Why I Think I Like To Sh! t Test Guys

[SovereignessofVamps]

I always thought shit testing sounded so stupid. Then...I realized that I do it myself, just a little. It's mostly unconscious, but I realize now that it does happen. I like to see how much guys can handle emotionally if I like them. By starting fights (mini ones) or just messing with him. Guys can do this with girls that they like too. But in my case, I think I have one more reason.

I want to make sure that he really is how he says he is. So...let's say he's a really decent guy. So what? He could be faking it. Maybe the truth is he's a psycho. Abusive. Or just a jerk. I could talk to him and be really friendly, and get to know him. But that doesn't mean he won't be hiding who he is anyway.

So if I'm just a little mean and mess with him, then I can see how stable he is. Can he actually handle his emotions? Does he actually like me? Does he even want to commit to me? That last one is hard to tell of course, but like I said this is mostly unconscious. It's just emotional.

I want to see, if he really is the same inside as how he acts outside. I want to see how safe he really is. Then I won't end up with some nutso. Honestly, I think logically and IRL, this isn't true. Of course he can just give fake responses to whatever I say or not care what I think and just fake everything.

I'm not saying it makes sense. It just dawned on me why I might do this sometimes. I was really trying to figure out why, like why even feel the need? I'm not rude to someone I barely know, but sometimes I have to stop myself from just randomly being rude or messing with him.

So I think part of that urge is just to make sure he's a solid guy.

[PrincessPie]

Sounds like messing with there emotions though really.. there's nice guys out there who don't deserve it.. but i do understand you want to make sure the person is who they say they're i have trust issues because so many people have lied to me..

Well done for not going anonymous though this is qutie controversial topic..

[zagor]

So what do you do? Frankly, if a girl started acting bitchy just to see how I would react, I would react by losing her number.

[DooMguy]

+ 1

supa hot would be proud

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[btbc92]

You know what makes this so contradicting? Men complain how all women do this. News flash, so do they. You will always have people pretending and giving you their best audition and act while dating. This is why you have to be your own dating detective within reason. Everybody test's everybody. But how you chose to test them is where it get's bad.

[Crapulux]

Yes, of course. Shit tests are a universal thing, but there is a twist to it. They are easy to spot, and not that difficult to pass.

The supreme irony of the shit test is that they are trivial to pass if the man doesn't give a damn about the woman. A cynical attitude helps in keeping a confident, clear mind. P. U. A. write books on the subject.

Of course, the more a man truly cares about a woman, the more likely he is to be shaken by her shit tests, and thus, the more likely he is to fail the test.

Therefore, a shit test selects for a man who doesn't give a shit about her.

And this, my friends, is woman logic in its purest form.

[CheckPlease]

Makes sense. Just don't be a dick and stupidly test the guy. My female friend decided to test how much my other friend liked her by rejecting him. Some how she got it into her head that if he really loves her he will ignore her rejecting him and ask her out again. Poor guy it really took a lot out of him when she rejected him the day before thier planned date.
Latter I tried to explain to her that only a red flagged jerk would not listen to her reject him. When my explaining did not work my girlfriend took her aside and shook some sense into her.😂 It was quite funny to watch and some how she got it.

[Neverrrmore]

I honestly have never done that. I just assume that as we stay together we will eventually learn how the other reacts because we won't always agree lol.

I'm not even sure this would work. I mean most crazy people drop red flags that you would just have to be completely blind to not notice, and if they really are the closet abusive partner then they usually have also become great at masking that part of them and playing the perfect charmer so they would see straight through your test.

[Anonymous]

That's just pathetic behaviour women fool themselves into thinking has a better purpose, but it's just to see if a guy will put up with immature behaviour. This way she knows if he'll stick around and put up with whatever bullshit she feels like dishing out, just because she feels this way or that and is too lazy to control herself. It's much easier than her actually having to learn to control her self like the rest of us.

[spnsfi]

Your thinking is understandable, but the thing I don't like about this is you've kinda pre-judged every guy to be a loser/asshole, when the vast majority of guys are regular/decent dudes.

We all know how it would play out if a guy tested a girl's emotions by calling her fat.

The only way I could see this being helpful is from initial rejection just to see how he handles it, after that stop with the psychological warfare please.

[xxmamichulaxx]

Perfect example of why you become friends with a guy before jumping into dating him. Being just friends and getting to know eachother will easily show you any redflags or signs they're not relationship material without having to test him like he's your student. Its immature to start arguments and be mean to get a reaction and see how he acts.

[Anonymous]

Yeah but if he's a solid guy who has self respect then you lose him regardless. He passes your shit test? Congrats now you're the one getting dumped because you shit tested him in the first place.

It never EVER plays out well when you shit test a guy regardless of the type of person he is unless he's a complete moron and can't figure out he got shit tested.

[oddwaffle]

Sure, except by the time you are done with your tests, he thinks you're​ crazy and wants nothing to do with you.

Okay, it's natural to want to know if he is real or not. However, you have to be subtle about it. Making a guy jump through hoops and he will go with the other girl because he thinks you aren't worth that much trouble.

[Wwwyzzerdd]

Then women ask where all the nice guys went. Away from you and your petty tests. No man wants to be judged on his character by a bitch who has her own flaws. If you question everything then you will constantly be paranoid and unable to relax around men, guarded girls are unapproachable so you do yourself a disservice. Also you appear bitchy, mean, and petty which isn't attractive.

[realperson02]

And how would you feel after the guy has passed all your tests and says "thank you for testing me but now I'll move on to the next simple girl"? .

[Unit1]

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[Viranda]

Interesting. I do the same but only with people I don't care loosing. I would never do it with someone I love.

[Unit1]

I have only little tolerance for such tests. If it's overdone, I'm out.
I mean I have been testing myself a tiny bit but that's where I left it at. I get the results from the first response I receive and stop it there.

[Anonymous]

Yeah most people do it (girls and guys) and just don't even realize it. I used to shit test and it always worked extremely well for me.

[John_Doesnt]

Part of being a woman is torturing men in some way. Whether it's through pointless stories, making them think they'll get laid or spending all the grocery money on bottle water it seems women love to make men suffer.

[CT_CD]

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[Anonymous]

I don't think this is a test. Its more of you trying to find flaws in the guy and if you look hard enough for anything, you're going to find it.

[windknowsmyname]

Let's say we are in a relationship. And decided to get curious and decided to see where your loyalty lies or where I stand with you by texting and having other girls blowing my phone up. Forcing a reaction or emotion from someone only back fires cause it's what you'd expect. If a guy is faking or isn't real with you and you are not 100% sure then you stay friends simple as that.

[Opinion Owner]

@windknowsmyname true. Testing your bf/gf it total BS

[Anonymous]

Why you shit test : You're a woman. And you don't even know when you're doing it.

[Anonymous]

it is my first time hearing that test