Which are you attracted to more: brains, brawn, or beauty?

[Justneedtokno]

Personally I like brains and brawn

[Anonymous]

Looks attract me, personality makes me stay

What is the point of me dating a man who does not treat me right? I'd rather date a man who's average in everything but treats me well, than a man who's a 9 in all of the aforementioned departments but treats me like crap. But in terms of attraction, everyone notices looks first. if you're walking down the streets and I see an attractive man I'm gonna think: oh he's handsome" than: "oh I love his personality" because I do not know his personality yet. So, there must be some amount of physical attraction for me to start liking him. Manners, looks, and brains are important. Physical strength? Hmm not so much. I'd even like a guy who's lanky. For me, intelligence and face matters more. I'd first be attracted to him, and if he is dim-witted, it'd be a huge turn off, but if a guy is average and is very intelligent, I'd gladly take him over the attractive dude

[SenseiSeptred]

If it helps any, I am a good amount of all three of the criteria. Ask me some questions and I will answer them as best as possible.

[Anonymous]

The sad truth to this question, is the people are actually very simple to understand - they prefer those who the find physical attractive regardless of personality, character or intelligence.

[224466881010]

I think yes and no. I think guys start with attractiveness and then look for the other things in the pool of women they first find attractive.

If you're intelligent, have strong character and a great personality but I don't find you attractive, (assuming you were attracted to me) trust me, you don't want that relationship.

So yeah, I think guys kind of ignore all the girls they don't find attractive regardless of their positive traits. But then they're left with a group of attractive girls to them, and they make a choice based on other things the women have.

[Opinion Owner]

@224466881010 yeah that's the point -at the end of the day if your not attractive you don't make the cut

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

In a perfect world, I'll take all three... But life ain't perfect, neither are people so brains first, then it's a tie between brawn/beauty... But I mean "inner beauty" when I say that, cuz looks mean nothing if they're beautiful on the outside but ugly on the inside...

[CuriousJC]

This woman on the right used to be my girlfriend when I was 23. Her name was Ayana and on the left with her trainer Shelly. I met her in Planet Fitness, she was having an altercation with a few guys and I stepped in and defended her and I got punched in the face black eye and everything and she told me I didn't have to do that and she asked me why I did that and I told her because her beautiful face caught my attention and I don't like to see people being ganged up. We went on a few dates and people kept giving us the luck because I'm an overweight male and she's a She Hulk muscular type of woman. I didn't really give a damn what the people think about her because I found her beautiful and attractive. She gave me a kiss that I haven't had in a very very long time that didn't, and I asked her to be my girlfriend and she said yes. We dated for more than eight months straight and and I told her not to hold anything back in the relationship that includes emotions feelings and desires and she did just that. I kind of regretted it, Every now and then we would go for a jog and 45 minutes in the running I was exhausted while she was full of energy. 2 months more I have lost 30 lbs of running with her, and I had to keep mixing monster energy with Gatorade to keep my energy up while running with her. She was terrifying in the bedroom, and I finally understand what people saying about the madder the Hulk gets the stronger he becomes but with her it was the opposite the happier she was the stronger she became. four times in one night I just passed out from exhaustion and I woke up and made her breakfast while she was still asleep. I was limping most of the way in her apartment to the bathroom and to the kitchen. She always invited me to her house and we would spend hours and hours bonding and spending time with each other. I made her a stack of pancakes and a strawberry protein shake she only drink the protein shake she didn't really eat the pancakes. She eventually had some break up with me because her trainer got her into a muscular competition in Kansas and I gave her a picture of me and a bracelet that I ordered on Amazon saying that she's my queen and I'm her King. She gave me a big hug almost broke me in half kissed and she got on the bus while I wait goodbye never seen her after that. But yeah I choose muscular and beauty. That woman was the Beauty and the Beast all in one person.

[HighValue]

I am more attracted to a cute face and a logical thinker. Plenty of people think they are intelligent because of some degree that they had to be a bootlicker to obtain, but truly intelligent people are logical thinkers and problem solvers.

I do like physically fit/athletic girls as my second favorite, but my most favorite type is actually skinny petite very wimpy looking girls.

[Justneedtokno]

Honestly I understand.

[snowgirl123]

look, I have always become almost lost because of beauty, and I'm a girl who likes guys okay, I'm not a man. I can only daydream with a beautiful face and lovely body. however at the end of the day, I know that as long as I feel attracted to a man, even if he's not extremely handsome, the most important is the soul. and that: he loves me, is faithful, protective, gives attention, provides. look, beauty and intelligence can be fixed, but the soul is difficult, a person can only change if they want to, so I'd rather take a good soul and work on what is flexible.

