Meh, niceness alone doesn't determine whether a person is boring or not. A guy can be nice, funny, outgoing, strong (mentally) and obviously not be considered boring. Another guy can also be nice, but at the same time maybe a bit quiet, a little weak (mentally) and not that funny. Many would probably consider him more boring than the first guy, even though both of them are nice.
So I don't agree, but neither do I disagree. It really depends on the person and his other personality traits. As for the latest update, I wouldn't exactly have worded it like that, but... yes, it's a boring trait when a guy listens to everything his girlfriend says. It doesn't mean he just randomly has to disagree with her just for the sake of disagreeing, or pick a fight just because he doesn't feel like listening. No, it's more about having backbone, not always strive for the same thing your partner is striving for in life, being able to stand up for yourself if you think something is unfair etc. It's just not that black and white at the end of the day.
Honestly, I'm really stuck on what "nice" means. It's so overused now to describe a guy who isn't "manly" enough, that I'm actually starting to lose touch with the actual meaning of it. What, so when a guy decides to open a door for a woman, that's boring? When a guy actually has respect for a woman, that's boring? I mean, I'm really confused. Are we talking about mannerisms here or what? I never knew being nice, could label you as "boring" and quite frankly I'm tired of guys and women using that term to define someone as non-worthy enough or just as capable of things, just as any other guy.
Disagree. Boring is separate from nice. He can be boring whether he's nice or a jerk; it's mostly dependent on other things. If he's a jerk he's worse off as far as I'm concerned though.
Update: If a guy listens to everything his girl says, as in he follows what she tells him and doesn't voice or act on his own opinions and thoughts, then he's being a doormat and needs to assert himself some more. If by "listening to everything his girl says" you mean he pays attention to what she says and doesn't tune her out, then that's a good thing.
Women are attracted to jerks for dating and sex (a proven fact, despite what they say), but they settle for nice guys for their security and faithfulness. When it comes time to settle down, a nice guy can provide and protect just as well, and is more likely to stick around.
That's really the bottom line. Despite decades of feminism, once they grow up and get past the hormonal dating phase, women still look to men as providers and always will.
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The problem, of course, is that they often get pregnant unintentionally by those jerks, which means the a**hole genes are passed on and the world has yet another fatherless child victim.
I have been depressed for at least four years and a lot of it has to do with the only woman I've ever loved rejecting me because I was basically "too boring and weird" for her, so here's some depression to go along with that, which then makes me even more boring and unattractive to everyone else!
She didn't even know me. I could've been with her forever and these feelings I still have prove it. I just wanted her to see the dedication and passion I had for her but no that's "weird!" and that's "boring!"
I'm so sick of this.
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Depends on what you mean by "nice". I like boys next door, but not the type who are so nice that they're practically doormats. There should be more to their personalities than just being nice. The thing with the guys who fit the "nice guy" stereotype is that sometimes, that's all they're known for, and nothing else, even if there are other aspects of their personality, and that's why some people seem them as "boring". Long story short, a guy can be nice, but he also should show that that's not the only thing going on with him, like for example, he also has a sense of humor, likes to have fun, and is smart.
honestly, yes. My boyfriend would like jokingly make fun of me and sometimes it would get on my nerves and I got mad one day and told him to stop. Once he stopped and became nice, I noticed how boring nice guys are. The teasing is fun and cute! But it doesn't mean you stop being nice just don't be a door mat. That's one of the biggest turn offs. As much as girls don't like to admit it, I'm pretty sure we like to have a guy who's in control. It's so hot! When a guy listens to everything his girl says he looks like a p****. But this is my opinionn every girl thinks differently.
Yes and no. Genuinely nice guys, who also have a life and interests and intelligence are not boring. Nice guys who think that their niceness should be enough and don't work on their intelligence, or hobbies or ACTUAL genuine niceness are boring and in fact, not actually that nice at all.
I guess it depends on your definition of "nice guy". I like guys who listen, so there you go. But if he always agrees and never seems to have an opinion of his own, then it gets really boring really fast. I like it when guys can have a friendly argument with me or tease me a bit. Keeps me on my toes ;)
In my experience most guys who claim not to get women because they are nice are actually just ugly.
It makes no sense for women to reject men for being nice.
Not initially. However, I really enjoy 'the chase' when I like a guy. Obviously it's nice when guys act like gentlemen but I also really like the flirting and the uncertainty of whether or not they like you back. Of course, that leads to heart break most of the time because that's where jerks differ from nice guys. I think I would go for nice guys a lot more if there wasn't the "I know you like me, this is boring" part. So really, it's not the guys themselves that are boring, it's just that they are predicable.
Nice guys aren't boring. Anyone who says so hasn't even taken the time to get to know them-.-
Not necessarily, no.
Being nice has nothing to do with being boring, UNLESS you're someone who craves drama and discord all the time. If you are, then you'd want the bad boy/girl because you'd want the drama that comes with dating someone like that.
I don't, so I don't date bad boys.
I voted B.
I personally like nice guys. But it's not whether someone is nice or not that makes it boring. I mean it's personality in generally. If they don't want to go out and do anything ever, they're boring, etc. Niceness isn't enough to bore me.
no no no girls like nice guys and ones that listen to them ther is not a lot of guys who do that thees days they all are self lovers not all but the majorety of them ?!
No not at all. Intriguing more like! It's usually the girls who are not ready to commit and are immature in that way that think like that!
no. I know a very nice guy who is interesting as f*** :D
Not really no. I don't know who you're getting advice from but with that kind of outlook you will only ever attract the wrong kind!
I love nice guys, they treat you right and are usually gentlemen. And I have WAY more fun with them, I don't hang out with not nice guys at all.
I'm a nice guy but I'm definitely not boring.
Just because your nice doesn't automatically mean you're boring, don't judge a book by it's cover.
it doesn't matter if you are nice or not. just have to know how to carry a convercation.
@Update: Not necessarily. There's more to it than that. A good man will be a good listener...doesn't make him weak or a pushover.
Yes depend on how you define nice. Door mat to me is nice.
B, I love nice guys. I had a crush on a nice guy but he wasn't into me.
A lot of them are. They are kinda dorky and don't really go out and have fun which can make them slightly boring
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