Stuck in the Lie: The Hidden Trap of Denial in Love

[Anonymous]

Denial in love is a powerful force that can keep people locked in relationships that aren't serving them, even when they know, deep down, that things aren't right. It's a way of protecting yourself from the pain of facing the truth. You might tell yourself that things will get better, that your partner will change, or that love should be enough to fix everything, even when your gut is telling you otherwise. It can show up in all sorts of ways – ignoring warning signs, convincing yourself that you're happy when you're not, or holding on to hope even when it's clear the relationship is falling apart. The fear of being alone, of admitting that love isn't always enough, can make you cling to what you have, even when it's no longer healthy. But in the long run, denial only delays the inevitable – it prevents you from confronting your true feelings and moving forward. Eventually, facing the truth is the only way to find peace, even if it's the hardest thing to do.

[RiseofArtemis]

Well, what I have gone trough is the exact oposite, she clearly was into me but she broke off the relationship, she denied having feelings for me but I could tell it all in her eyes and how she acted towards me. If she didn't have interest she wouldn't have agreed to meet up and talk for hours even when she had ended it she stayed to talk and could just have broken it off and left.

She denied having feelings for me because she likely was afraid I would hurt her or that I was just faking it to get her and I would be too good to be true. Or there was just one single thing missing for her to actively want a relationship with me. I told her she can delete my number but she likely hasn't done it, because deep down she hopes I would have what she needs.

But unkown to her I'm done and even if she comes around saying that she wants to try it I would probably reject her.

[exitseven]

I used to laugh at people who would stay in a bad relationship thinking that the other person would change. I had a long distance relationship with someone for 4 years. She put very little effort into the relationship. She said she wanted to marry me. She pretty much ignored me most of the time. I always thought that when you are dating you should be on your best behavior. I figured if she ignored me then, what would it be like to be married to her? I finally called her late one night and broke up with her over the phone

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[Caroline91]

I think it can be difficult to find the balance between recognizing when something isn't healthy and isn't what we need and not giving up too soon.

[HungTexan]

You can deny the truth forever. It can be painful when things don’t work out as you’d hoped, but prolonging the inevitable is a recipe for longer term unhappiness.

[eagle1951]

it's a bitch isn't it

[myTake Owner]

He was a bitch lol

[LiamS95]

It's best to not lie to others or yoursel