Why do so many women have kids with loser dead beat men?

[Anonymous]

And why do these women feel like they have been wronged when it reality it is their decision to carry a baby to term or not.

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ms couture I am forced to block you because you make very little sense. its womens choice to carry a child to turn so having a baby is entirely her choice. men using condoms of being dead beats has nothing to do with a womens choice to bed or carry a child to turn. stop shifting blame and grow up please

[HandsomeRaj]

Nice question :)

There could be and are so many reasons, can't generalize any

1. Condom broke and she never knew she was pregnant when she was

2. She didn't realize the man was 'dead beat' or a 'loser'

3. The man was good and later circumstances made him the way he looks 'loser' etc

4. She just wanted to have his baby desperately

5. The guy always was a loser but a woman's maternal instinct 'told her' that a baby will 'change him'

6. She didn't want people to think that she can't bear children

7. She thought having a baby will sort out her / their / his luck issues

8. Tried an abortion but didn't succeed (didn't realize till it was too late)

9. The man was never a loser, just the way everyone around her views him as such ;)

10.She herself is a loser a junkie or some such thing and never cared what transpired including birth of the baby

There are more reasons but again it depends on so many factors that this space won't be enough for that forum :D

[guy532]

I'm with you on this. I also hate it with an absolute passion when a single mom thinks that YOU'RE messed up because you don't want to date a single mom. It's in my genes damn it, not to raise another man's child...lions eat the cubs of the other lion's once they take his territory.

[Asker]

yeah women complain and say sex is just natural so you can't think low of them for having it, then when you tell them you got to eat their children just to be with them because its natural they get all but hurt like you're the crazy one. I guess they pick and choose their social constructs

[guy532]

Hahahaha

[Anonymous]

Generally, the women have their own set of problems -- they have similar issues as the dad (drug or alcohol problems, a lot of times) or else come from a family where men acted like that. Also, some guys I've personally known have surprised me with their behavior. Some guys think they want a kid and wife, but freak out when the reality hits home -- especially if they are young.

[Anonymous]

Do they feel wronged though? I don't think all of them do, at least not for the baby. The ones I've known acknowledge that they made a mistake too, but they still don't like him and they didn't want an abortion

[kheserthorpe]

I'm going to spin it around and suggest that guys who have a decent income and -would- support the kids are more likely to actively avoid having kids outside of marriage.

Guys who have no money are the ones who say 'i want you to have my baby, girl'. Because there's no impact on them.

Guys who plan to vanish also don't care if the girl gets pregnant.

So basically, girls would probably be more willing to have sex with equally attractive guys who would not be deadbeats, but the 'non deadbeat' guys are avoiding impregnating them. So a disproportionate number of the fathers are deadbeats.

[WoIIie]

It depends on the culture really. Where I'm from, it's not too common to see that. But in poorer, urban environments its more common because as Jon Stewart would say, "that's the soup they swim in." They are less educated and grow up with family and peers who don't abide by core modern family values.

Of course it's also possible to fall into the trap of starting a family too soon and it just doesn't work out. Its not the dad's fault or the mom's fault. In fact it has a lot to do with their genetic predisposition. For example, the daughter of a teen mom is more likely to become a teen mom herself. The son of a noncommittal dad is more likely to become one of those "deadbeat" fathers.

There are a lot of factors involved and there is no single person to blame.

[parkway]

Some times you never see it but so many people do not see past today. Lack of education is the main reason. There is a love hormone in women which make them blind to the truth, many are having sex with freaks and cannot see it. Poor choice.

I have met many of these women and they know there value is less. A woman with children and never been married will always be dragging that nit with into my relationship her entire life. Having a child with a fool is a life sentence.

[G_GTom]

You are exactly right. Women choose these men. My feeling, you make your bed, you sleep in it. I've encountered these women as they've gotten a little older.

I think now they are realizing life a little tough and looking for someone to smooth things out for them. Someone who is responsible and financially stable. My answer, No Thanks. They can try and fool someone else into being a meal ticket.

[Anonymous]

Do you really think they knew that the guy would be a dead beat loser in the first place? I mean sometimes its obvious but only the really trashy women won't care.

[Asker]

does it matter if its not obvious? that's what getting to know people is about

[Anonymous]

But those evil men made us sleep with them! lol

*grabs popcorn, this should be a good one*

[taster]

That's a Damn Good Question...still haven't figured it out...O.O

[Anonymous]

One of the great mysteries of the universe.

[peace-love-couture]

Why are so many men dead beat dads?...

[Little-Hippie]

Because statistically speaking, being in your children's life is not necessary for their evolutionary success.

Daughters raised without father are more likely to have multiple children starting at a young, fertile age.

Sons are likely to follow in their fathers' footsteps, getting numerous women pregnant and repeating the process.

This makes it evolutionarily advantageous to be a dead beat dad.

[peace-love-couture]

No, not really

But I'm not surprised someone on here is attempting to defend dead beat dads lmao

[onlyaguy]

The more important question is...why do women insist on having sex only with jerks and then wonder why they get stuck with deadbeat dads?

[peace-love-couture]

No, the more important question is why guys can't get their sh*t together

but my bad, men can do no wrong

[onlyaguy]

If a person does not have the means to acquire a good car, is it reasonable for that person to conclude that there are no good cars?

[peace-love-couture]

Perhaps men should master the art of using condoms and take up for their own sh*t. If you know you can't afford a child, you shouldn't be f***ing. Part of the reason why I question why poor people feel this sense of entitlement when it comes to having children. Just because you have the ability to have sex doesn't mean you should

[onlyaguy]

Wow, there are just so many things wrong with what you just wrote, in this context of the topic at hand. Wow!

[kheserthorpe]

I still think most guys DO make major efforts not to get women pregnant. Its that guys who are -likely- to be dead beat dads also make less effort not to get women pregnant. Guys who would take it seriously after the fact also take it seriously BEFORE hand.