Would you prefer beauty over brains?

Question

guys if given a choice what would you prefer most in a girl. Beauty or brains? If there is another factor please state!

GoodManDave · Accepted Answer

I think that beauty gets you in the door more quickly and appeals to more people. But for the guys who want a long time quality relationship, there has to be at least enough of both to keep things going.

It may get you in the door faster, but if there's some personality, then it's endearing.

I have a crush on a woman I met a few weeks ago. She's beautiful... but where she works, there are a lot of beautiful women. Even when she's busy, she'll still come over to say hello (and it's to me more than anyone). I think that's more attractive than anything. I can be playful with her without worrying, and that takes a girl farther.

One night a few years ago, I went out with a few friends from church to a local restaurant. There was a girl who I thought MIGHT be kind of cute. I didn't get a chance to really talk to her; I decided to introduce myself; but she had to leave really quickly. We talked for about 30 seconds, then she began to leave. I said goodbye by using a line from the movie The Princess Bride. Not for her, but... It's just a good line. And she answers with the next line in the movie. THAT made her a lot more memorable and endearing. I remember her when most friends don't because she made that strong of an impression on me. Not the looks, but that personality was the thing that drew me in.

I think the mind would keep the relationship going. I want to talk about things. I want to make her think, and I want her to make me think. In that sense, I want someone who can challenge and inspire me, just as I want to be the main person who does that for her. A girl who doesn't "get me" is not someone I'd want to date for very long.

I don't want to be in a relationship where I have to constantly repeat myself and explain every joke or reference that I make. I do that too much already.

JohnnySS · Accepted Answer

updated response: well we KNOW that the better looking you are the stronger your body's immune system defends itself against foreigners. In my experience... I am a very handsome looking man and women with great bodies, beautiful faces and w/e are almost the only ones who have ever approached me. So we know through my experience and through research that couples will usually be within 1-2 points of physical attractiveness to one another. A man will usually be more stubborn when it comes to attraction a female - less, because of the expectations put on females in the current society. Which are pressure to have a baby and pressure to see butt ugly guys as equal to hunky guys which they aren't. In my life, I have been attracted to even fat women - some are beautiful, however their bodies are not compatible enough for me or I don't find them attractive. They might have a great personality or have, great body, or a great face. They may have only one of those features and that's enough to make them attractive to me. However I have a standard and only one doesn't do it. Women - are the same.

MaskofInsanity · Accepted Answer

Beauty. I'd easily choose personality over beauty, but in all honesty, I think intelligence is highly overrated. Most people I meet who claim to be intelligent are arrogant and overbearing. I've learned to get turned off by guys who are interested in me because they think I can keep up with them - it's almost condescending.

Good looking, positive and down to Earth - winning combination.

cupcakequeen · Accepted Answer

I don't care about how stupid a person is when it comes to book smarts. I also don't care about a persons looks -- though attractiveness is a plus. I care most about personality and charisma/chemistry. How well I match with a person and how long I can talk to them without getting bored. I want them to have a good heart and be sweet and loving. That's all that I need.

Hannah591 · Accepted Answer

I couldn't go out with someone who was extremely dumb. They'd drive me up the wall as I have a habit of correcting people which I hate doing but I do it anyway. I'd prefer a guy who could teach me something new everyday, not drive me insane with his lack of common sense/education.

bytesbull · Answer

Personality means more to guys that have grown up. When I was younger it was all about the looks. I didn't care if a girl even behaved erractic or kind of retarded if she looked good, but as I have grown up a girls personality is the most important factor when I consider getting involved with a woman. My older brother once said something to me that stuck with me to this day, "you can't help how you look you are born with your looks and have to live with them, but you can be a great person and other good people will see right past how you look and like you for who you are".

Words to live by.

Longshot · Answer

While there needs to be at least some physical attraction, I'll take an extra dose of personality. Finally got up the courage to ask the most DDG girl at school for a date.We went out a couple of times. Nothing came of it. Her personality sucked. Should have stayed home and watched cartoons.

