How do you feel when your ex downgrades?

[Anonymous]

How do y'all feel when you see your ex downgrade? My ex is still trying to get with me but he has downgraded (terribly..i feel that it is the worst downgrade I've ever seen). It makes me angry,seeing his downgrade has made me sick. I will never get back with him after that. I feel as tho he has no standards.

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His mom told me he's using her. I feel bad for her now. :/

[various]

You seem very bitter over something that shouldn't even concern you to begin with.

Personally, once I have broken up with a guy, I don't really care about who he dates. For the most part, I am never the one to judge another girl by her looks. I am sure that my ex feels attracted to his new partner/gf in one way or another. Either way, it's really none of my business.

Also, I don't really believe in the whole "downgrade" concept. You can't help who you are attracted to. She may seem like a downgrade to you but she might make him happy mentally and physically (maybe something he didn't get from you). You should simply move on with your life and don't worry about his standards.

My rule is: live and let live.

[Anonymous]

I hate to say this, and I am not trying to generalize guys, but sometimes a guy will dare a girl because he wants sex and doesn't actually care about her, and he might be desperate enough to date a downgrade. Also possible that she is a really sweet or smart girl and he likes her personality. Either way, whenever an ex of mine downgrades, I let myself feel smug for a little bit and then move on and hope for the best for them.

[Prettygurl12]

Well. Someone's jealous.

My ex didn't downgrade. Some may think he did, I'm sure. Some may think he upgraded. All I know is that his current girlfriend is the sweetest girl I've ever met and she and I were very good friends back in high school. She's so kind and funny and those two compliment each other so nicely. I'm glad to see he's found a good girl.

[Meedo]

This is one confident girl talking. With your self confidence you will get a great guy my friend.

[Prettygurl12]

Oh I did. I'm with an awesome guy. :)

[JohnBelluci]

LoL rage rant.

Most Bitches down there that rants about their ex downgrades is because they had such a high opinion of themselves, and realize that some chicks who IN APPEARANCES look inferior, happen to do a better a job than them, and this forces them to admit one thing:

- These "downgrades" are the concrete proof that you're not as great as you think you were...

- If they were better looking and classier than you, you could think "oh it makes senses, it's not my fault if she's hotter, so that's ok" and reassure yourself.

--> But since they're not, you therefore have to admit that it is YOU who were pretty sh*t... rofl

[Tracieb]

Actually he is still my husband and feels disgusted in himself for what he did. The bitch that got him actually mind f**ked him and played games with his head to sleep with him, we have been together for 23 years virgins both of us to each other so the downgrade iam talking about is not because I think I'm sh*t hot or any of the crap you just spilled out of your mouth it actually was a downgrade to a mind controlling bitch, it's how she got to 6 other young ones to. Mothers them than beds them.

[Jack00700]

As many have stated maybe she has an amazing personality, from what you said in your question it's not hard to see why your his ex, you come across as being incredible immature and shallow, it's not sexy and not attractive at all. I hope for your sake you kept your opinion to yourself and didn't tell him about what you think of her.

You can look really pretty and everything but eventually everyone gets bored of ones looks, a great personality and a truly decent person in priceless and hard to come by, that I would never get bored of.

[Asker]

I didn't tell him what I thought about her. He cheated on me with her and I also did everything I could for him. I'm not shallow but his family also thinks he downgraded. I'm someone who has goals in life, and I'm independent, I also support him. This person doesn't she just does drugs all day. (shrug shoulders)

[Jack00700]

If that's the case then I'm lost for words (scratches head), I don't like cheaters and think their the worst, in this case I will have to stand by you, if he downgrades then let him, think of it as she's taken a load off your shoulders and you can now find someone better. The two of them sounds like they are a good match anyways.

[Anonymous]

It depends on what you mean by downgrade. I assume you are talking about looks. I don't really think about the person that my ex's end up with. Some have been uglier, in my opinion, and some have been better looking. It doesn't change my opinion of my ex.

Do you realize how shallow and objectifying you are being to women, to place a woman's value based solely upon her looks?

[why-makoto-kun]

Awesome answer.

[Jack00700]

Great answer

[G_GTom]

I have something similar. I was REALLY interested in a woman at work. "Really" doesn't even come close to describing how much interest I had in this woman, but then I saw some of the choices she made in guys at work. They are morally bankrupt and, basically, disgusting.

