I met this guy on tinder we’ve been talking for about two weeks now but first he rarely asks me questions about myself like stuff guys usually are interested in knowing but he’s also very respectful and doesn’t make vulgar sexual comments like he flirts now and then but nothing crazy or overboard but whenever he messages me I respond when I see it and he takes hrs to reply even when he messages me he’s bored so I’m just curious is he not interested because we’re gonna see each other first time in person I’m nervous like he asks me wyd or tells me what he’s upto but that’s usually it why’s he being so confusing
"I met this guy on tinder."
That's already a huge fail. Tinder is for finding casual sex partners, not relationships.
Does this guy even live within 20 miles of you? If not, then one of the reasons he's not replying is that he's realizing that he's never going to get to spend time with you in real life, so this talking online is really just a waste of everyone's time.
Stay off apps. Go OUTSIDE and into the world around you. Meet LOCAL guys and date one of THEM. Someone you can actually talk to and spend time with IN PERSON. That's what relationships actually ARE.
But to answer your question more directly: most guys have a lot of demands on their time. Men tend to work more hours a week than women, and even when we aren't working, we have tasks that we're expected to get done, and many of those don't involve sitting at a desk.
Mowing the lawn, changing the oil in the cars, fixing the leaking sink, etc. are all jobs where you are using tools, it's loud, you are often dirty, and you probably aren't carrying your phone, or don't want to pick it up with dirty hands. Maybe you're working on a ladder, or under the house, or you're on a Zoom call with a teacher or customer.
OR... after doing these things, maybe he's taking a nap, or doing something to relax and let his brain unwind - mindlessly watching TV or playing a video game. Men need time away from outside responsibilities in order to recharge and regain the mental strength to get through all of their daily responsibilities - this is why men have "man caves" - so they can do whatever it is that helps them relax and unwind and be LEFT ALONE. If we are interrupted during this "recharge time", then we have to start over from the beginning, so we do everything possible to avoid being disturbed. This is just how male brains work - we didn't ask to be this way. Women TALK and SHARE when they need to deal with their stress - men need to be ALONE and UNDISTURBED. This has nothing to do with you specifically, but certainly it's been affecting you here.
Still, I can't help but go back to the fact that if he isn't LOCAL to you, then you are just wasting your time and his anyway. I'm sure you won't listen to me about this - you have to learn this lesson the hard way - but in 6 months or a year, when the distance causes this relationship to fail, please remember that I predicted it, and that you can avoid that by only dating LOCAL guys in the future.
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