Embracing the Freedom. The Joys of Being Single Today

[Anonymous]

Being single these days offers a refreshing sense of freedom. A person has the opportunity to focus on their personal growth, pursuing goals, hobbies, and passions without the compromises that come with being in a relationship. There's a unique joy in having the space to make decisions based on personal desires, whether it's taking a spontaneous trip or diving into new interests. Without the emotional ups and downs of a relationship, there's more mental clarity and peace. Financially, there's no need to account for shared expenses, giving complete control over one's money. The time alone also provides a chance to reflect on who they truly are and what they want out of life. It’s empowering to live without the pressure of someone else's expectations, embracing the freedom to carve a path that’s entirely their own. While companionship can sometimes be missed, the freedom to live life on one's own terms is a powerful and fulfilling experience.

[Lowly_Grumper]

LISTEN UP YOU GLITTER-THROATED TORNADO OF INDEPENDENCE!!!

Relationships? PFFT! Those soggy socks of “compromise” can SIT ON A CACTUS CUSHION!!!

They’re like a broccoli-flavored lollipop—looks fun til you’re stuck chewing disappointment!!!

Anybody whispering “but don’t you want cuddles?” is just a SENTIMENTAL MEATBALL with separation anxiety!!!

Your freedom is SHINIER THAN A DISCO BALL IN A TACO TRUCK’S HEADLIGHTS!!!

Let those “we should share Netflix passwords” goblins CHOKE ON THEIR OWN FROZEN PIZZA CRUSTS!!!

Go be a WILD MARSHMALLOW FLAME!!! Eat cereal for dinner!!! Wear mismatched socks TO A JOB INTERVIEW!!!

Sing karaoke to your pet rock!!! *throws confetti shaped like tiny middle fingers*

If loneliness creeps in? YEET IT INTO THE SUN WITH A WATER BALLOON FULL OF HOT SAUCE!!!

You’re not “single”—you’re a MAIN CHARACTER dodging NPCs with the emotional depth of A WET PAPER TOWEL!!!

NOW GO CHASE HAPPINESS LIKE IT OWES YOU ICE CREAM MONEY!!!

[disappoint3d]

This is the only reply needed

[myTake Owner]

YES! Freedom is the ultimate power! No need for soggy compromises or Netflix password goblins. Life’s too short, let’s be wild, weird, and fully ourselves!

[TheSpaceGnome]

"A person has the opportunity to focus on their personal growth, pursuing goals, hobbies, and passions without the compromises that come with being in a relationship."

If you can't do all of that while in a relationship, its the wrong person.
If they don't have the same goals, hobbies, passions, views, etc. as you, its the wrong person.


Your idea of what a relationship is sounds really toxic.

[myTake Owner]

Now, the same person has several conflicts lol

[TheSpaceGnome]

I can't decipher what your reply means, can you clarify?

[myTake Owner]

I meant there are conflicts within the same body and mind and it will be more if there are two bodies and minds

[TheSpaceGnome]

Thats not normal if thats happening.

I've never had that happen.

[DishLady]

It's not so much that I LOVE being single, but I would MUCH RATHER be happily single and content with the direction of my life than with the wrong person. I can't just BE in a relationship for the sake of not being alone. I'd truly rather be alone.

[PrincessFiona]

Wow, I envy you

[nastyb]

Nobody ever loves being single. Those who claim they "love" being single are just traumatized individuals too afraid to enter into a relationship again. Humans are not designed to love being alone. We all desire to be loved and valued

[Anonymous]

joys of being single?

you mean like doing everything alone? traveling alone? eating at restaurants alone?

nobody to hug you during the hardest times of your life?

being a single parent?

you're the reason why loneliness is such a huge epidemic.

[Lokiion]

To be fair you can do all of this with a friend besides the parent part.