Ever since then, I've lost interest.

[Alonso14]

IME people tend to date others who are pretty much equal in terms of physical attractiveness. Chances are you are either underrating that girl or overrating yourself.

[Asker]

To be honest I don't even put myself on a high pedestal.

[britannny]

It makes absolutely no sense at all whatsoever to take it personally when your ex "downgrades" (in YOUR opinion, anyway). That's dumb.

I remember my ex downgraded once. The was really mean to him. She was a psycho. She would start fights with him all the time about dumb stuff, and cheat on him. I didn't really care. I felt a little sorry for him, but that was about it.

[Anonymous]

Actually, the new girl probably has an amazing personality. While in your, bias, option she is a downgrade in looks, I would suspect she is a major upgrade in the personality department.

Since you're clearly jealous already, I would guess my suspicion is correct.

It's funny how people make these questions, and yet a majority of people claim looks mean nothing.

[Jack00700]

I second that, guys Admittingly is more visual and it quite upfront interms of wanting looks first, majority of girls however tend to say looks are not that important...

[Tracieb]

My husband downgraded me to have an affair with a really fat, old 61 year old grandmother who is ugly as a horses ass, I know how you feel. My husband is 37 by the way iam 35. Now if that ain't. Downgrade I don't know what is. Ps she is a s**t to did half the mine site that they work on. It's disgusting if you ask me. Xx

[vmw2008]

Lol surprised he's not "ex" husband now.

[Anonymous]

Great! Because I know I am awesome, I know my life is awesome, and they will never be able to find someone as awesome as I am.

[Asker]

nice answer :)

[gonyr]

Don't rush to judge. Maybe the other girl is a good person and he isn't shallow? Maybe he has other preferences? Or maybe you were the beets thing he ever had and he doesn't think he can ever match it again

[Anonymous]

Like them being with me was the best they could do. It doesn't surprise me though, every guy I've ever had I've been told by many that I could do better. Not that I care though, I go for what I want not what everyone else want's/thinks I should want. In terms of the downgrade, I just hope she's nice and they are happier than we were.

[Opinion Owner]

@update Yeah? More of less recently I rejected a guy, once he realized he couldn't get with me he started f****ng another girl and said in my presence 'it's like I'm getting payed for sex', 'she's rich', 'I don't know why I'n with her'. They are dating now but every time he talks about her it's about her horses, massive house or the fact that he's taking him out to dinner. Feel sorry for her...but he could fall for her maybe...

[Anonymous]

haha I laughed when I read this because I feel the exact same way.

[Asker]

lol what happened in your situation?

[Opinion Owner]

Same thing, my ex started seeing someone that was not even remotely close to me in looks, education, and the way she presents herself (She's a bit trashy). It made me feel almost disrespected. So when he wanted to talk to me again, I wouldn't even grant him that.

[Blueplanet]

I hope I would never see it in this way because the moment I judge another person like that then I would become the downgrade.

[Meedo]

true

[Prof_Don]

Looks aren't everything QA. Why do so many girls think most guys don't consider personality in a girlfriend?

[enigmatta]

Maybe she's talking about a downgrade that's not only about looks.

[Prof_Don]

The way she's talking about her ex's new girlfriend, she makes it sound that she doesn't know her well enough to judge on anything besides appearance.

[Asker]

shes drug addict.

[Prof_Don]

Not everybody is perfect...it's a problem, but everyone, drug addict or not, is entitled to love.

[Anonymous]

Is it actually a downgrade or are you just jealous? lol

[Asker]

lmfao..it is even his mother said so

[Opinion Owner]

Alright well I'll take your word for it! :P

[Asker]

:) lol

[Opinion Owner]

:)

[titoloco]

-_- ? I'm missing some important information. What did he do to get downgraded? Did you just both decide to take a break and you don't want him back? Details?

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Once he becomes an 'ex', what he does shouldn't be concern of yours.

[Anonymous]

Well, everyone has their own preferences in life after all.

[Meedo]

People don't come in grades

[blackeagle007]

What do you care of what type of women he pursues? It's his choice really

[kheserthorpe]

Its inevitable, they'd hardly be able to upgrade.