StevenJohn · Answer

I voted C which for me, means Personality. My girl for instance, is stunningly gorgeous and very air headed. But her personality is so bubbly and positive that it makes her air headedness cute as can be. I really don't care if someone is smart or not but beauty and personality is important to me. Beauty sparks sexual interest, which is a must for a passionate relationship. Personality is what makes you create a long lasting bond which will keep the passion once beauty fades.

Anonymous · Answer

Beauty. I don't really care about a woman's ability to recite poetry or do complex mathematics. Her intellect isn't going to make me feel more loved. Nor do I need her to have a high paying job to support me. I make my own money. Now if you had said personality that would be different.

Confucius16 · Answer

The people I like best, are the sweet girls, the ones who are really nice, and don't get angry too much. The ones who like helping others, and are kind. The ones who are not attached to their own ways of thinking, but are open-minded.

Beauty is enhanced when these qualities are there. That's like inner beauty, and it's great.

Intelligence is not as important as wisdom. Wisdom is life experiences and knowing , while intelligence is ... how fast you learn, how much you can memorize, etc.

jamesma87 · Answer

Personality is more important than brains imo. I don't mind if a girl is a bit ditzy as long as we get along well and enjoy each others' company. Someone being smart doesn't really guarantee anything except their intelligence.

Obviously people want a mix of beauty, brains and personality but if you have to pick one then beauty is going to be the most popular choice. Nobody is going to date someone that they can't stand the sight of

Deft_maiden · Answer

I've been told to " dumb it down" more than I care to count. So beauty for sure.. Guys don't want to be threatened, they want to shine.

alltheabove1212 · Answer

It's very obvious and not shallow that there needs to be physical attraction. That's why these questions are kind of misleading if people are looking for advice. The girl needs to be a certain level of attractive to a person initially, and then the brains part adds a whole variable.

As beauty sometimes compensates for brains for some people, it can go the other way around too.

For me, I need to be physically attracted, and then brains (smarts, wittiness, maturity, overall sense of humor)

clashcity22 · Answer

I'd have to say beauty, but inner beauty. I like a girl that has a great personality, but also has some looks. My ex girlfriend was such a great woman. She was friendly, kind, caring and just all around, the best person. She is overweight...or so she thinks. I like a girl that has some meat on her bones. There's something about girls who are a little bigger. That's just me. She has a gorgeous face. I guess I need inner beauty and outer beauty in some combination.

Anonymous · Answer

Beauty. This is like asking women if they prefer a guy to have a high paying salary or personality or brains.

Most of us don't want to be with an idiot forever, but we don't care what job she has. She can work at Target for all I care.

As for the personality thing, I don't know. I guess you mean the attractive girl has a sh*tty personality (much like most of them are), so it would depend on the overall score when it comes to the girl with the good personality. Though if she is really unattractive, I opt to not choose either.

AveryBeck · Answer

For me it's personality, you want a girl who is similiar to you in almost every way. Looks are superficial, but of course most guys would probably go for a supermodel. To be perfectly honest why go for one when you can have two? Looks & personality = <3 the looks are just a bonus

SteelyMcBeam · Answer

I would prefer to share common interests with her.

Beauty is naturally attractive, but it's impossible to date a beautiful chick if you aren't tall since beautiful chicks are pickier from getting approached so often, and height seems to be a REQUIREMENT for attracting women.

Brains can definitely be impressive, but not necessarily beautiful. There are wayy too many brilliant involuntarily single people after all.

gonyr · Answer

Brains. Although I can't say I'd date someone I wasn't physically attracted to either. I know it seems shallow but if that initial attraction isn't there nobody's going to make a move. However, if hypothetically it came down to two girls. Girl  A was really hot but wasn't really smart or couldn't really carry a normal conversation vs Girl B who maybe wasn't as god looking but was very engaging, I'd go with girl B

Jonny_ · Answer

Intelligence is no measure of good personality... Especially when most people seem to see intelligent people as nerds/dorks/dweebs, which are seen as social outcasts. I like intelligence to an extent although it depends if they're the kind of person who thinks they're so smart as to argue every detail to the bitter end. As for beauty, I can't really fault it. Of course a mixture is the best.