[ohshee]

For sure it would be brains we all look at people on the outside I think that's who they are but the real beautiful person is the one on the inside that's where true beauty comes from and the outside is just an extra bonus. So it brains I get the Best of Both worlds

[Citizenkirk]

The way you ask this question brought an image to mind of connective tissue samples of brain, biceps muscle and ligaments remains and some unfortunate ladie's face Hanible Lector had worn after removing it from. his freshly killed cadaver, each off the three in a separate endless steel trade with blood spatter along the edges and the county coroner writing notes in her report about the results of the autopsy.
Maybe I'm just in strange mood today or filtering things a little different than usual but that's the image your question inspired in my head, when I read that, like someone had
dissected a person into the three parts and we're displaying the anatomical remains in separate stainless steel dishes after an autopsy.
I would like to think that a person is more than the sum of thierr parts, but I can't prove that to be fact, just wishful 🤔 thinking, 🧐 I suppose🩸

[Anonymous]

None of these actually…

I think “attractiveness” is your assessment of how well another aligns with your preferences and “must-haves” & “minimums” regarding the following 4 characteristics…

1. Body (face & figure)
2. Mind (intelligence & ideas)
3. Soul (personality/feelings/attitude, and extrovert vs. introvert)
4. Spirit (awareness/importance of God or supernatural)

What I find the most attractive is a woman with a naughty & sexy Mind, and a seductive & expressive Soul—someone who is confident in who she is and what she has to offer (which is what I consider to be true “sexiness”); and who enjoys teasing and exhibiting herself a bit, as well as indulging me in what I like and letting me know what she likes too.

[Rachel794]

Brains. Beauty and the Beast taught me to
never judge by appearances. I mean sure, physical attractiveness in dating does help, but looks are only scratching the surface. Do they have a personality you feel comfortable around?

[weysally]

neither any of what you say, it's eyes and personality, being start and able to hold a good conversation, being funny and make me laugh

[Pixel343]

that's what we all try for

[Justneedtokno]

Yes but you first have to be initially attracted to them to even talk to them

[weysally]

not necessarily, you could be just placed together like my husband now and I, we met just by sharing a table in a café, we just talked and went from there, for sex then yes a maybe

[Anonymous]

Well no one on here is going to be content choosing just one option.

I’ve dated very hot women in the past but it never lasted long. They got too many options, get bored quickly, can’t be trusted, I feel pressured to always have an A game and some of them use their looks for ulterior motives (take advantage of me). Most often i got my foot in the door with these pretty girls (I’ve been told I’m attractive myself) but they pulled exploitive friéndzone bullshit later because they are well practiced at it. I fucking hate women like that.

I also observed first hand how my dad married a very beautiful woman (my mom) and how she treated him like crap over the years. He’s afraid to do anything to displease her.

Personally I don’t expect a supermodel but just a woman I can be content sleeping with for the long term. Someone who’s on par with my intelligence (I’m not a genius but I know my IQ is above average) and above all understands and RESPECTS me.

[SkyCastle90]

Call me a zombie, because I'm all about the brains.

[Justneedtokno]

Yas cool response

[sensible27]

If this is the sort of joke I think it is, this is funny..

[Justneedtokno]

@sensible27 yes I like it legit

[Shizunk]

there is really only one correct choice

[Justneedtokno]

Aww yes

[Anonymous]

There's this meme that sums up women.
You have a triangle
At one point it says "atrractive"
At one point it says "sane"
And the 3rd point "smart"
Now the key is in life you'll only ever meet a woman at best that has 2 of the 3 points. So if you meet a woman who's all 3 you marry her. Lol

Beauty and nice. That's all I ask for. She doesn't even have to be a conventional beauty. Just not someone I wakeup midway through the night and scream and try to light her on fire. Ya know what I mean?

[shayes904]

I like kindness and caring, compassion and understanding, serenity and peace. Loyalty, honesty, and trust are nice to be around. I feel that it is important to feel attraction to the person in question. Good chemistry helps relationships. These brains, brawn, or beauty individually or all together would not be enough for me without the things I mentioned above.

[Lionman95]

It´s a mixture of beauty and brain to me because if she´s really smart and not physically attractive at all, chances are small that I notice her.
On the other hand if she´s really beautiful but also really dumb at the same time I might notice but leave very soon because I need to able to have a good conservation with her build up a deeper interest that later leads into a relationship.

[t-8900]

I need brains and beauty in equal measure. She doesn't have to be a goddess or a PhD. She doesn't need a certification to prove to me she's smart. There are different kinds of smart. Conversation that is stimulating is great.

[sensible27]

Everything is fixable, so I don't know what I want. If I had to optimise for efficiency I'd (might) go for someone passionately kind.. everything else feels like an instrumental goal (maybe). (Although an argument can be made that someone smart or who can frequently change their minds is the optimum)

[Gwenhwyfar]

Brains. Brawn is basically one form of beauty for guys.

[DizzyDesii]

Beauty as in face. A handsome face please. I dont care much about brawn but a toned body is more than enough. No need for muscles. He doesn't have to have brains but he shouldn't be a dumb blonde either lmao

[sarahlumpkin]

As a straight woman, beauty may be better rendered than appearance. I believe this and brains before brawn and I believe this is an extant preference rather than because its what I got.