Why would a girl give her number to a guy and never respond?

Is it because women are so fickle that they will change their mind about a guy immediately and regret giving their number out? Or do they give a number out because they are afraid of rejecting him in person? I've had this happen to me a couple times and it makes me reluctant to call or contact any new girl's number I get.

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  • It could be many things.

    The number could be wrong, either purposefully or accidentally.

    They could have met someone they like better, in the time period from when they gave their number to when they were contacted.

    They could be dealing with ex drama and just put off dating altogether, even though they thought they were ready.

    And yes, people change their minds all the time, maybe they asked around about the person, etc.

    I never give my number to anyone unless I really want to hear from them. However, I've known men and women to be guilty of the things I mentioned above. If someone acts interested and then doesn't respond, you're better off anyway. Who needs those games?

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    • I had a girl do this.. she used to have a huge crush on me and she came back to the state and we ran into each other.. long story short she said she would be back in the fall never showed up.. she gave me her number but texted a bunch of times but took hours to respond, and out of texting 284 times she called only once. I gave up and I just stopped talking to her on my end.

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  • I know it is mean...

    But that last few times that I normally would not have given out my number at all...

    I told the guys that I work until 2am or am out partying until 2am...

    Best time to call me is 3am...

    and then..

    I've given out one of my ex's (James) number...

    He's been mean to me lately..

    So.. yeah, he deserves the wake up calls...

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    • Getting back at your ex is one thing, but, those poor guys.

    • i would prefer not being given a number than given one and having false hope, thank you for not giving out false hope

    • Like I said, I don't normally give out a wrong number...

      and I haven't been doing it with nice guys.. just douchey guys...

  • It sounds like you have not been to class on "Women and the games they play 101" Welcome to the real world of dating. This is the "power" game played, (mostly by women by the way)...

    .My football coach in H.S told us the first day of practice..."Boys, stay away from the girls during football season. They are Powerful...they have something, and you want it, and they know it...they are powerful".

    Women collect "trophies" the same as guys...only women do it differently...They like to be pursued for what they hold out for you to pursue...'They exercise the power of their (*&&^

    by giving you a phone number, and then stonewalling you when you call them

    Make no mistake, and don't be sucked in by this game...and don't let them/her lead you on into thinking you are going to 'score' based on this "come on" they have extended to you by giving you a phone number (that may not be THEIR phone number by the way)

    If a girl wants to go out with you...she will make it PLAIN and SIMPLE that she is sincerely interested in a friendship/ relationship with you and lead you on with some BS and giving you a phone number...and never being available when you call...Then you can bet that she is telling her equally moronic girlfriends... that "some guy keeps calling me and bothering me"

    Wise up...don't be a sucker ...If she likes you well enough to go out, she will let you know on the spot, and you go from there. Don't go for the "never available phone number" Bull sh*t.

    My opinion only

    Bruce

    Been there, done that when I was in my late teens and early 20's

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    • This is actually right on. The phone # is just one tool. Girls like to have guys chase them just for the sake of the chase. Its and ego boost because they feel wanted. It's just built into the female DNA to have this desire to be pursued by men. To us guys its makes no sense how a person could to want to be pursued by someone they don't really want. But for women its just reflex.

    • kholland, thank you for your comment...glad that we concur in this issue



  • Think of it this way. If a girl just wants to be left alone, she'll give you her number to get you to go away. Because she says no, then the guy would continue to beg her and try to convince her. And some guys are even psycho and may even make a scene.

    I mean women go out and probably always approached. Maybe the one time they go out, they want to be left alone.

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  • They simply give number to a stranger because they want to be ''nice'' and not come out as very bad person..
    Never respond? That must be something to deal with your personality, how did you act when you were interacting with her before getting her number. That 5 to 10 mins personal interaction is crucial.

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  • I've done that a several times last month. I usually give my number to some guys when they ask just to be nice, I know sounds stupid. But I'm very naive. If I don't respond it's simply because I'm not interested in taking it any further.

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    • I'm not sure this guy asked her for her number. You're assuming he did, but it's possible she gave it to him without him asking. In that case, why would you ever both offering your number? I've had girls give me their numbers in the past without me asking. It does happen, you know. More often now than in the past.

    • Haha oh well if that's the case... I'm not sure, sounds odd. I think it might be because they want to keep in touch but they're to afraid to call and they wait for the guy to be the first one to call, since THEY took the initiative to change numbers, perhaps? Girls are complicated beings.

    • thats fine but don't give your REAL number. Women like that give us a bad name.

  • We get tired of all the crap that comes along with an honest, open rejection.

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  • I think it's because it's not easy to reject someone face to face but it is easier to ignore someone through text. Which in all actuality is cowardly.

    Just a thought.

