Guys why do you take so long to reply

[Anonymous]

why do men take so long to reply? does it mean he is loosing interest if he takes 24hours to reply to me. Or maybe he met someone else?

We went on a date, he was showing interest texting and talking about seeing me again,and now all of a sudden he is taking forever to get back to my texts

what do you think is going on here ?

[SaintRichie23]

He could be playing the old mind game, and it seems its working xD

Now, don't get me wrong, maybe he isn't interested (*maybe*), but let's say he is:

If he texts you less often, and you like him, you are now thinking and wondering why its taking so long, which you are, and if he likes you and wants to chat as much as you do, which seems to be what is going through your head.

Simply enough, he is making you think and want him more by not seeming accessible all the time to you.

[Asker]

i hope that's the reason. I mean I can wait patiently for a few hours but after a day its just rude...and I feel like there is someone else. especially since just last week he was saying he can't wait to see me again,etc...

[SaintRichie23]

Again, he is trying to turn the tables. Instead of him chasing you, he is trying to make you chase him. He'll make you keep waiting until he is all you seem to think about. Hell, he might do this for a while. If he seems interested yet unavailable, you'll think about him and want to see him even more

[Asker]

thank u...man I hate games! so what do I do back? just be patient? or chase?

[SaintRichie23]

Lol you hate games? Guys deal with girl's games all the time. Welcome to the world of chasing people xD. I don't know how you text him. Do you text him every once in a while to no success? Do you still see him?

[Asker]

we met and he started initiating texts a couple of times a week, then we arranged to go out. Then things were going well he seemed very interested in his texts. And we were talking about seeing each other again. So I have contacted him a couple of times this week and he takes forever. my last text message still has no response...

[SaintRichie23]

You can either play the same game to turn the tide and ignore him a bit, give in and ask him out, or just drop it

[matteus]

Well to me this seams like he doesn't won't to come across to strong so he doesn't respond straight away I only say this because this is what I do but I never leave it that long and if I do I would make an excuse or he is on a bad plan or is doing something and just hasent gotten back but you could be right.

[Asker]

thanks, but I feel like over 24 hours is way too long to not come across strong.. what do you think? would you make a girl wait that long or just not get back to her. I feel as though he should be worried ill move on if he doesn't respond... lol

[matteus]

yer your probably right did he make any excuses on why he doesn't respond?

[Asker]

he did once, apologising saying he has been busy with work, etc... but has not replied to my last text at all

[Asker]

and he can't be that busy as I have seen him on Facebook a lot

[matteus]

yer all right fare enough you could be right but there's no way to be shore

[Anonymous]

If this keeps up it's probably best to move on. If he has interest, even if it takes a long time for him to text back his reply will contain signs that he's still interested

[Amanda2]

Not interested

probably busy

Doesn't want to come on too strong

Playing the game, so that you will pursue him, never a good idea resist the temptation

[Anonymous]

In my experience - if they didn't talk to me much, it was because they just didn't want to.

[Tigurinn2]

Could just be shy

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe. But in my experience, it was always because they didn't feel like talking or didn't feel like talking to me.

[temptationfalls]

He just sucks at replying. Not all guys have that problem. Women can and do take just as long to reply on occasion.

[Anonymous]

he is taking long because he must be a cold fish. Some guys never harden.

[Asker]

cold fish? what exactly does that mean haha

[Opinion Owner]

some guys never can get hard. they have ED.

[Racez]

We're busy masturbating.

[Anonymous]

Did he always initiate the texts?

[Asker]

yeah, usually he has initiated and responded within a few hours. Now I've been initiating and its taking forever for a response...

[Opinion Owner]

That's what I figured ...and you may have lost him. He may have inititated so often that he figured that he couldn't be bothered to do so anymore. I know I hate with a passion that I have to initiate every single thing; I can't even begin to describe how much I hate it. And sadly girls think that's the way it should be, but that's so incorrect in my mind. Dating is a two-way street, not the one way street that girls seem to think it is.

[Asker]

i always text back though and within twenty mins..i also show a lot of interest..i can't see why he'd just stop :-(

[Opinion Owner]

"i also show a lot of interest"

So you've met him a few times? And by showing him interest I'm willing to bet quite a large sum of money that you mean you've sent him flirting signals, and not approached him and talked to him first? You've done the "classic" girlie thing of letting him come and talk to you first?

...but then again, he could be a player and playing mind games. God knows I'm not a player, so I don't know about that, but I do know that I really hate having to initiate everything