Which is worse for a male, being skinny or being bald?

[Alonso14]

Further to my recent question about natural bodybuilding being a scam and my previous questions about being unable to get a date because of being unattractive, I've been considering a cycle of steroids to see if I can become more attractive that way. Unfortunately I suffer from male pattern baldness so any usage of steroids is going to result in rapid hair loss.

Would I look better with more muscle mass but no hair? Or am I better off being skinny and having hair? Which of those is more off putting to women?

[Xdaemon]

You can work out and gain weight to combat being too "skinny". Trust me, age will probably take care of that... Don't use steroids either. That will come back to haunt you in middle age (or earlier). I've been working out 22 years and I've seen a number of guys who used to use have heart attacks, kidney or liver problems, look 10 years older than what they are, and have other problems ... Steroids are for wimps. Don't go there.

I started developing slow male pattern baldness at 17. It isn't too bad, but I started having recede lines in the front by 19, and my crown (top of head) slowly started to get thin over my 20s. I have maybe 85% - 90% of my hair still, but I buzz it down close to the skin and I like the way I look... So does my wife of 9 years.

So, my advice is to keep fit (naturally!) and when you start to really lose your hair, shave it off. Don't be ashamed of going bald, it happens to a lot of us. First step is to be confident in yourself. Don't focus too much on looks, you will get older and start to lose them like everyone else. Focus on you, not how you appear. Hope this helps you.

[Anonymous]

It largely depends on your age. I think older women are going to be more accepting of baldness than younger women (unfortunately I'm 24 and already have significant hair thinning). You can always build muscle the old-fashioned way, it just takes awhile, but baldness lasts forever for many men (things like propecia don't work for a lot of guys). If your young, I think being skinny is better than being bald.

[Alonso14]

While I disagree that I could put on significant muscle mass without steroids, other than that, I think you have made a good point. I'm only 21 so being noticeably bald now or soon would probably be very bad. Furthermore I'll be bald anyway later so I could just try steroids then when I have much less to lose haha.

[Opinion Owner]

Just how much muscle do you want to put on? From what I've heard, most woemn don't like super muscular guys, they just want them to be in good shape, just a little more muscle than average, I've heard several say that they don't even care about a 6 pack for instance.

[Alonso14]

A little more muscular than average would be fine, the problem is I am very skinny (see pics). So to make me a little more muscular than average would take a lot of muscle. Also having a visible six pack is little to do with muscle mass, its dependent on body fat levels.

[Opinion Owner]

Neither of your profile pictures really show how skinny you are, and your avatar pic is too small to tell. I should think that a year of doing a full weightlifting routine 2-3 times a week while on a high protein diet should get you where you want to be.

[Alonso14]

I've done 7 months and the only weight I gained was fat, or at least most of it was, maybe one or 2 lbs of muscle. Its made no noticeable difference.

[Anonymous]

well from your one picture that partly shows your body, I don't think you are TOO skinny. I really don't like lanky guys, but you're not tooo lanky. anyways, since I really don't like guys who are too skinny, I'd rather have a bald guy with muscles than a skinny guy with a full head of hair. I think bald is sexy anyways

[Anonymous]

Well, I suppose technically speaking a guy can easily gain weight but it's harder to reverse hair loss (unless you have one of those follicle implants).

Personally, though, I don't find skinny guys attractive and I actually have a weird thing for guys with receding hairlines lol so I vote skinny is worse.

[Alonso14]

There is nothing easy about gaining muscle. I could gain fat easily but that isn't really what I want to do.

[Opinion Owner]

Compared to reversing hair loss it's a hell of a lot easier.

[Alonso14]

I guess. That doesn't make it easy though. 95%+ of guys in gyms are skinny, skinny-fat, fat, chubby, slim or average. The vast majority of men never get anywhere near a muscular physique.

[Anonymous]

bald.

... dude, you need to get a grip, from your photos you just look like a regular normal guy, all your issues are in your head, think of all the people in this world struggling to lose weight, if you have a fast metabolism and never gain weight you should be f***ing thankful.