    Sincerely,

    Sexysassy

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  • Because they're too cowardly to refuse in person.

    That, and they might change their minds, too.

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  • Or she never gave you her real phone # in the first place LOL!

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  • i know tell me about it!, why can't girls just make up a fake, wrong number? is it that hard?

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  • To be friends maybe? I give it out to my guy friends and they always mistake it as me liking them :((

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  • They give you the wrong number. That's pretty simple. If you just want to get rid of a guy you give him a fake number

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  • Maybe she gave you a fake number and sometimes women give out their number when drunk

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  • Maybe she just wanted to get you off her way? Or she's super busy. I tend to answer texts a day after haha.

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  • I believe that girls aren't really afraid of not giving a guy her number because they might get mad or cause a scene. it's because they don't want to hurt their feelings and lower their confidence of approaching another girl (or asking for their number). its almost like they are giving them a little prize for becoming confident enough to approach and ask, while at the same time being not interested in contacting in further.

    most of the times I think girls really do look forward to staying in contact with guys they give their numbers to but they suffer from buyers remorse or something has changed in their minds to make them not respond.

    most times you have to put yourself in their shoes. how would you feel if someone you werent really attracted to (either physically or not) chatted you up for a bit and wanted your number? and you didn't really want to keep in contact with them? and you knew they were attracted to you. what would you do?

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  • Can't ignore a person in yo face.

    CAN ignore someone texting.

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  • Afraid of rejecting him in person

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  • Because I would feel bad about rejecting them

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  • They just want a ego boost

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  • Mind games

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  • Because she couldn't say know when he asked.

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  • Don't worry :D I guess you just found the wrong girls :) maybe next time you'll ask them where they live so you can knock on the door to ask her out :)

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  • It's embarrassing to say that I've done this before when I'm out with my friends, had a little too much to drink and for some reason hand out my number to strangers. I wake up the next morning with texts from random people who I can't even remember what they look like because it was such a brief encounter. I decide not to text the faceless person who's constantly texting me, saying I looked beautiful the night before.

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  • they don't want the guy to feel bad

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  • Well if she gives a number to a guy and never responds that means that guy was so clingy and she wanted him to just go away :)

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  • I don't know why someone would do that... I'm sorry that's happened...

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  • She had a change of heart

    She gave you the wrong number

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  • Because they either give you a fake number or they just don't like you so they don't reply

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  • She might have just done it to look cool in front of her friends or just wanted to do it at the moment but now she doesn't really want to talk to you

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  • She might have given you a fake number or just given it to you so you'd leave her alone.

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  • I thought I was making a friend but then the guy scared me by giving me a call right after I met him. No, I don't like people who are desperate.

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  • The only time guys walk away and leave me alone is when I tell them I have a boyfriend or give in and give them a fake number. An "I'm not interested" isn't good enough, they keep badgering and even get mad.

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  • I think its the sort of the same game when a guy ASKS for a girls number and then never calls her.

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    • What do you mean by that?

    • i don't see guys doing that. unless they are interested in t hem at least physically.

      Why would a guy muster up the courage to get a girls number and go through all of that just to not call?

      Doesn't make sense to me.

  • I had a guy come on way to strong over text messages once. He creeped me out enough to lose interest. So, I did the honorable thing and started to just ignore his texts. ;) He got upset, and actually told me I shouldn't have gave him my number. What he didn't understand was I was interested when I gave him my number, but he blew it. Also sometimes if I give a guy my number and he texts instead of calls, I might just ignore it. Unless it's an awesome text, and not something like 'hey'.

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    • I text instead of call to initiate just because I don't know what the girl's doing right then, if she can talk, whatever. A text allows her to see what I said and respond in her own time. It doesn't mean I won't talk, it's just more convenient to initiate. If she responds quickly, I might ask her to call me if she's not busy or something so we can talk. Do you ignore him outright if he texts first instead of calling first? Because he may not want to interrupt something important with a call.

  • this has only happened to me once, but I just really didn't want to hurt the guy's feelings. there's no graceful way to reject giving someone your phone number. I still texted the guy for a while but kind of let things fizzle out without putting a lot of effort into it.

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  • Well I gave guys my number and after I gave them (before they called me) I realize that it wasn't going to work out... they said or did something that was kinda a "break" factor for me - so when they called after or text, I just never responded. I think its easier that way, instead of them getting the wrong ideas and thinking I'm leading them on when I respond.

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    • That is just rude from a guys perspective, be outright honest instead of ignoring them. Both will hurt the guy but honesty will let him understand more

    • 284? WOW - I think 10 is the cut of point... but okay... that's interesting!

  • they aren't sure how they feel, they are just being polite, they could be busy, they are playing hard to get. one time I didn't want to give a guy my number but he called me on the spot so I had no choice.

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