Clarifying And Explaining the Idiot's Guide to Open Mariage

[Anonymous]

He wanted the open relationship. it was his idea, he asked for it.

We're not "poly" anything, because neither of us is married to multiple people, we're not in a group of people all dating each other, in fact we're not committed to anyone else in any way other than each other. Here, check out this take: https://www.girlsaskguys.com/relationships/a21923-polygyny-polygamy-polyamory-know-the-difference

We're strictly engaging in unattached sex with people outside of the relationship, and we don't bring them into or around our relationship. We don't meet each other's side people.

That means we're not "swingers" either, because we're not swapping partners with another couple.

Also, we're not even married yet, just engaged. I shared that take to explain why open couples would want to get married.

And finally, parts of my take were apparently misleading, and someone thinks that I have a problem with "gays". Here are some other takes that should clarify my position: https://www.girlsaskguys.com/sexual-behavior/a8179-if-being-gay-is-a-choice https://www.girlsaskguys.com/sexual-behavior/a26872-an-argument-against-bathroom-segregation-from-a-woman

Here is the line in question:

"Being monogamous, or not, is no different than being gay. It's just part of who you are. Acting on it, is a choice. "

To clarify, being attracted to someone of your same sex/gender, is what makes you "gay", and that is NOT a choice, it's who you are and how you are born. That is my belief and opinion.

Having sex with someone of your same sex and gender, IS a choice, and it does not make you gay. Choosing not to practice homosexuality, choosing to have sex with someone of the opposite gender does not make you straight, if you still prefer having sex with the same gender, and/or are turned off by sex with the opposite gender.

I am not comparing homosexuality to non-monogamy. I am pointing out how the two are related.

Homosexuals are not happy trying to force themselves to be heterosexual when they are not, and they cannot help how they were born, or change who they are by simple choice.

Monogamous people, are happy and fulfilled having a single sex partner. I am not happy and fulfilled with a single sex partner, which I would not have discovered had my boyfriend not wanted to try this in the first place!

I have never been happy as a monogamous person. 20 plus years as a serial monogamist, losing interest after only a few months, Vs 3 years in a single relationship that is open. You do the math.

This is just who I am, how I was born, an simply "acting" another way wouldn't make me happy.

I have posted this anon because I don't want my username to be a turn off to those of you whom this is addressed to. You know who I am, and you know who you are.