Emotional Highs and Lows of ADHD in a Relationship

[Mustachekitteh]

No I do not have the focus level to write it out. Nor do I know how to actually write it out. Trust me if I tried I doubt any of you would understand what I mean. Plus I'm not sure how to explain it in away most would understand. Though I will say the emotional aspect of ADHD is just like this scene from Tangled.

I kid you not I do this A LOT. Which I question how my boyfriend even deals with it. Since one second I'm all hyper. Then the next I'm hating myself and saying I'm a horrible human being. :D Yes most will think this is being bipolar though being bipolar can be like the emotional part of ADHD maybe. Still it's not the same. To me this hyper and happy extreme just feels a billion times different. Which I'm sure my boyfriend even gives me the same look as the dude in the video. :D

[UtopianLobotomy]

Its acute bipolar - or it can be the result of a tbi, but manic depression has many different classification the illness could exist along with the adhd, or you could have some PTSD which causes cortisol imbalances that could explain the mood swings as well. You may have some repressed memories that are triggered without you even knowing it.
So there are two bipolar people I knew, they had a relationship one would open up be witty and romantic and just vulnerable around his mate when he was manic, when she was manic she thought he wasn’t good enough for her sometimes and would go to online dating sights flirt with other guys when he wasn’t around etc, when she was depressed she felt insecure about being with him thinking he was cheating or that he was too good for her. When he was depressed…he felt like she wasn’t good enough for him sometimes, but he never flirted or cheated. Co-dependency follows bipolar people no matter how hard it is.

[Mustachekitteh]

I don't trust what you say unless you have some degree in psychology. Which I already know a lot of things come with adhd and ASD.

Honestly that just sounds like they didn't trust each other at all. Though I'm not bipolar and adhd people do have unpredictable mood swings.

[UtopianLobotomy]

Its not a common symptom of ADHD, however people with a ADHD have a greater chance of having some variation of Bipolar. Do you have anything traumatic in your past that you tend to avoid thinking about?

[UtopianLobotomy]

I don't have a degree in psychology, just took a few classes in college and I have TBI PTSD Bipolar and apparently ADHD. I think these categories are a bit arbitrary and need improvement in classifying because there is so much we don't know about neurology, the human brain.

[Mustachekitteh]

No I avoid anything that has to do with my learning disorder. Plus I don't become depressed and again more severe adhd people are overly sensitive and can't control their emotions or thoughts when upset.

I've already had doctors test me for bipolar. They were all negative.

[UtopianLobotomy]

Well these tests are not conclusive, you would have to do a live in study or become monitored for 30 days. Anyway, birth control drugs will effect hormonal levels, throwing many of them into extreme imbalances which in turn could also have a great impact on mood. Anyways. Peace

[Mustachekitteh]

Though to me and how I interact with my boyfriend. Makes me just think those 2 people didn't trust each other 100%.

I was diagnosed with adhd when i was 3-4 years old. So birth control stuff is ruled out for me.

[AmongTheApples]

I have a degree. He's wrong, and I could actually explain what you are talking about, why you do it, and how it differs from people diagnosed as being bipolar or having PTSD. And while I'm at it, the other guy talking about a cure sounded asinine.

[UtopianLobotomy]

@AmongTheApples I never mentioned a cure. Please specify what I am wrong about. You are welcome to private message me.

[AmongTheApples]

I didn't say that you talked about a cure. I said the other guy as in not you. You suggested that her take could mean that she has bipolar or some variant of bipolar and ADHD or PTSD. It doesn't. It's fairly common for people with ADHD to behave the way that she described.

[UtopianLobotomy]

@AmongTheApples K bra, but it doesn't rule out anything I suggested either.

[UtopianLobotomy]

@AmongTheApples Take note when she was diagnosed

[AmongTheApples]

Yes, it does. I know what she really meant, and it is common with people that have ADHD. There's nothing here.

[AmongTheApples]

I will agree with you though that there is overlap between disorders, especially personality disorders. It's actually a common complaint and something that they are supposedly going to address in the next edition of the DSM. But, based strictly on what she's said so far, it is not relevant to her case.

[Mustachekitteh]

@AmongTheApples Yeah I'm not good at explaining these kinds of things in great detail. I mostly posted the video meaning about how one minute she's all hyper and happy. Then the next she's hating herself and just kicking her self over and over. Then going back to being hyper and happy. That's how it feels for me. Since when my disorder ends up causing me to hurt someone without knowing it. I feel horrible and start kicking myself like that. Then I forget about it really fast. Mainly due to a new idea popping up in my head.

