The girl I like is torn between me and another guy. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

A girl that I have been with for about 6 months suddenly misses her ex and is now torn between us. What should I do?

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She is at a loss of words. She knows no matter her decision somebody is going to get hurt. She told me she doesn't know what she is going to do.

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I'm new to this site and I know these updates aren't in exact order. She said she felt very guilty for admitting to him she missed him really bad. She also said her ex didn't always treat her right. She said she cares about me a lot and always has.

[gibella]

Well, I know that if something like that ever happened to me. I don't know what I'd do. I've thought of situations like that in my head, and thought about how if that ever happened to me, it'd be such a hard decision.

I think that if she's thinking that, you should talk to her, and ask her if she'd ever truly think about being with her ex again.

Because you don't want to fight with her about cheating and liking ex's again.

I'm sure you'd want to be reasonable about it.

Because maybe someday, that'll happen to you also.

But, I think if I were the boy in the situation and not the girl, I'd have a talk with her.

And ask her what she was thinking.

I'm sure taking a break would be really hard on both of you.

But, you wouldn't want her to do anything behind your back. You want to be able to trust her.

Hope this helps. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

You should not make yourself an option for her to chose that's not fair to you at all .The fact that she's not over her ex either is not a good sign because she could well in fact get back with him.I say no person is worth waiting for even though it might seem that way but just tell her.Hey I don't want to be an option so ill make it easier on you and let you go.That will show you if you let her go and comes back to you she's yours if not she never was.But she will figure out there how she truly feels about you and come down to it.

[onlimee88]

Lose her. You obviously care for her or you wouldn't be here asking us for help. No offense, but I feel like if you're with someone and another person captures your attention to the point that you're "torn", then you never really mattered that much anyway. If someone truly cares for you, they won't need to look elsewhere--be it looking in the past, present, or future.

[McQueen]

If I were you, I would leave this LOVE TRIANGLE. Some of my friends have been in the so-called, but it should be renamed THREESOME. The girl is not thinking of love, her mind's gone into a primitive state and would compare the pros and cons of you both. It's also a sign of insecurity, or else she would've never gotten into one and just date like normal people.

The biggest problem about love triangles is that it's based on getting the trophy and being the trophy rather than actually caring for the person. Despite the amount of movies made on this topic, IT'S NOT LOVE.

[Anonymous]

Either wait for her to choose or move to another girl. I really hope that if she chooses the other guy that you won't take her back in the future.

[eveline]

You have to move on because she clearly not willing to move on .. Death comes unannounced. I don't think you want to spent your life time with some one who isn't willing to move ahead with life. We both know there is plenty of girls with the same qualities as her and with extra including wiliness and certainty.

[gummybear888]

let her sort it out first before anything. she isn't over her ex.

[mashura]

Dump her. If she can't choose then force her hand and maker her.

[Meteora]

Read the question...Dump the chick.

You are going to get hurt if you stay my friend.