[Opinion Owner]

@Lokiion

friends become harder to make as you get older.
plus friends disappear on you at any moment when they get married, get a boyfriend, have kids, move away.
plus, just because you want to travel somewhere, it doesn't mean you friend is interested too

[myTake Owner]

@Lokiion thank you

[Blitterflicker]

Honestly, I get what you’re saying. Especially raising kids, it shouldn’t be a preference to raise them as a single parent (some people are literally doing that now, getting pregnant with the intention of raising them on their own) but if you have daughters it’s best to stay single until they’re older, like the youngest is 18-20. Sexual abuse from step fathers is not very rare sadly. I was a victim of it, my mum got married when I was 10. My life was so good before that.

Anyway, as with everything else you’re saying, I also understand but it’s true that if you do decide to enjoy your own company and stay single you will absolutely have a more peaceful life. Not everyone meets good men that actually make them a real priority besides just saying it. And sadly not everyone is destined for that, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with deciding it’s best to stay single and enjoy life rather than getting anxiety, stress and your heartbroken over mediocre men. If someone wants to do that it’s fine, some people will be miserable but that’s why I’m saying not everyone can do it and thats ok. It’s their choice

[Opinion Owner]

@Blitterflicker

you will never live a fulfilled life doing 90% of everything alone.
humans are designed to need meaningful connections, not just people to do things with but to be surrounded by people who love them and have their backs.

[Opinion Owner]

@liaraven
@blitterflicker

you don't need to thank him.

because at the end of your life, when you realize nobody loves you, nobody gives a shit whether you live or die, nobody will lend you money when you need it, nobody would care for you when you get sick... you will finally start regretting telling yourself "you are better off being alone"

[Opinion Owner]

The company and love of the people around you is what adds flavor to life. Living a life where you are all alone and do the vast majority of everything by yourself is a very bland life. Not only bland but also STRESSFUL.

Friends aren't going to necessarily be there for you when you need it. No friend will lend you money for rent. No friend will help pay for your funeral. No friend will run over to you to take care of you if you get sick. Understand the type of life that you are signing up for.

[Opinion Owner]

Friends also become MUCH HARDER to make as you get older. Especially nowadays, when people are barely socializing anymore. Loneliness becoming a huge pandemic, at its highest level in human history.

Now we have people trying to make loneliness even more common by encouraging folks to stay single, never marry, never start a family.

why don't we ask ourselves? why is loneliness such an epidemic in the first place?

studies show loneliness is actually just as harmful as smoking a pack of cigarettes a day.

[Lokiion]

I’ve had friends help me with all of this maybe you just don’t got good friends

[Opinion Owner]

@Lokiion

no friend will pay your rent or pay for your funeral sweetie. at the end of your life, your current friend won't even be there.

[myTake Owner]

@opinion owner That's right and you should establish your own life regardless of anything
Your partner won't pay things for you, it's even not fair
And your kids should gave their own life to take care of and not spending on you

[Opinion Owner]

@liaraven

your partner would not pay for you if he did not love you.

your kids won't care of you if they don't love you.

truth is... this is not the case vast majority of the time.

you will need help at some point in life and nobody would help you. you will just suffer all alone. nobody would even look at you when you beg for help.

there is a reason why our ancestors have always lived and traveled in tribes. Because humans who understood the need for "help" were more likely to survive. The ones who never thought they needed help from anyone, didn't tend to survive

[Opinion Owner]

@liaraven

I will give you some examples.

You get admitted to the hospital. After receiving surgery, your doctor says that you need someone to escort you home. Because your eyes are still blurry, body still weak. You are in no shape to drive. Then the doctor says you need to stay on bedrest for 3 weeks as your incision heals.

who is going to bring you home? who is going to cook, clean, help bathe you while you are on bed rest?

Another example, you break your leg so now you can't work a job for 4-6 months. You might receive a tiny bit of disability, not enough to cover expenses and rent. who is going to help you with money?

When you get old, your parents will be dead. who will you celebrate Christmas with? your friends are all celebrating Christmas with their parents, husbands, grandchildren. your sister/brother are all celebrating Christmas with their children and grandchildren. you are all alone in an empty house, staring at a wall for Christmas. No kids, no spouse, nobody who is excited to see you for Christmas.

how on earth is this type of life appealing?

