How the hell can girls like being dominated? (Non-sexually)

[Anonymous]

Maybe it's the man in me? I don't see how being led, being a follower, being told what to do and how sh*t is going to go is "hot." To me, that's just being a p**** with no backbone or pride.

Does it mean there can't be compromise and no one is supposed to budge? No. It should be a win-win situation, how good business is supposed to be.

If someone tries to dominate me it's not going to happen. Fists will eventually fly. It's that distasteful feeling I get when someone tries it on me that makes me not want to do it to women. Unfortunately, that hurts dating success as we're not doing what we are "supposed" to be doing.

How can girls even like that?

[teasegirl]

Sometimes we like being with a dude without having to worry as much. Is annoying enough when a grown ass man sees the girl as his second mom. Doing everything for him and taking his decisions.

I agree that some things should be guy and girl making their own decisions. But we can't deny our animal instincts. Male is the alpha for most cases. Obviously is not like the guy should treat the chic like a piece of crap. But at least he should take charge in some situations.

simple example.

This guy asks the girl every time they go out "where do you want to go honey?" every time. How cool would it be if the guy said " I'm going to take you to this place I want us to try"

I understand that he wants to always please her, but sometimes the fact that he can make a simple decision like that is satisfactory enough.

Animal Kingdom explanation for everything lol

[Asker]

"Animal Kingdom explanation for everything lol" Lmao! I agree though. I totally understand your point about animal instincts, it's just frustrating when so many people act on such autopilot (Men aren't exempt).

I agree that men shouldn't be submissive like that, just as women shouldn't be submissive like that! I prefer to be a bit more equal, but it seems girls want me to be this radical person who dominates and controls 90 percent of what we do.

[teasegirl]

No f*** that. Feminists can go f*** their dildo in peace. Haha I don't want to dominate a dude at all. "Man of the house" sounds good. "Woman of the house?" Lesbian couple...

[why-makoto-kun]

Feminist = equality, and not controlling the man. Feminazis control the man.

[teasegirl]

We re never going to e equal.

[why-makoto-kun]

We'll never be the same, but I consider males and female to be equal in worth.

[teasegirl]

yeah it should be like that but is not. Be realistic.

[why-makoto-kun]

Why should I accept it? Why can't we work towards what we "should" be?

[teasegirl]

Because is not natural.

[eithyy]

Some people are naturally more submissive, and they like making their partner happy. This generally means they'll do pretty much whatever they're told and they usually enjoy doing it. Sometimes it's even a turn-on for them to be told what to do, even outside of the bedroom. You might think it's weird, but if that's what they want to do, why judge them for it?

[why-makoto-kun]

I agree. I like a man with confidence and a backbone, but if he tries to control me, he's out.

I think you're going to get flamed by anti-feminist people. It makes them uncomfortable when someone suggests women do not belong in the kitchen, making them sandwiches and wiping their noses. :P

Kudos!

[why-makoto-kun]

Even though being dependent on a woman like a little child looks like submissiveness, it's a sneaky form of control.

[Asker]

Exactly! I like a woman with confidence and a backbone too, but I wouldn't want her controlling me and I'd never do that to her. And I agree with the more sneaky form of control, "nice guys" do that a lot!

[why-makoto-kun]

Ooh, you might like my article about nice guys (in Behavior) if you get the chance to read it. It's a disturbing trend, really, and I've dated way too many, despite being unhappy. When I realized I wasn't shallow for disliking that type of guy, it was quite freeing.

[Asker]

Haha, I think I actually read that! Don't get nice guys and guys who are nice mixed up however! Some people do nice things to get what they want, very ingenuine. And others do nice things because they really want to and don't expect more than appreciation in return.

[why-makoto-kun]

Of course. :) I know genuinely good guys, but I haven't had the fortune of dating many of them; just a few and we were too incompatible. One day, hopefully. :)

[front2back]

There is a difference between being a follower and a slave.

Women are (mostly) acceptable of having a man take charge of things as long as he is doing them right.

NO ONE should be okay with another human being treating them as garbage.

[Moloch]

I don't think women like being dominated, I think they like having someone else in charge. I personally hate following others, I like to be in charge at all times, so I know what you mean.

[snowangle]

I don't like being dominated. Controlling guys are the worst hahaha. But, like the other girls have said, I like a guy with a backbone.