jmr2191 · Answer

My god, brains, brains, brains! Beauty doesn't mean anything without brains or a good heart. Beauty is important, but beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and no relationship skin deep will survive. Relationships are multi-dimensional. They're physical, emotional, cognitive...the fact of the matter is that beauty alone will not work, brains alone will make it difficult, but beauty, brains and mutual feelings make it very difficult for the relationship to fail.

ladsin · Answer

unfortunately I can't say between the two... I need a girl to be smart enough to carry on a conversation, but also gotta be good looking enough to arouse me... so if I had to choose between one or 2 id have to go for a middle ground

dan3314 · Answer

I really dislike the stereotypical dumb blond type (btw I don't believe its only blond girls who can be dumb) I don't know why but I'm attracted to girls who are really smart and even successful. I do have standards though and I would never date a girl who looks horrid or doesn't seem to care about how she looks.

Anonymous · Answer

Beauty and personality. Then brains. Assuming this is a girl who wants me.

In practice, most girls who like me seem to be smart.

My guess is they find stupid guys annoying, so have to overlook my other faults because they have restricted options.

Cyran · Answer

If it would be Beauty VS Kindness it would be hard to choose but right now it's simple:

Beauty!

Just because a girl is smart doesn't mean she's also a good person, it's possible to be smart and completely callous and evil at the same time... and that without beauty? Not what I'll choose!

Prof_Don · Answer

I can't lie...I want a female with (what I consider ) beauty. Brains are required as well,

but if forced into extremes , I'd take a brainless yet loyal trophy wife over a way below average brainiac.

TheAnonymousOne62488 · Answer

Yeah. I'd choose beauty over brains. I've got enough brains for both of us. And it's fun being the smart one. She is so cute when I explain something she doesn't understand.

quantumdefender · Answer

beauty and brains are second base without HEART.

I seen some hot looking women who are just snobs, look at kim kardashion!

she is hot, and she got brains, (you think its dumb luck she got rich?)

but she is a total bitchsnob

Anonymous · Answer

it depends what I want her for. some women are so irresistibly beautiful and exotic that I just NEED it but beauty wears off for anyone for the long term I need both but inclining towards intelligence. I've dated average women that fed my mind body and soul the results with someone like that cannot be compared with anyone else. oh yeah and I like to slap her tities around but you don't have an option for that lol for the other part personality hands down

Anonymous · Answer

I dated the pretty face without much being behind it. I couldn't handle the lack of deep conversations. I need the brains otherwise I get bored when I don't have someone to have stimulating conversations with. There is nothing sexier than a smart woman.

Account · Answer

Most men are lying their asses here but anyway! No man would pick an ugly female with intelligence.

emzy-89 · Answer

Well lets just say I saw 5mins of the Miss Universe contest and I thought to myself, 'i'm so happy I have a brain', I'd choose my brain over a parid of 6ft long legs any day.

bigmike16 · Answer

Half of the time I don't stare at just a girls face. Its her hair and eyes that I always notice. Plus, I do like a girl with intelligence but not a whole lot of intelligence because I feel like if I joke about something stupid she would not laugh whatsoever.

zdagger · Answer

Personality. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, meaning what I find beautiful isn't mainstream. Attraction is necessary, but personality is the icing on the cake.

AndyWes · Answer

Without looks, it's just a friendship. Sorry. Girls get turned on my game, but guys need looks to be attracted to a woman, or you're just a classmate/coworker/friend, not someone we'd want to be with.

HandsomeRaj · Answer

Update: my answer remains constant

I won't do without beauty but beauty without brains will be a disaster. So I prefer both (being present) :D

But brains doesn't mean really brainy, havinjg basic presence of mind and commonsense does it :)

MrAtticusLebowski · Answer

You should adjust the poll options differently. Depending on what you choose you're either lying or shallow. How about this...

