Questions

As an infj im kinda realizing that im not too keen on small talk. Been Like this practically my whole life. I don’t really mind it in the beginning when talking with people but eventually i would want to delve a bit deeper into topics.

wbu?

I know some women will not want to reply to this, but I know me and a lot of men will honestly want to know the answer to this.
​Is this statement correct: 'Women love to feel the strength of a man she feels safe around and fully trusts.'
​After reflecting on things, I realized I am honestly a bit confused about how much assertiveness women actually prefer behind closed doors. I know everyone is different, but when it comes to that connection, do women generally lean towards a high-intensity, take-charge energy or slow, gentle romance?
​From my experience in one-off encounters, women prefer the first option. However, when in a relationship, this isn't really the case, and slow and passionate is preferred (according to my last relationship anyway).
​In my head, a person will go purely for excitement and what feels best in a one-off encounter, as there are no repercussions and you most likely won't see that person again. Therefore, you go purely for the most thrilling dynamic for you. Is there a shame/shyness that comes later in relationships? Do women actually prefer that bolder, more intense energy?
​Is this correct? And if so, why?
​I've added a poll below, but if you're comfortable please add a comment.