Expectations Kills Relationships...

[zulfiqarali]

There is well know saying that " People not hurt but expectations do..." We deny it and how much we care but we expect from other and specifically from our significant others. We expect from in such a way that we think they even know what we are thinking and even expecting that they will do in same way as we are thinking and if they fail we feel anger and disappointment. We get hurt even we not not share what we are thinking but keep expecting that our partner realize it.

These expectation or assumptions kills relations and create distances among those who are once loved and we share good memories with. It is natural to expect but it is not fair to keep our feelings to ourselves and assume our partner knows what we are thinking...

We should give our partners "Benefit of Doubt" and should ask them to explain their doings that hurt us along with what we are expecting and thinking, because may be our partner is not thinking on same lines on which we are thinking, not seeing things in same way as we are seeing, might not know the situation or our feelings towards.

Men and Women belong to same species but yet have different in way of thinking and seeing things. It may be due to their different emotional and rational composition or nature, but it is fact that a man and woman think differently in same situation, although it is true for every human being that he/she think differently but in case of relationships women are more sensitive and have more angels to see things in relations that men generally over see or ignore. This difference of thinking create problems.

To overcome this problem, we should expect less and share more, keeping our ego aside, because our partner and our love is much superior than our ego or anything else. Mostly women hesitant to reply or start communication with the guy they are interested and keep waiting that he will contact and lose him in this useless wait (the guy might not have a clue that someone is interested in me). Sometimes we are not liking behavior of our partner, like women not feel comfortable that their men flirt or interact with any other woman in any way that is not liked by their woman, but they not express their feeling with him but getting hurt instead realizing them that they are not happy with their dealing with other women.

Thus, by sharing, expressing and understanding feelings of each other we can resolve so many minor differences that result in much bigger rifts and conflicts.

In the end i only want to request that please respect each other feelings, understand each other and love each other and feel lucky to have someone u have who care about you and feel happy with you...

Thanks for being patient while ready...

Stay blessed and happy (amen)...

[Anonymous]

You're telling me, I expect sex at least once a week. I was expecting wrong...

[zulfiqarali]

Nopes.. I m saying share this with ur partner so that knew what u want and make u happy

[Opinion Owner]

I often have... he says he's too busy, says he's too tired. But if I deny him because I'm on my period feeling bad or am very sleepy, I'm in the wrong. :/ it's whatever

[zulfiqarali]

Nopes it's ur right and his duty.. I donot know what type of man he is.. I m sorry but can not comment more as not fully aware of things between you... if u r on break cz of many health condition it's not wrong and he should understand.. I can just suggest u that u should convey your concern to him and to take seriously

[Opinion Owner]

thank you

[CoffeeWC]

Well said