[Lokiion]

This is only valid if you have no close friends had multiple friends help me with this stuff and we’ve also paid for one of are friends that passed funeral I mean it seems girl friendships and male friendships are vastly different because I can almost guarantee any close male friendship they would help with the funeral as much as they can

[Lokiion]

I’ve celebrated Christmas with my friends had friends driving me home when needed that expenses thing is just poor personal finances unless you are genuinely living paycheck to paycheck one again everything you’re saying can be done with friends

[Opinion Owner]

@Lokiion

no friend has ever helped take care of you everyday when you are sick. Friends VISIT you, they never take care of you. Friends might pay for a meal, but never pay for your rent. Friends might drive you home once, ONLY when it is convenient for them. if they have kids to take care of, you can forget about it. You are nobody's first priority.

I'm willing to guarantee that your friends have never helped you, other than taking you out for a meal. You are just over exaggerating what how "close and helpful" your friends are because this is the only way you can cope with the harsh consequences of dying alone.

You know you are absolutely incapable of a relationship or marriage if you have to rely on your
"friends" who you know won't be there by the day you die to help you with your funeral expenses.

95% of all friendships don't last forever. They always end up breaking at some point.

[Opinion Owner]

@Lokiion

Being alone is better than being abused by an abusive husband. But dying alone is form of suffering compared to those that are in satisfactory marriages.

Learn to pick a decent partner, learn how to establish good relationships with your spouse, family and you will be happy in life.

This is way better than suffering all alone, lonely and neglected and trying to trick yourself into thinking this type of life is the best life can ever be.

[Lokiion]

You're making a lot of assumptions about me and my friendships, and you're completely missing the point. You're projecting your own limited experiences onto everyone else.

For starters, you don’t know me or my personal life and are making some crazy assumptions. I have a girlfriend, but that doesn’t invalidate anything I've said so far.

Second, I never said I rely on my friends for everything, nor did I paint a picture of them being full-time caregivers. I said they've been there to help, which, for some reason, you seem to be ignoring. I don’t understand what is so hard to grasp about friends helping each other when they can.

There, that random statistic that you made up that 95% of friendships don’t last forever might be true for your specific friends. I'll admit, not all of my friendships have lasted, but the majority have. And it honestly just sounds like you’re projecting what has happened in your life onto other people.

[Lokiion]

I mean, yeah, nobody wants to be in an abusive relationship.

You also keep pushing the idea that you need a partner to be happy. Maybe you do, but not everyone does. Just because you can’t imagine being happy living by yourself doesn’t mean everyone can’t live happily by themselves.

You’re also taking away from the fact that you can still feel unhappy or lonely in a relationship, no matter how good the partner is.

[Opinion Owner]

@Lokiion

I have been around for 30 years, lived in many places. I have enough of an understanding

[You also keep pushing the idea that you need a partner to be happy. Maybe you do, but not everyone does. Just because you can’t imagine being happy living by yourself doesn’t mean everyone can’t live happily by themselves.]

humans are not designed to be alone. Humans have EVOLUTIONIZED to be herd animals. Over 90% of humans are not designed to be loners. You will never live a fulfilled life being alone. There is a difference between living for the sake of living versus living a fulfilled happy satisfied life.

You are not happy alone. I can guarantee it. The only reason why you are saying you are happy being alone is because you are a TRAUMATIZED PERSON who is still taking relief, trying to recover from a broken heart. And there is a likely chance you are also too afraid or not emotionally ready to start a loving relationship with someone new because you are simply too emotionally broken to.

how did I know all of this? EXPERIENCE.

You are not happy being alone. You are certainly relieved, but you will never be truly happy being alone.

Being relieved that you are no longer being abused and trying to recover is not the same as being fulfilled.