[Alonso14]

Ahhh okay. I'll be more thankful about being unattractive enough that no woman would date me.

[Anonymous]

Your issue is self-esteem, not your looks. Bas Rutten is bald and look at him- he made Brian Urlacher back down after the latter wanted to fight.

But yeah, regardless of if you go bald or are skinny, there will still be that nagging insecurity buried inside that you'll have to take care of.

[Alonso14]

I never said bald men are less intimidating. I said they are less attractive.

I didn't ask for advice on 'nagging insecurity' issues, but on which is more detrimental to a males appearance our of being bald or skinny.

[martyfellow]

Worthwhile women don't think there's something unattractive about early baldness. Believe me, I started losinghair at 24, so I know!

After all, there's nothing short of drugs and surgery you can do about it, and they know you're a natural sort of guy when you don't resort to that!

[Levin]

problem is your mind, or how you perceive reality. No amount of weight training or baldness miracle cure is going to alter that. Until you stop believing all the garbage your mind is spewing and churning over, and all the crap you are selectively listening to 'out there', naught will change.

[Alonso14]

That doesn't answer my question.

[Levin]

not all women mind balding or being skinny. On the other hand, having a horrible, negative attitude, is a universal 'p****' repellent.

[Alonso14]

Whatever.

[Modernhippy]

trust me no matter how ugly you are the reason your not able to find a date isn't because of your looks.

[Alonso14]

Why has nobody, online or otherwise, ever come up with another reasonable reason why I can't get a date then?

Furthermore I was able to get girls to agree to dates and give me their numbers using online dating but could only manage to do so while using someone else's pictures. This was using exactly the same profile and exactly the same messages.

[kheserthorpe]

So try using a bald guy with 15 lbs more muscle vs skinny guy without.

[Alonso14]

It wouldn't be a fair test. As obviously they would have different faces lol.

[djvtech]

Dont post selfie mirror photos on your dating profile then.

[Alonso14]

So you've given up telling me its my lack of 'game' then?

What about when I try to meet women in person, do my self taken mirror shots count me out then too?

[sovetskii13]

Probably neither because being skinny doesn't necessary mean better or worst for everyone. And a guy being bald is not bad for all. Some guys look great being bald.

[juliarachels1]

Being bald, I'd rather be skinny than being bald. ;-)

Are you bald? You should Try vitamins called Reloxe because I know someone used it and really worked!

[Anonymous]

Neither. Some bald guys are sexy and I like slimmer guys.

[Alonso14]

In general though most bald guys are unattractive and most women dislike men with less muscle mass than them.

[repetron]

Well shoot, I'm out of luck. Receding hairline and everyone calls me skinny

[xzinax2]

well the worst thing would be using steroids.

[Alonso14]

You wouldn't know if someone had previously used steroids, most of the time you wouldn't even know if they were using them at the time, unless they told you of course.

[xzinax2]

it doesn't matter.i'm talking about your health. talk to a doctor about what you can do to gain weight,don't just do the worst thing possible.

[Alonso14]

Don't worry. Steroids really aren't as bad as most people think. Everyone on this planet seems to think if you touch a drug you will instantly drop dead. Almost any drug is safe so long as you don't abuse it.

[xzinax2]

and everyone who uses a drug seems to think they're somehow different from everyone that ruined their life with them

[Alonso14]

Well I've previously managed to use other drugs without having any noticeable long term negative effects so I'm not worried about it.

[Anonymous]

BALD IS THE WORST FOR SURE...

[Alonso14]

I'll be bald in like 5 years anyway though haha

[Anonymous]

I love skinny men, so bald is worse...

[tiredofwaiting]

Being bald is worse at least you can tone up.

[Anonymous]

I'll go with bald. Skinny can be attractive.

[beeblo]

Bald

[Anonymous]

being bald!

[Alonso14]

I'll be bald in like 5 years anyway though haha

[Anonymous]

Bald