Are you more into looks or brains?

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QStorm · Accepted Answer

Great question! I honestly don't believe that one can be in place and not the other. If someone has the intellectual capacity to contribute to my goals and purpose in life by helping me create the life I desire they are beautiful all day long. Why? Because first of all, they don't have to be there with you. Building a life with someone is a choice. You are there, because choose to be. Beauty/good looks can be defined in so many ways besides the typical physical aspect.
If my brainy lover accompanies me through the good and bad as I journey through the life... that's a beautiful person. If my brainy lover, carries me through the storms of life when I want to give up, that's a beautiful person. If my brainy lover, is accepting of my imperfections, that's a beautiful person.
Anyone that's willing to meet a person where they are in life and say, " Hey, its you I want for the rest of my days!" That's a beautiful person.
It's all about perception... We all have some degree of intellect. But, at the end of the day it's what we contribute to another person's life that will determine the beauty in which they see in us.
As humans, we try to act on beauty/ good looks first by nature. But, we all have the intelligence to know that true beauty encompasses so much more therefore, it cannot be truly determined in the beginning. A terrible attitude or mindset can hide behind good looks and awesome brains/ intellect.
Therefore, we must be open to understand that the true beauty has to be displayed over time and is usually everlasting. It only gets better with time as we allow the person to evolve. The intellect will develop as well. They both compliment each other nicely.
As I stated earlier, we all have a brain and varying degrees of intellect. Even lacking the latter, you can contribute to someone's life ( think of people with mental challenges who bring a smile to your face) and be beautiful! A good looking person or a brainy person can both contribute to your life ( for example financially) but have the character of a roach! By being dishonest, abusive, unfaithful, etc.
So, never give up on living your happily ever after because you stopped to buy eye candy and never bothered to look at the ingredient list. The ingredient list will assist you in determining how that individual will compliment your life. If we remove the blinders we will eventually see that brains without beauty is not a true reality. When you accept that, its an amazing discovery!
JMHO❤️

DementedCutie342 · Accepted Answer

Looks might get my attention but brains and personality are what really attracts me to a guy. I've been really attracted to some guys that weren't the best looking. But they were so smart, interesting, witty and passionate and they had depth. They drew me in like a moth to a flame. We would talk for hours about any and everything and I would get so turned on talking to them.

Nis09 · Accepted Answer

In my opinion is more important the mind ( u can share ideas, opinions and learn from his experience and life) with someone than a nice face. But, even if is a genious it's pointless if don't have empathy. Because if u don't recognize the feelings of others, u couldn't show or express ur own feelings.

Rexnine9 · Accepted Answer

I take Brains far before , even at the sacrifice or "Settle". She has to be super intelligent to get me. Lessor Intelligence Can be compensated with A modest but A sinc. ere enthused drive learn how to
Live a truly rich happy life.
The Beauty in the smile and kiss the fire and gentle presense in her eyes. I actually prefer dating , loving, living with brilliant women.
Also sense of humor is closelyy, I believe, linked to Intelligence..
I love big ass 4X4 trucks, And super physically hot women. But I would rather not have those
time eating maintenancee costs of that truck and that Ride. Always eating into my time, brain and retirement fund

:-)
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bigbang101 · Accepted Answer

70 percent brains 30 percent looks... (expectation) 50 50 (would be a appreciated)  30 percent brains  70 percent looks (Reality)

tony_baloney · Answer

It's a bit more complicated than that for me. Gotta go both ways. Wish you'd specify what you mean by brains... I'm torn between if you're saying it's personality or just intelligence. I've met smart women who were snobby, sweet women who not very smart, and vise versa... that being said, I prefer personality, but attraction is also very important. There has to be attraction no matter what, but if I find someone even only a little bit attractive, who checks all my boxes in what makes you happy, they only get hotter by the second anyway. Looks aren't forever, they kinda just get your foot in the door lol

DeBoss0527 · Answer

Honestly both I want someone to be fairly pretty/handsome (I have no preference), but I am not very level headed so I need someone who can talk sense into me. I want them to be smart, but I don't care if they went to college or graduated high school even as long as they aren't as dumb as rocks. I have to ask though if someone doesn't make your eyes light up when you see them why would you want to be in a relationship with them? If you can't have an intelligent, heartfelt, level headed conversation why would you want to be in a relationship with them? You need both to be able to have a happy, healthy relationship is my point.

