Girls, how would you feel if your boyfriend got bashed in front of you?

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what would you think of him?. you are with him out. suddenly for some small reason he gets physical with a guy one on one. but the other guy happens to be much stronger and faster with some boxing skills. your boyfriend gets hit on the face and nose and he is on the ground. the other guy still on top of him punching and kicking him. your boyfriend's face is covered in blood. and a lot of people gathers and watches. WOULD you FEEL EMBARASSED THAT HE GOT BASHED? THAT HE COULDN'T EVEN FIGHT ONE GUY? THAT HE GOT KICKED? WOULD you FEEL EMBARASSED TO TELL IT TO YOUR FRIENDS(GIRLS)? OR IF THEY KNEW IT FORM OHTERS? WOULD you SLOWLY START TO MAKE A DISTANCE FROM HIM AS you WOULD FEEL HIM TO BE A WEAK GUY WHO COULD NOT PROTECT you IF NEEDED sO FINALLY GET SEPARATED?

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nineteenninetyfour · Accepted Answer

Yeah I agree with a lot of these answers. I would be scared out of my mind if my boyfriend got beat up. I would absolutely run to his side and make sure he is okay and take care of him. I hate when people fight and I would likely threaten to call the police and may take action in doing that if I knew that my boyfriend was not Responsible for the fight (and I would not want him to start a fight anyways as you suggested for the situation).

I wouldn't be embarrassed, no, but I would feel bad for him because guys get confidence in being strong and tough. I know that would take a toll on a guys' ego probably so I would feel bad, but if he started it I might say hey, you started it.

Although I would be VERY concerned that my man couldn't take care of me and protect me and our future children. That is VERY, EXTREMELY important to me. And I mean that. I would not break up with him for that, but would expect him to make sure he is able to take care of someone if they attack me/us or intrude in our home, etc. I don't expect many robbers, etc. to have boxing skills per say though.

kmarie89 · Accepted Answer

I would not be embarassed that he got beat up. Depending on the circumstances of the fight I may be angry at him for getting in the fight in the first place as I hate violence.

However, if the other guy started the fight I would not be upset with him for defending himself even if it was not done well.

That being said, there is no way I would stand by while he was being beaten up. I would jump in and stop the fight any way I could.

If we are talking about my boyfriend, I wouldn't tell people about the incident though. Not because I am ashamed of him, but because I know how prideful he is and that he would never want anyone to know he could not hold his own in a fight. No matter what the circumstances were.

Siobhan85 · Accepted Answer

Like a lot of the other answers here - I wouldn't think any less of a boyfriend for 'losing' a fight, I don't agree with starting fights or violence in general so if he started the fight THEN I would think less of him and would be embarrassed but I wouldn't just stand by and watch someone I care about being hurt either. I would phone the police, scream or even jump in and try to put a stop to it, whatever the circumstances.

I would make sure to look after him. I would be furious that a group of people just gathered and watched and did nothing to stop it, but I wouldn't be embarrassed.

Cookie1995 · Accepted Answer

I got jumped by a group of guys at school while I was trying to stop them pushing a girl around - I gut very hurt but would do the same again if I saw a girl in trouble. I was only wearing speedos from swimming and was on way to shower so that didn't help me as I was barefoot etc and the guys all where wearing Goth boots etc.

Jack00700 · Accepted Answer

Any reason your using caps lock towards the end? And did this happen to you for real? I would dump her if she did that man, she doesn't care for your wellbeing

SunshineLelek · Answer

First off, I would tell the guy fighting him that the cops are on the way (even if I didn't call them lol) .

I can honestly say I would feel really bad for my boyfriend because I know for men, that could be taken as a huge blow to their confidence and masculinity. Deep down, I may be just a little embarrassed that he lost the fight just because it's instinctive for women to want a protector. Women tend to want a man that can hold his own; mentally and physically. It provides a certain comfort level and makes you feel secure and totally safe with him...but if he gets beat up like that, it kinda inevitably shows you that you are not as safe with him as you would like to think. Because given the event that someone was trying to hurt or rape you, he sincerely may physically not be able to protect you. Now, I wouldn't voice this because I know it would make him feel terrible, but those are my genuine feelings. I wouldn't tell all of my friends out of respect for his feelings.

ArabianPwincess197 · Answer

I'd be really angry he got bashed and find something to hit the other person with. Got to defend him if he's in trouble. Who says it's has to be the man doing all the fighting and standing up. What sort of girlfriend would I be if I got embarrassed if he lost in a fight. I'd be a good girlfriend if I stood by him in good and bad.

AngieeBanjii · Answer

Actually this happened to me.. I jumped on top to Sheild him:/ lol actually it was a group of guys I think they got freaked out because I gripped on so tightly that three guys trying to pull me off couldn't I dug my feet into the ground for anchorage  and they stepped back must of been the adrenalin :P Id say...Extremely protective ;) don't worry she's properly just embarrassed that she didn't do more for you.. When she should of..

Solitude2 · Answer

I would literally be crushed!I would cry my heart out hysterically and at the top of my voice to attract as many people as possible to help my poor guy while I punch and slap the culprit as much as I could on his head and chest.And I mean it! I just hope that the culprit won't hit me back since I'm petite :(

bellegirl16 · Answer

First I would feel very sorry and worry for him.  I would try to help in anyway I could. But, I must be shallow, because deep down I would be embarrased.  I wouldn't tell him, but ya I woud be embarrased. I wouldn't leave him over it though.  I would just feel like I need to protect myself.

snowangle · Answer

In that situation, I'd do one of two things:

1. I would cry hysterically and not leave his side. I'd do my best to nurse him back to health and reassure him that I don't think any less of him.

2. I'd jump in and defend him. I'm trained in self defense and am not totally helpless when it comes to fighting. He may be embarrassed that I'm trying to fight for him, but he can deal with it. When I love someone, I can't stand seeing them hurt.

In any case, no, I wouldn't be embarrassed or anything.

katiesmuff · Answer

I think the rule is that you now belong to the guy who did the bashing! LOL

523206720 · Answer

Of course not. I'd feel sad and I'd try to take care of him.

simplythebest · Answer

No I could never distance myself from him because of that!  I would try to jump in, if my mans in a fight I'm naturally involved.

aMuse · Answer

If you started it, they'd think you were a chump...

05Jueey · Answer

That would hurt my heart. I wouldn't think less of him

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't think anything of it.

Anonymous · Answer

Fighting is stupid.

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