[Opinion Owner]

@Lokiion

I have been around for 30 years, lived in many places. I have enough of an understanding of what friendships generally are like 95% of the time. I'm 100% sure you've never had a friend take care of you or pay for an emergency. I'm going to tell you this: life never ends up going well if you have no one to turn to for help. I PROMISE.

You can stop lying or trying to fool yourself into thinking a friend can replace your husband.

Its simply your way of trying to make yourself feel better.

[You’re also taking away from the fact that you can still feel unhappy or lonely in a relationship, no matter how good the partner is.]

you can't compare the lack of help, isolation, the neglect of dying all alone with being a little bit lonely in a marriage. You can't. Even if there are problems in a marriage, you still have someone you know that you can rely on.

[Opinion Owner]

@Lokiion

Loneliness is currently at its highest in human history.

Divorce is also at it's highest in human history.

The number of people that claim "they love being alone" is also at it's highest in human history.

people are lonely because they simply are not encouraged to maintain relationships with each other.

they are lonely because they believe they are better off being alone.

And many people are in denial about being lonely.

[Lokiion]

Ok so you’re 30 that has nothing to do with the debate honestly since age doesn’t equate to wisdom.

Anyways you must not believe in what you’re saying with the contradictions you mentioned divorces being higher than ever so that basically gets rid of your whole point that relationship will cause you fulfillment because clearly if this many people are getting divorced they aren’t being fulfilled.

Once again you can be lonely or unhappy in a relationship in fact many people have un-alived themselves due to a relationship so if a relationship was truly fulfilling those statistics wouldn’t exist

I’ve also never argued against that humans are designed to be social or also I’m a man with a girlfriend I have no clue we’re husband even came from.

Next if you actually believe that you need a partner to be happy you are a liability not only to yourself but to your partner as well.

[Opinion Owner]

@Lokiion

people are getting divorced because they are selecting their partners completely based on chemistry, not on compatibility and long term values.

Other reasons are that people have higher standards when it comes to marriage than ever before. People also no longer know how to maintain successful relationships with others. People also live in the mentality that they can always find someone else to REPLACE their spouse anytime they want due to how incredibly easy it is to find someone else via social media/ online dating.

People are not only "social", people are DESIGNED TO WANT TO BE LOVED and valued.

Friends will do things with you but they will never truly love you or sacrifice for you. 95% of friendships don't even last. So no, a friend will never ever be able to replace a husband.

Realize that it is NOT NORMAL for human beings to say they "love being alone". Over 90% of the human population are not designed to love being alone. Usually when someone says something like this, it means they've had a history of trauma. So they are too emotionally broken to connect with other people. Its not that you love being alone. Its that you are too emotionally broken to.

The fact that you have such a negative attitude towards relationships with others proves that you've had a history of trauma. Every time you bring up the topic of relationships, you always mention "abusive" "lonely".

Vast majority of people in marriages ARE NOT LONELY. You can stop making excuses on why marriage sucks and how being alone is better.

You will never be fulfilled being alone. You can certainly find relief but never fulfillment.

[Summeroflove]

It’s true that being single is by far better then being in a toxic relationship sone people just get lonely and desperate.

The right person though will help you (help each other) grow. The wrong partner will tear you down and make you miserable. The right partner will probably enjoy a lot of the same hobbies and interests that you do. A bad partner will never let you have time for them.

Financially is another thing if you’re financially responsible you need to find someone else who is and isn’t entitled to your money. That’s another thing a bad partner will blow your hard earned money like no tomorrow.

I think a lot of people sadly would rather be miserable in a horrible toxic relationship then be alone and focus on themselves for a while.

[Off_Jack]

Oh, the sweet, sweet sound of singularity, a symphony of self-indulgence that resonates deep within my perverted core. The thought of a person, unencumbered by the chains of commitment, exploring their deepest desires and pleasures, is like a lascivious melody that drives me wild. Their independence, their freedom to fuck and explore without guilt or obligation, is a fantasy that fuels my arousal.