EX:

Option A.) 90% Physical Beauty and 10% Brains

Option B.) 10% Physical Beauty and 90% Brains

Brovak · Answer

If given a choice of an above average beauty and average brains, or above average brains and average beauty, it will always be the later option. This is assuming they both have personality.

I come for looks, but stay for brains (and personality)

TheGoodTheBadTheHOT · Answer

For a sexual relationship: beauty

For a meaningful relationship: a bit of both, but brains are much more important than beauty. Its all very well if I'm attracted to someone but if they can't hold a conversation then its not going anywhere

ThirdPersonViewer · Answer

Beauty is subjective, if were talking beauty as in the physical form then brains, but beauty to me is in the personality. As long as you look healthy and you give your 100%, you can't really do more than that...

loda1994 · Answer

you make this question seem so absolute. like you want us to choose someone who's totally ugly or deformed or choose a bitch, brat, with totally no personality or brains. it doesn't work that way. you need to add moderately pretty and smart

loda1994 · Answer

I chose other cause I want her to be at least not ugly then she should be intelligent as well. but if you mean brain but plain ugly no thank you or beautiful but plain stupid or retarded then perhaps I should be gay :D

Sexydncr · Answer

Personality. Then beauty. Then brains. As long as someone is street smart I don't really care if they're book smart. But personality is the most important for long term. There are awful smart people.

kairon156 · Answer

A personality that works well with mine. If I picked buety does she have to be dumb or if I picked smart does she have to be but ugly? or can those be average in looks/smarts.

normalice · Answer

women are confusing enough with just average intelligence.

Anonymous · Answer

Beauty 100% all the time ...if I had to choose that is, of course I would like it to be both (but not smarter than me; but hopefully more attractive than me)

Spydi145 · Answer

Looks are important but only last until the room goes dark. Personalities make things interesting and fun.

Anonymous · Answer

If were stuck with this person for life, the smart investment is brains. Her mind will stay vibrant long after her looks have faded. That being said... if were lookin for a nice short term thing I'd go for beauty.

I voted Brains.

HandsomeRaj · Answer

I won't do without beauty but beauty without brains will be a disaster. So I prefer both (being present) :D

talloak · Answer

A brilliant but homely woman is far more interesting than a brainless beauty. After all, what in the world would you do together in between sex?

kangaru · Answer

Personality. It would be good to have a combination of both intelligence and personality. I would love to be intelligent and have good personality.  Beauty is temporary

HughR · Answer

I want both, although I prefer brains - imaginative, creative, fun-loving brains - over exceptional beauty.

slaapjeop · Answer

as long as a girl can be herself she's amazing in my eyes, I don't like people who wear a mask to pretend they're someone else to fit in.

tiredofwaiting · Answer

Brains for sure! There is nothing worst then an attractive girl who is easy on the eyes but dumb as hell.

Enideqa · Answer

I would have to say compatibility , brains or beauty mean nothing to me if we are not compatible. Interests, culture, goals and dreams.

jpinka · Answer

brains, beauty fades over time and then you will be stuck with ugly and stupid

cherokeeblake1 · Answer

I don't care how stupid she is I just want a pretty girlfriend! Even if she can't solve one + 1

feng_xian · Answer

I couldn't care less either A or B. Loyalty comes first.

Stark · Answer

Somewhere in the middle is good for me, or ya know.. both at the same time :P

Bvroon · Answer

Brains wins every time with me, I find intelligence to be very sexy.

Anonymous · Answer

I prefer brains.  Most men prefer beauty, in my experience. I've seen guys date some stuuuuuupid girls. Lol To be fair, I've seen some girls date stupid guys too.

theblondeguy · Answer

on tht one beauty because I don't really have  good personality myself :/

theblondeguy · Answer

other I would prefer pusssssayyyyy jk brains...b/ci like to talk and have convos...

MakeLoveNotWar · Answer

Beauty if I just wanna bang. Brains if I want to be friends and have good conversations. Both for a real relationship.

jacquesvol · Answer

Brains AND personality because physical appearance will go away but intelligence and personality stay.

JohnnySS · Answer

beauty. the more a certain quality a person has in themselves usually they will desire a similar compliment

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