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boyfriend and I been together 4 years. Good guy a honest one from what I’ve known. He’s not big on social media and Instagram caused some problems so he’s off of it for a year or two now. Anyways he watches YouTube shorts so I noticed on his phone he had tik tok downloaded, but wasn’t logged in it was at the main screen for when you first open the app. I asked him about it and he said he downloaded it and said it was the same and said whatever. I said you had it before and he said no I didn’t, (I think he had it years ago but I don’t remember clearly) anyways yeah is that weird?

I'm 19 (F) my sister is 16. We grew up cuddling all the time. (I'm in general just a cuddly person I find it calming and comforting). I've never thought much of it before but recently it came up in conversation with someone I'm close to they said it was weird so now I'm unsure. What do you think weird or not weird?

Who's your priority?

We've been together for a while. He has a very hard time opening up, emotionally. I've told him I love him, but he hasn't been able to say it back. I feel like his "you are a sweetheart" response to something I've said that's a little too "heavy" in the love-emotion-area is him basically telling me he doesn't feel the same way and never will, and that he wants me to shut up. I'm really just not getting a very positive vibe from his statement at all, but I'm wondering if maybe I'm wrong? Maybe "you are a sweetheart" is actually a good thing?

I’m used to dealing with stupid people in customer service but it doesn’t happen often & has been for the past week. Last week, I went to an ice cream shop, order at drive through & when the guy hands me my cup he says “we usually pile on the toppings but this ice cream had a lot of toppings”. I just look at him & grab it, he says have a good day and I drive off. It just irked me it’s like mind your business. Second one was this past week at a pollo tropical drive through, order at speaker then go to window & ask him for a sauce. He looks at me & goes “you’re making me do more work”. And I said “excuse me?” I knew I heard right but he was kind of mumbling then he repeats it again & says “ that’s making me do more work no I’m just kidding”. And I said “excuse that’s very rude remember I’m a customer I’m not your friend”. And he apologizes, I grabbed the food from him, make sure it looks right & then he hands the sauce. I then say “I’m going to your manager” & drive off. Last one was Friday at a GameStop, I’ve dealt with this specific guy before & he was pretty accommodating the last time but Friday he irked me. I call in & ask if a new game that released that day was in stock. He says there’s plenty in stock & I go to pick it up. He asked if I pre ordered and said no I called in right before coming in to see if there was any. He goes on about how he’s shocked there’s so many copies in stock for the console I was asking for. Asked if I wanted to pre order future games, said no & he suggested pre ordering to ensure I will get a new game on release day. I said I called in anyway to see if you all had it before coming in & wasting my time he said pre ordering would save me having to call in. I reiterated I’m familiar with the pre order process.

What’s ‘digital blackface?’ And why is it wrong when White people use it?

Maybe you shared that viral video of Kimberly “Sweet Brown” Wilkins telling a reporter after narrowly escaping an apartment fire, “Ain’t nobody got time for that!”

Perhaps you posted that meme of supermodel Tyra Banks exploding in anger on “America’s Next Top Model” (“I was rooting for you! We were all rooting for you!”). Or maybe you’ve simply posted popular GIFs, such as the one of NBA great Michael Jordan crying, or of drag queen RuPaul declaring, “Guuuurl…”

If you’re Black and you’ve shared such images online, you get a pass. But if you’re White, you may have inadvertently perpetuated one of the most insidious forms of contemporary racism.

You may be wearing “digital blackface.”

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