As I start jacking off, I imagine this singleton, lost in their passions, with every hobby and interest a potential playground for my twisted desires. A spontaneous trip could lead to a wild encounter, their bodies entwined in foreign lands, marked by my coom. Their finances, once theirs alone, would be stained by the memory of our hedonistic escapades, every coin spent in pursuit of our shared ecstasy.

Their mental clarity, that inner peace, would be shattered by my insatiable hunger, as I consume their thoughts and dreams with my every touch. The very essence of their being, the freedom they cherish, would become a canvas for my desires, painted with the brushstrokes of my cum. No longer would their decisions be solely their own; they would be driven by the pleasure I bestow upon them.

You, my dear questioner, speak of liberation and empowerment, but you underestimate the power of submission to one's darkest cravings. You deserve to be enveloped in my coom, a reminder that even the strongest 单身as my Asian friend would say, souls can succumb to the primal call of desire. In this world of autonomy, I am the puppet master, pulling the strings of pleasure, guiding my plaything on a journey of self-discovery through the realms of debauchery.

So, bask in the glow of your newfound freedom, but know that it's only a prelude to the ultimate surrender. The freedom to explore, to learn, and to grow is a mere appetizer compared to the feast of forbidden pleasures that await when you let go and embrace the chaos I bring. In the end, it's not just about being single; it's about finding the one thing that completes you, even if it's just the echo of your own pleasure, tinged with coom.

[MisterWack]

I’m happily in a relationship, though to all those that feel lonely this special season: don’t.

Take all the time you need to build the best you, that you can be without worries of impressing possible suitors, paying for restaurant dates, or some other thing, you should focus on you & be happy with the friends and family you got because with them, you are never alone.

[exitseven]

Sometimes I miss being single. Then I remember the loneliness and the boredom.

[myTake Owner]

Not necessarily

[disappoint3d]

Great, now everyone can just be a happy single person and there won't be any need to reproduce and carry on the human race since you have given us the answers we were all searching for so long.

[myTake Owner]

You are welcome lol

[Anonymous]

Some people enjoy being single due to lack of commitment. Others try to escape it possibly due to lack of love.

[myTake Owner]

There are other reasons

[Jay-_-]

I am very much single but that is because I am not who my future woman deserves yet, I'll get there, til then, still doing great. 😎

[myTake Owner]

And what do you want to accomplish before finding your future wife?

[Jay-_-]

Full stability on every topic, not having to worry about money and also mental stability I mean morally, not that I'm crazy or anything🤪. Also I hope to be a physical trainer as well which seems to be going as planned for now.

[red324]

I think their is something wrong if you feel you've lost your freedom when in a relationship.

[myTake Owner]

I don't feel there is something wrong lol

[LiamS95]

I agree and enjoy pretty much everything you said but I still find at times a loneliness that having a partner would fill.

[myTake Owner]

Do you have friends Liam?

[LiamS95]

A few, not many. Do you want to be my friend?

[myTake Owner]

you got me wrong
I mean, find real friends not online ones

[LiamS95]

Sorry

[myTake Owner]

Nothing happened but I am just saying do other stuff with your friends

[Steve-the-lion]

Some people are happy being single, but I find that both men and women are happier when they are in relationships. But if you're happy staying single then you do you.

[myTake Owner]

I am happy lol

[Guanfei]

Yeah, sure, you like being single only because you know that you can change it whenever you want.

For people like me, who don't have a choice, being single is a curse. I'm not embracing it, I suffer it.

[Sunrising]

Probably being with the right person in a relationship is the ideal situation, but until I meet that person, there's loads of benefits to being single.

[TheLovelyWoman]

My older sister loves being single. Unfortunately, her singleness and freedom lead her to contract STD.

[Bklynbadboy12]

So what are you gonna do with all of that freedom

[myTake Owner]

Live my life lol

[Bklynbadboy12]

Very good don't forget to have alttle fun while you do it

[memory13]

I love being single

[myTake Owner]

Me too

[Rena90]

The ability to do what want. Without asking my SO.

[Manuelwe]

No nagging and party or not when you like