What should I do when I fall in love with my guy best friend , but he is dating another girl?

[Andy_dd]

We were best friend for 6 years , last year , both of us became single. i think i was his type because. He usually tell me , i was beautiful , cute , or something like that. But he just date another girl? I try to chat with him , and break a cake for him , But today he tell me , he will go to cinema with the another girl What should i do Should i tell him my feeling Or fade him away then waiting for his notice !! Sorry for my poor English.

[laurieluvsit]

No, don't hide your feelings. He may secretly have the same ones, you never know.

Tell him you don't want to interfere with his relationship but that you also didn't want to not tell him how you are feeling in case anything happens and it doesn't work out between him and her.

If it is meant to be it will, and if not you will find another knight in shining armor to sweep you away and treat you like the princess that you are!

[bennies_819]

Well that's an easy one respect their relationship and do not try to sabotage their relationship or be what they call nowadays a homewreaker over a guy you do not know romantically he could not be what you want as a boyfriend or a long-term partner just keep that in mind.

[hafinjun]

First your English is fine, well if you don't tell him he's not going to know, but if you do tell him, BE PREPARED for a less then happy ending, I know a few guys that won't date women who are personal friends, I understand the reasoning , but don't necessarily believe in it. If it helps your understanding, it's like a girl saying she doesn't want to ruin your friendship by having sex/dating you, good luck

[globetrotter22]

You have to accept what he has going on. Also ask yourself if jealousy is motivating your attraction towards him.

It’s also possible he isn’t romantically attracted to you. Given he never made a move on you when he was single that is most likely the case. You can’t do anything to change that. It sucks but it’s how it is.

[Avicenna]

You need to wait until he is single again. Try to meet other guys until then.

[Andy_dd]

We usually have time together, one by one for some time.
So , i need to leave him alone for a while?

[midnightmoon05]

That would be a wise choice. True friends will be happy for each other when they meet a boyfriend/girlfriend. They will give them space, be supportive.

[Guy13]

Hang out and be supportive. there's something attractive about anyone who cares for the best interest of another in all things... It's devastating to the receiver... mean touching and unexpected. Make sense?

[Sandeeppingping]

If they're not serious yet tell him how you feel, if they're serious or in the fake I'm so in love with you early stage then wait it out then tell him you feel

[HonestAssholeJ]

You could tell him. Be ready for heartbreak. I tell some of my woman that are friends , they are cute, attractive, whatever just for esteem boost. I still wouldn't date them in a million years.

[Calamine1dp]

Well if he's one of your best friends he might not even realize how you feel and doesn't look at you like that cause he is respecting your friend boundaries. So of course he's gonna go on his date instead of with you. The date is romantic and you him are just buddies. So best just to tell him how you feel.

[midnightmoon05]

6 years. You had your opportunity… now he is with someone… let them be. Give him space/time to fall in love.
If he is meant for you… it would have happened.. or it may happen in the future

[Bluemax]

If he is just dating this other girl and it's not a relationship, you could of course try asking him out on a date. If he's in a relationship, I suggest moving on.

[Orange85]

I’ve learned just because u have strong feelings for someone doesn’t mean they are good for you or that you should pursue them.

[Wubs3000]

Is he dating or in a relationship? if he is just actively in the dating scene then ask him out

[Andy_dd]

He has just dating

[In_Trance]

Recognize the fact that men and women can't be friends and this is exactly why. Happens all the time

[Subarugirl]

I have plenty of male friends, but I guess that's what happens if you're unable to maintain or respect boundaries.

[In_Trance]

@Subarugirl Prove me wrong; ask all of your friends if they'll rail you given the opportunity. You really think they'll all say no?

[Subarugirl]

Yes, because I am not friends with pieces of shit...

[In_Trance]

@Subarugirl again... prove me wrong. Ask them

[Subarugirl]

You want me to ask my friends who are in committed relationships if they would cheat on their significant others with me? Do I look like a moron?

[In_Trance]

@Subarugirl Has nothing to do with being in relationship (s)
If you think you'd ask all of your "friends" if they'd sleep with you given the opportunity and they'd all say no, you're delusional and you have a lot to learn about human behavior. Hence the reason this question was asked in the first place.
Men and women can't be friends. I'm not the only one that says is or believes it. The counter argument exists because of people like you who fail to even recognize that there's a possibility that their friendships are not real; a smoke show, and act by people who want to take advantage of you and will hang on for a ridiculous amount of time to do so. An open line of communication in a guys mind means the opportunity exists; he only needs to be patient. The fact that you quantity it as a friendship means you think he believes you're a good person and he believes he's well on his way to railing you.
Don't take my word for it; do some research, ask some questions, open you mind (s) and form your own conclusions rather that just saying "no".