[justme20]

Yeah I never allow a man to dominate me. We will butt heads. I am dominant by nature myself and don't back down

[katkaintkwit]

i don't like that. I'm completely turned off by the thought that someone wants to controll me

[Anonymous]

that's why you're a man. just like some women are not that kick ass and can't understand your drive.

not all submissive girls let themselves be treated like crap. it just means they let guys be the leader. a relationship dynamic works better when two people have different jobs. I am submissive and I like a man in charge. sexually and otherwise.

[Asker]

That's true, that's what I was thinking. I guess I'll never be able to understand it.

I really didn't mean being treated like crap, but that's sorta where this whole thing went (Also my original question could've had more accurate verbiage). I meant more so that I don't understand how girls like to NOT be the leader, or just an equal. Not a follower

[Opinion Owner]

i don't know why I like it, it just feels natural to me. I like a man in charge.

[Asker]

Can you give me some examples of things you like that a man in charge does?

[Opinion Owner]

i like a man who is older. who has been through more in life. I prefer my men about 10 years older so they aren't like my dad but more experienced in life...can talk to me, give me guidance, etc because they have done it. I like a guy who is bold. says what's on his mind and what he wants. can be sexually dominant and initiate things with me. isn't "scared" of me. knows what he wants and takes it.

[Asker]

I hear you. And how old are you?

[Opinion Owner]

21

[Asker]

I see. Don't take this the wrong way, but I want to share my thoughts, and I'd like for you to share yours in response. I am in no way trying to offend you (Disclaimer).

All of what you said sounds like someone who is afraid and lazy, to me. Instead of learning yourself, you rather reap the fruit of another's labor. Would rather have someone else be bold, speak their mind, than put your own head on the chopping block. Be sexually dominated instead of getting on top and doing the work (LOL)

[Opinion Owner]

You are entitled to your opinion. But I strongly and vehemently disagree with you. You are trying to equate things that should not really be equated. People feel a certain way in relationships. Being submissive is not a fear or laziness for a woman. It's her nature. Many men love and respect that, it's only you who seems to have the problem with it. I don't want to be the man in a relationship. And submissive does NOT mean not having an opinion. Take care.

[Asker]

I don't know.. I guess I just appreciate a girl who has just as much to bring to the table as I do, can empower me as I empower her, can teach me as much as I can teach her, etc. Not a girl who needs her hand held through life. I never said I wanted a girl to be a "man", by that I'm sure you mean "leader." I prefer equality. Although, I do think I'm a bit too "new-agey" and your more traditional views are more effective in today's society.

[Opinion Owner]

well, good riddance to you. just because I am not trying to dominate a man does not mean I don't bring anything to the table. I don't need someone to hold my hand, I just like a strong man is all, and so do many other girls.

[Asker]

I never said you have to dominate anyone. I never said girls should find "weak" men appealing. I merely said I prefer equality.

You prefer a man who is strong, and that is totally cool. I guess I prefer a woman who is strong and can stand up with me instead of behind me.

[Opinion Owner]

well, your idea of equality is nice, but I think the idea of the pie being split exactly down the middle is a nice fantasy. even if it's just to a slight degree, I believe, and also have been taught by my parents, that one will always dominate the other slightly. it's just human nature.

[Asker]

I think you're absolutely right. I'm confident that I'll be the dominant one, and my wife in the future will be the more submissive one. But I guess I don't like how polar most girls seem to prefer it to be. I just feel like a dad, or an older brother (Ew). Even though there is a captain of the team, the co-captain is still very much needed!

[Opinion Owner]

relationships have a special dynamic of their own. maybe with more experience you will learn that.

[ThatBritishLad]

Why do people like being called pet names? Why did the Tories win the last election? Why do people find Ricky Gervais funny? Some of life's great mysteries :/

[xXxAx3LxXx]

Shut up and keep walking. Seems like your manhood isn't fully there yet.

[Asker]

Lmao. This is exactly what I mean. You felt I'm not being a leader aka a p****. A guy can't understand why anyone would PREFER to be led, instead of doing the leading.

[xXxAx3LxXx]

Don't be mad son, you just need to grow some balls that's all.

[Asker]

Lol I'm not mad at all. Typical attitude, though.

[LindaGirl]

I don't like being dominated

[Asker]

I notice this with a lot of people who have families that aren't from America. The fathers (Older generation) from other places tend to be very controlling, thus the younger American-(Insert here) generation tends to rebel.