Why do guys just stop talking for no reason?

[jonly0424]

We were talking good for about 2 months and hung out a couple times. We were also talking on the phone almost every other day and then all the sudden he just stops texting me? I don't get it! This is like the 3rd or 4th time this has happened to me with guys and I'm so tired of it. I don't understand, there's no reason or sign or signal, it just happens out of the blue. I'm not sure if I'm doing something wrong or what? But please someone answer this for me...please!?

[Anonymous]

it happens to like every girl. one minute we think he loves us then he's a stranger again like will smith from men in black came and flashed his memory or something

but really the only answer we can come to is that he was never serious to begin with, he is not relationship type material, and he doesn't know what love is. he probably only thinks of sex and is just out to date multiple women he has a short attention span. may be he even met someone else and forgot u. you never know. but guys like that, all you can do is walk away and never look back. if they contact you again don't reply give em a taste of their own medicine. and if he still doesn't stop tell him straight up that you are looking for someone mature and kind and who will always be a loyal friend the very least, not someone who flakes and just disappears tell him it won't work and show him who's in control, show him he lost you, not the other way around.

regardless, you don't wanna be with that type of guy anyway. imagine, if he's like this now how would he be in a relationship, he just randomly sleeps with you and then walks out and you never see him again? better you see his true ugly face now then later. you shouldn't have to work so hard to keep a man interested, a man should like you for who you are and he should always want to talk and keep a conversation going, otherwise let it go and move on.

[singlegirl1992]

This is my ultimate pet peeve. It's maddening! I really wish I had a concrete answer for you. I don't think we're doing anything wrong (unless of course we insult them or show signs of disinterest, in which case you can't blame them for stopping the conversation). But I don't understand why they can't at least send us a one-sentence reply saying they've been busy and will reply soon. Girls do this too, but guys generally get less emotionally involved so it wouldn't bother them as much as it bothers us.

I think the most logical explanation is that this guy either forgot to reply or has lost interest in the conversation. It sucks because it makes us - or at least me - feel pathetic when I text a guy a few days/weeks later asking what's up and if he got my last message.

Bottom line: if you've tried getting in touch after he stops replying and you still don't get a reply, he's not worth your time and you'd be better off moving on. Good luck.

[DaedraGoddess]

That has happened to me before. I have no idea what it was with him but it pissed me off too. But it turns out he was just a man whore/tool. So, in all sincerity, maybe your just falling for jerks.

[Anonymous]

I stop talking to a girl when for the following reasons:

no chemistry on a social level, we don't click.

incompatible sense of humor.

shes dumb or and we have dull conversations.

no spark.

but that doesn't usually take 2 months to figure out.

some other reason I can think of but haven't encountered:

shes saving her self for marriage.

shes a religious nut job.

[Opinion Owner]

actually I just read someone elses question which was similar and they had a link which could be the answer

link

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[jonly0424]

the link you sent me made a lot of of sense the only thing that gets me is that we do things and we don't even realize we're doing it. I tried putting my situation in place of what the article said in the link and then I got to thinking, when or how I could of given off that vibe or shown any of what the article describes...

its still frusturating but it somewhat makes sense

[Opinion Owner]

The best answer to the other link, while somewhat similar to the article, might also be relevant.

[kmit21]

though not all guy friends do that.. depends on the man

[Anonymous]

It means he sees you as just a friend.

That's just what guys do to their friends. They'll not speak to each other for months often, and then pick up the conversation where it left off. For guys, friendship isn't an intense relationshp, like it is for girls.

[Anonymous]

It seems that you're not showing enough interest, or you didn't reply to one of our messages.

[kmit21]

another woman