Prove me wrong.

Nothing further...

[Subarugirl]

If that were true than I how can I have friends of the opposite sex… how do homosexual individuals have friends of the same sex? My friends respect my boundaries and I respect their boundaries otherwise they wouldn’t be my friends. If that you were saying we’re true that would ma’am that all your friends are only your friends because they want to fuck you

[DoctorSex]

@In_Trance
If you sit back and listen to how @Subarugirl talks. There's no way she has male friends. She's a single lady with a very aggressive attitude towards men. She comes on here and lies. Don't buy into it.

[midnightmoon05]

There are diff. levels of friendship. If we are couple friends. I am cool.

If my SO has a female friend who goes out alone together, as OP states… that will not be healthy.

Do you go out with guys without your SO?

I would not go out with a guy without my hubby.

One of my long time college guy friend became my husbands friend after I got married…I never went out alone with him without my hubby… and yes, I know he likes/likes me. I can have any guy friend I want.. but it’s not respectful to my relationship if my hubby is not part of the group.

We have to think of the guys perspective…

[DoctorSex]

@midnightmoon05 spoken like an intelligent woman who has a happy relationship. Well done.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[Subarugirl]

@DoctorSex actually I’ve been married for almost 6 years now. I have an aggressive attitude towards asshole, jerks, homophones, misogynists and racists. I can assure your gender has nothing to do with it.
Kind Regards
Subarugirl

[Subarugirl]

@midnightmoon05 exactly! It’s shocking that some men can’t grasp the fact the there are different levels of friendship and that just because you are friends with someone doesn’t mean you want to have sex with them. It’s just disappointing and radians the fact they they don’t see women as people, but rather sex objects, so they project that onto everyone else.

[DoctorSex]

@Subarugirl I'd you're married (which I doubt) you're clearly not happily. Every post I've seen of you on G@g you're attacking someone. People who are happy in life don't run around insulting people online with every post. You don't even know these people? How then are we meant to believe you have male friends? Impossible.

The irony is you claim to hate homophones, misogynists and racists, but the way you talk to people, your overall deportment creates these types of people. If you want to change the world @Subarugirl , start with yourself and in the way you talk to and treat people that you don't know.

There's enough pain in the world, don't add to it.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[Subarugirl]

@DoctorSex you can doubt all you want hon, but that doesn’t change reality. If you don’t want to be confronted when you do second thing in appropriate or respect peoples boundaries, that is on you. I know that in a lot of cases you may not understand the history, but it is really east to judge on things taken out of context. I return peoples energy, and for some reason some people don’t like being treated the way they treat others.
You don’t have to believe anything but if you are going to make a statement and present that as text then you should be able to back that up.

[Subarugirl]

@DoctorSex kind regards
Subarugirl

[DoctorSex]

@Subarugirl? You return people's energy?

You purposely go looking for people to fight. @In_Trance never even addressed you. You search and pick fights with people. 90% of your conversations on g@g are you picking fights. You're nothing more than an online bully. You wouldn't dare speak to men in person the way you do online. Which makes you a coward and a bully.

Kind regards,.
DoctorSex

[Subarugirl]

@DoctorSex lol oh yes I do hon. If someone said that to my face I would 100% say what I said back to them. I treat people the way the my treat me. I’ve have more conversations with in trance than you are aware of so you have know idea the dynamic here… you’re the one who butted in sweetie. Also you do realize that it is illegal to call yourself a doctor unless you are one right?

[Twalli]

Don't tell him your feelings while he's in a relationship. If he dumps her for you, he's not the type of guy you should be with. If he rejects you then you've ruined your friendship. Stay friends and confess when you two are single.

[Anonymous]

You should have just told him. Probably too late now. Either wait for his new relationship to end (it may not) or tell him right away before his new relationship gets serious. Most girls can’t admit their feelings to guys.

[lovedejj_xo]

Ugh this is why I was never big on guys and their girl best friends.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Don’t worry, if you’ve listened to any ASMR role plays, then you should know exactly how this kind of situation goes down

[Hardworkingguy]

Why don't you just tell him how you feel. If he's mature I'm sure he'll think about taking action upon it if he likes you too

[katestar]

Ignore it and date someone. If you don't like it. Tell him that you like him.

[Anthony20108]

tell him how you feel the worst he can do is reject you but better to know than to regret not knowing.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Oh and I always thought its the guys who would rather fall in love with their female friends

[Zygum]

One sided love, he is not sincere with you, leave him

[hafinjun]

I agree

[EaterPeter]

Tell him you have feelings for him. He might be in on and off relationship with other girl.