[ClariceOwen23]

I enjoyed reading this. Short but describes the experience well enough. I can even relate sometimes. Good take

[Hrona]

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[Inlex]

My name is Ray and I... eeh... what was it... support this adhd... ehh.. message.

[KawaiiPie67]

I <3 the vid clip so much.

[Benk111]

This is me when I have a crush

[Tonga]

me too

[skeptic007]

you know there's a cure for ADHD

[Mustachekitteh]

No there isn't

[skeptic007]

look up epigenetics Dr Leaf the brain can be fixed takes about 6 months

[Mustachekitteh]

That doesn't change how chemicals work in the brain. ADHD isn't due to a lack of will or anything. It's due to lack of chemicals, having parts of the brain be smaller compared to others, and the neurotransmitters are not the same and work differently. So there is no cure all you can do is do treatments and try to make it more manageable.

[skeptic007]

okay you keep believing that
there's a cure for everything just do the research

[Mustachekitteh]

Then what's the cure for asthma? What's the cure for aids? So when I say cure I mean it gets rid of it 100%. Where there isn't any traces of it in your body anymore. Which to this day that doesn't exist for either of those 2 or for ADHD.

[skeptic007]

cure for asthma is just taking care of yourself and getting all the muscous out, cure for AIDS now that's provided by a doctor there's actually a few doctors that provide it,
now the cure for cancer was actually given to my grandmothers friend she had cancer and a nurse came out and gave it too us in secret which was weird at the time cause we didn't know it was the cure, she just told her too take it within a week it was gone you can also eat apple seeds that kills cancer cells there's a cure for everything some just aren't in america you gotta go to a different countries,

I've done enough research too realize there's a cure for everything and that people are lying, now getting to it is the hard part

[Mustachekitteh]

That's not a cure. That's just doing treatments to make the symptoms be not as bad. Like I don't feel like I have asthma at all. Yet when I don't take my asthma medication. I do worse on the tests when I have check ups.

Also I do know ADHD medication is illegal in Japan. So I can't go to that country for the time being. :(

[skeptic007]

women I've heard so much shit and when im on this site I hear so many excuses I'm tired of it,,, people need to change
you've given up already and there's so many more options too try cause I know for a fact you haven't tried everything so why not try it all im tired of excuses

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c3z-Mb0dfJM

[Mustachekitteh]

Of course I haven't tried everything. I'm horrible at researching anything. Trust me with having adhd and ASD. I feel like when I give anyone the honest answer to why I did or thought something. It just sounds like a pathetic excuse. So it makes me not want to say it at all. I haven't given up I do know that much. I just have no clue what to do. So I just try for the best and hope one day I'll figure it out.

Honestly if you just think all mental disorders are peoples excuses for struggling. That would be like saying someone with a broken leg is just making an excuse for why they can't run. Of course they can't run they broke their fucken leg! All they can do is what the doctor tells them on how it can heal faster. Then work their way up till it's fully healed. Still that leg will never be the same again. In worse cases some athletes end up having to retire due to physical injuries. Not everything is an excuse.

[Mustachekitteh]

Plus that video isn't really that motivating. If anything this dude is more motivating.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KxGRhd_iWuE

[skeptic007]

hun than your gonna stay the same and you will never grow

[Mustachekitteh]

And you will never inspire people to actually change and grow more as a person.

[Matchmaker7072]

I don't consider ADHD a disorder but a different way of thinking. We might have our issues and faults such as struggle in school and mood swings but we excel in other areas. I feel like i could put a limitless amount of energy in something that I'm really interested in, we can multitask and I'm consistently thinking about ways to improve myself. I take adderall for school. My grades went from failing to straight A's in one semester. Other then that I don't take medicine and feel like I have an advantage in some areas. My only concern is my ability to control my negative emotions if my partner does something that I really don't like. I never lash out but things eat at me sometimes.

[Benk111]

I'm bipolar/ADHD there is no cure and it is a disorder not a difrent way of thinking.

[Melirain]

Yo skeptic007 I hope you're just a troll, not a loon who actually thinks apple seeds cure cancer. Conspiracy theories are a cross between amusing and annoying.
My ADHD is minor enough that I kinda like it, honestly, and I probably wouldn't "cure" it if such a thing existed. But ADHD hasn't got a "cure", just some stopgap measures to reduce the symptoms.