Rainie_ · Answer

I’ve been with a very good looking guy with no brains and couldn’t stand it after a while. Tried the brains but not looks but couldn’t get past kissing so that was a no. Now I have someone with both looks and brains which is perfect. So have to say both matter.

Lilyanony · Answer

I would love to date someone with brains but I always feel inferior to them and I have a problem with it as I've constantly been made to feel stupid growing up. So I ended up dating looks. Now I'm alone because I can't get along with looks because looks wants to be looked after... and I don't have money to look after them.

spunkygiraffe · Answer

Brains, it is great when you can have meaningful conversations about interesting things with someone. Looks are one thing, that's the outside layer, the thing you can appreciate from a distance. I think getting to meet the other part of a person, their actual personality and intellect, is more fun.

RayBandz · Answer

The organism does whatever it can to survive in the environment. So it depends on the resources that can be used by other organisms to maximize one’s ability to survive in the environment. Short Answer : No, most people are into resources. Looks and brains might indicate it or not. You have to investigate

djmzes · Answer

Simple You must have brain to see brain U must not have eyes to see beauty...

Anonymous · Answer

Looks fade, so people too obsessed over it lack the brains I want. Brains are way likely to last longer and it's what is more important for success and survival. Unconsciously, the importance of looks are associated with how much you want to fuck somebody. It's selfish and flat out stupid. Comparable to that of wild beasts who lack brains but are desperate to fuck anything they can.

Anonymous · Answer

Looks need to catch my attention, brains need to keep me interested

Pizza_lover159 · Answer

Both. No way of having one without the other. If I can't wish to have sex with you and kiss all your body and face , your personality doesn't matter. And the other way around. If you are hot but an asshole.. then Its not gonna work. Im honest here. Im not going to say "The beauty is beneath" because I have two hungry eyes and a smart brain.

mono_gram · Answer

I wouls say a mix between both because not everyone who has the brains is good looking and vice versa. I think there should be a balance between the two. Otherwise it would be too overwhelming and burdensome.

ChgzDaniel · Answer

Brains but good looks are also a necessity. What's the point of dating someone your not attracted to.

ichighost · Answer

You don't know somebody mind until after you see and talk to them. You can look pretty and that's going to get my attention but if you're a dummy then you'll lose my attention a little bit faster

Luke123456 · Answer

Both , I feel like when people say brains they're the biggest liars. women dont want to seem shallow so they give a kind answer. I respect the girls who are honest when they say looks it both. I need both , I can't date or be physical with someone I'm not attracted to. I've been with a girl who is very physically attractive , however had nothing but stones between the ears and omg I've a came , I really don't care about her because she has nothing going for her but looks

WhiteNoise · Answer

It's all about the personality for me. I've found that with all of the crushes I've had, it started with an infatuation with their personality and that caused me to see their looks as attractive.

slatyb · Answer

Intelligence is attractive to guys who aren't afraid of intelligent women. Looks can often be improved greatly by better clothing, a stylish haircut, and confidence. I'll take the smart mousy girl over the shallow fashion plate any day.

princessfromjupiter · Answer

50/50 - looks are obviously what draws you in in the first place but trust me I’ve met some guys that were very hot but very stupid and as soon as I found out (and it’s always sooner than later) I was turned off ALOTALOT — if not completely 😂

Koki11 · Answer

Brains all the time and looks clothes can improve that etc but brains lol n i like guys who dont knlw they are hot n most braniac guys are overlooked n jow amazing is it to date a guy that knows more than me

ChurchOfIron · Answer

I'm more into looks. Naturally, as a bodybuilder. My entire life revolves around aesthetics. Idgaf if a chick is smart or not. As long as she's entertaining and fun to look at, that's enough. Smart chicks are a pain in the ass, in my experience.

candycanehearts · Answer

Omg ik ur supposed to say brains but I don't know dumb guys are kinda cute and i think im probably attracted to people for looks before their personality

Helloitzapartaih · Answer

Pretty sure most people are into both. Never met someone who completely preferred looks only and didn't get bored , or someone who preferred brains only and didn't care for looks.

Moss777 · Answer

I think it's a 70% looks to 30% personality for men and the opposite for women. But it does depend whether you are looking for a long term parter or a fling

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Brains.  Cliche as it sounds, looks can only go so far before it gets boring. I've dated some out of shape guys that were intelligent and had great personalities

OnlyYouKnowThat · Answer

I'm into both equally. There needs to be physical attraction but I also need someone who is intelligent. I just can't stand being around mundane, slow people.

