you about the guy. If it was a player then he would shrug it off and try to gain control. He would either up his game or cut corners. Be louder and more dominant or be more inviting to stuff that could put you two alone together.

Off course the clever ones might show "genuine" crush but it would require more energy and time on he's part.

[sexyasianboi26]

lol you are over thinking things.

Player's have a multi-layered personality, understand? They are adaptable, and they can put many faces depending what situation they are in.

Players are hunters, and hunters are patient.

If you see a man, charming, cocky but hot headed and impatient, <--- he is a douche bag not a player.

[Asker]

Not really over thinkig just trying to look for red flags.

[sunshine2]

what's the difference between a douchebag and a player then?

[Asker]

Have I said they were different?

[sexyasianboi26]

Players are like magicians that will cast a spell on you to make you believe in their actions, Douchebags are like wild ogres that force you to believe in their actions. Get my analogy? but don't over think things, my silly girls :p, only about 5% of the human population are considered player types.

[Asker]

Haha ogres. Yea some guys do "force" for French kiss on first date. Those are definitely douhe bag. There are guys who just kiss you hands. It's a nice gesture to show respect but you can never tell if it's genuine or an act

[toulouse]

no way to know someones intentions. often they don't know themselves.

jut don't do anything you do not 100% want to do. and do it because you WANT to. not as a down payment for as long lasting relationship.

then if it doesn't work out, its just two people not suited for each other. instead of you feeling like little red riding hood.

make your decisions based on YOUR intentions. not someone elses. take control of your self.

learn the difference between your decision, and a decision-someone you like very much- wants you to make. make your own. follow your conscience. don't be a door mat. and it will not matter what their intention was.

just live your life. ull meet jerks. ull meet good people. if you do what you believe, you won't be bitter, either way.

[MrzSushiiBunnii]

I would say that a smooth player would know what, when, and how to say something while a true gentlemen won't be as smooth. From what I have noticed a guy who really likes you but yet looks you in your eyes all the time and does little things like licks his lips might be a player. My boyfriend is a total gentlemen and is very confident, but even when we first met he said that he liked me so much that it was hard to look at me in my eyes! lol

But always keep in mind that people are different.

[Asker]

He didn't maintain eye contact the entire time. But he was certainly oozing confidence

He hasn't tried to kiss my lips so far. All the guys I been out wih would at least say I'm hoping for a kiss on first date including the shy one. So a confident one like this isn't even trying for a kiss suggest its a bit too good to be true?

[MrzSushiiBunnii]

I see, well then the best thing to do it to wait. I read a book (written by a man) that stated women should wait about 90days (3 months) to really see what a guy is really about. That might seem like a lot but from my experiences 3 months is actually a good gauge.

[Asker]

I got my answer.. he tried to get close and when I tell him no he gave me some "live in the moment" talk... he was a player...

[learningthegame16]

I'm not an expert on this but I'd suggest you trust your instincts. If they're making you question his intentions, there is probably a reason for it.

[antonlikesmlb]

The problem is that true gentlemen don't try to hide their sexual urges. Obviously they control them and try to connect with women on an emotional level, so the question to ask yourself is, is he doing bonding experience activities?

[Asker]

Dinner dates only so far. Is it bad?