"You're too sweet" Double meaning?

[Anonymous]

Ok girls, a girl tells me that I'm too sweet whenever I express concern or do something nice for her. (Nothing outlandish, just words of encouragement, advice, random jokes/stories to brighten her day)

So what I'm wondering is, is that an absolutely good thing, or does it have a bad side to it.

You're sweet= that was really nice of you, thanks.

You're too sweet= I appreciate that, but it was a bit too much and I'm a little uncomfortable about it.

That's my very literal interpretation of it, is there any truth there? Or is it more than likely just a purely positive statement meaning more than just "you're sweet"?

[Anonymous]

It depends on the tone of voice.

"You're too sweet" to me can be said in a sarcastic kind of tone, where they actually aren't grateful at all but are just being polite. Like when someone re-gifts you a present that you originally gave them and you simper "you're too sweet" back to them in that ~tone~.

But if she's saying it in a nice tone than she could just be truly grateful and is expressing that. Some girls have figures of speech like they always say "like" or "so" or "too." "Too" could just be hers. Try to pay attention to if she says it a lot "this cake is too good" or that "movie was too good." etc.

[Opinion Owner]

Also that sounds super sweet how you are trying to brighten her day and stuff.

[skinnyciggs]

I say it all the time. Its kinda like the same phrase as "you're too kind" or "you shouldn't have". In my opinion it kind of says that she doesn't think she deserves someone being that nice to her because she didn't do anything to deserve it. A lot of girls think this way.

[martyfellow]

You're right, this phrase has a negative vibe. It's telling you that you're being too flattering to her, laying it on too thick, and she's not totally comfortable.

It also tells you that she isn't excited by your attention, or she wouldn't use a phrase like that. She'd either just smile and say thanks, or sh'ed say something more flirtatious in response.

[Anonymous]

"You're too sweet (for me to ever be interested in you, I don't want someone who's going to put me on a pedestal and always be super-nice to me. I'm only human, and a very, very flawed one at that)".

That about covers it.

[Asker]

Yeah man, I'm some idiotic lapdog for checking up on someone when their sick or providing a laugh when they're complaining about work lasting forever.

I don't dispute the truth you speak of, it simply doesn't apply in this case unless she has the worst issues I've ever seen. It's just disproportionate for what you're saying (trust me, I've been there...) I'm not spending any money, don't go out of my way, and am simply being a decent person. Friendly or flirty isn't part of this equation.

[6Paul11]

It's probably the first one.