Engageme · Answer

Definitely personality (I realize not the question but it's true) but if I had to choose between your options I'd say looks. I am not worried about brains as long as they have a good heart

Wammu · Answer

I'll come for the booty, pursue for the good personality, stay for the conversation and companionship, marry for the good values and being the woman at MY side.

MelaninDoll · Answer

Brains! There's this guy at my new school and he's so outspoken about his political views and I immediately developed a crush on him because he's so smart! The fact that he's handsome is a bonus!

Alice2398 · Answer

I don't like know it all, smart asres. I like smart guys who are humble about it but I'm I like personality most of all, if he has a good heart, he's won me over.

DesertCreature · Answer

Braiiinnss...

anmari2001 · Answer

Zombies care more about brain than look  Be cool, be a zombie

McMuffin91 · Answer

Looks. If the girl is smart she will probably never settle and use her "woman parts" to gain power and respect. Sad but true.

Somber · Answer

Both dont think i could date an ugly smart dude but i couldn't stand pretty stupid boys. I mean i like looking at them but that's about it...

YourSweetLifeSaver · Answer

Brains because a guy's brain get's more appealing and hot the more knowledge he earns as for his face no products are that effective to last his whole life span

kespethdude · Answer

For women (in Boston anyway), thy don't give a rats ass about a guy's intelligence. Only looks and money matter here.

NEOTUNIA2U · Answer

Before I said intelligence but there have to be some level of attraction there first like that guy who I am drawn to..

cosplaygirl · Answer

Why not both? I honestly love someone’s personality first. If you can make me laugh thats the most amazing thing for me

Maebo · Answer

I fall for someones vibe instead of their look or intelligence level

AlienParasite · Answer

Both container and continent must be attractive for me, other way it doesn't work.

coolbreeze · Answer

Looks fade with time. The mind is a terrible thing to waste.

ArtsyGirlyGirl · Answer

If I had to choose one or the other if choose looks. But really I don't care about either. Personality and values are the two most important to me.

xkildy · Answer

If you have a brain chances are you are born before year 2000 😜😜😜

Anonymous · Answer

For me it is a little bit of both. He can’t be completely ugly, but I also don’t want a guy that is extremely attractive. He doesn’t have to be really smart, but he can’t be completely stupid either.

humor_me · Answer

Brains. Looks change over time but smarts and knowledge last a long, long time.

IU_092 · Answer

Both! But you look at the person first and then decide to get to know em.

Anonymous · Answer

Both 😅 I kinda need to be attracted to them physically but my standards aren’t high either. My boyfriend is adorable but also kinda chunky. But I adore him AND he's SMART...

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Brains, but I'd probably prefer *some* looks also... LOL

Dinklex3 · Answer

Looks and personality.  My significant other doesn't have to be book smart.

StellaElvoris · Answer

Brains, but if they're always a mess and smells, then I'm more likely to avoid them.

Anonymous · Answer

So many "brains" answers among the women. I have a hard time believing that. They'll never choose a genius that is a deformed person with zero attractiveness. They'll pick the sculpted perfection over him with less intelligence.

Kru2020 · Answer

If they're smart that awesome all my past girlfriends have been 4.0 college students. But... If they look terrible then its probably a no go.

Pamina · Answer

It's not a competition, I don't have to choose one over the other.

rebelsunshine · Answer

I'm more into brains, provided they pass my minimum standard for looks.

pooper89 · Answer

He has to have both. He can be the hottest dude walking the earth but if he’s not intelligent, I’m not interested

Wolframium · Answer

Brains help with some…deficiencies on looks, that's for sure. But no matter how good the look is, if there is no brain, I'm also not there.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

A little of both. But brains... not in the zombie sense. :-p

inmensus · Answer

People are going to keep asking this question when we already know what answer to expect... Everyone is going to say either "brains" or "both" when in real life it's the opposite.

Guyofallguys2 · Answer

If looks were on the left of spectrum and brains were right, I'd either go extremely left or middle or only slightly right.  I'd date a 10/10 dummy, a 6/10 smartiepants, or maybe a 4.5/10 savant.

BriaToWet · Answer

It’s so ironic how all the ugly people are saying “looks” lmao

xad637 · Answer

Put it this way, a good looking idiot with no sense of humour and a lack of kindness won't be attractive to me. A 'bad looking' person who is funny, smart and kind will be more attractive overall to me than the good looking idiot.

MeganTheButterfly · Answer

Definitely brains. I'm not sure I could date a dumb guy

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