Being Single is Freedom but Relationships could be Fun! What to Choose?

Question

Being single involves freedom and fun, while being in a relationship seems more mature as it provides stability and the ability to start a family.

shaysh87 · Accepted Answer

Its so sad that young people nowadays see relationships / marriage merely as a fun ride. What people do not understand is that when you stay single forever, you lack a support system. If you don't understand what this means, it means that when you lose your job, or break your leg so you can no longer work. Nobody will help you pay your bills, take care of you, cook for you. Your parents will be long gone and dead.

You may say "I have my siblings to care for me". Reality is, once your siblings get married. Their wives and kids will be first priority. Don't be surprised if they claim they are too busy to rush over to help you. Their kids need to be picked up from school, dinner needs to be cooked, housework, their spouse may need help with something. You're not first priority to anyone. In other words, nobody cares about you. I've seen many folks who stayed single until older age who constantly tell me the struggles about not having a support system.

People divorce whenever they see any sign of an obstacle because they do not understand the value of marriage. Marriage is not supposed to be an amazing fun ride at an amusement park. It is an oath to take care of each other forever. We are brainwashed since childhood that marriage is supposed to be the perfect romance where fights are kept at the minimum. Any fight that lasts longer than a week means you are married to the wrong person. This is why our divorce rates are so high. Nobody understands this concept.

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

If your relationship doesn't allow you enough freedom for you to feel like you're able to be yourself, you have an abuser not a partner.

Relationships *should* be fun, they are optional (unless you get pregnant and have a kid with someone, then you and the other person ARE parents and must learn to get along cordially when around the child).

If you have a relationship that is consistently not fun, leave it. If you have a relationship that doesn't offer you sufficient freedom, communication, and trust, leave it.

Why are so many people - young women especially - so dead set on this idea that relationships and freedom or self-determination are a zero sum game?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well there are benefits to both. But it seems as though at a younger age women want to be Ms. Independent, making that money, I don’t need a man attitude while focusing on their careers. But as they reach a certain point they feel as though they will never meet someone, like they’re behind the curve as far as marriage, children, etc. I’m not saying it’s impossible to find someone when you’re older, let’s say from 25 up, but those chances become slimmer as more you get women come on the market. You could focus on a career making a lot of money but that isn’t a quality most men look for in a partner like it is for a lot of women when it comes to men. For a man yes he’s getting older but there’s a good chance he can still let someone, have children, etc. A lot of women tend to like older men whereas the same is not really true for men liking older women especially if they’re looking to start a family. I’d say research it more. This is just what I’ve seen a lot especially online w women feeling bitter. There are some exceptions.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Well at least you'll do the right thing because you can actually see that and you will weigh them both out it all depends on who you are there are so many people that pick the marriage life and they regret it later on down the road because they never got to experience life with anybody else except for their spouse I mean there's just all kinds of pros and cons about the whole thing and this person is different each person is an individual and we all look at things different but I think whatever is the best fit for you is what you should do whatever makes you the happiest it really is a hard choice we all like that stability but it's the same time we like that freedom of exploring experiencing life you see that's where I'm at now and I'm old LOL

Pinay_ako · Answer

You could be in a relationship and still feel alone. If you want freedom and not worry about someone else, stay single.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

In the modern day relationships aren’t worth it don’t fall for the trap and propaganda people have been laying out in front of you. Relationships are not stable quite the opposite actually and for the most part are just an absolute waste of time. Sure you could find happiness with someone but you’re more likely to just wind up getting married and then getting a divorce later and then you’ll just be even sadder than you would’ve been if you had just stayed single. Don’t get me wrong you should totally have fun and if it just so happens that the right guy comes along you should definitely take the chance but no just looking for relationships otherwise you’re just going to find a bunch of desperate pricks.

abc3643 · Answer

Speaking from experience, you want this: You want "fun"? That's why God made your arms long enough.

JDavid25 · Answer

Being single can be "freedom".. It isn't always fun though, or else most people wouldn't be seeking them.. Humans obviously don't care about absolute freedom.. Relationships may be less free, but they can also be much more fun and fulfilling if you get with a good person..

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Personally, I don't choose to be in a relationship to be in a relationship.

I choose to be in a relationship when/if I meet someone I want to be in a relationship with (and they want to too).

So to me, it's not so much a choice, as more something that happens.

Right now I enjoy being single and intend to stay that way for a while.

dustybiker · Answer

Being in a passionate and healthy relationship is always better than being alone. The process of finding that, as we all know, can be traumatizing though. lol

ElvenMr · Answer

Being in a relationship doesn't mean you can't have fun anymore and you don't have to marry each other and make babies in the first year either, some people doesn't want kids, but they want to be with someone and have fun together..

What kind of fun are even we talking about, that you can't have in a relationship with someone?

Anonymous · Answer

A woman needs a man in her life or you will end up like this. So pick a relationship.

dragoblack · Answer

I prefer relationship. Its noce having freedom, but at the end of the day most of us want to lay down and have intimate cuddle time. For you... i recommend possibility trying an open relationship to see how you like it. At the end of the day when it comes to relationships, its just a matter of setting boundaries for the relationship, regardless of what kind you are in.

Adam1978 · Answer

If you can make a good pick, the relationship will win in the long run. Single life is easier but it will never beat a good family life extended over a lifetime. But the worst is a relationship with the wrong person.

Seinna · Answer

If I didn't have freedom in a relationship, I wouldn't be in one. There's no type of freedom I'd have as a single person that I'd want to take advantage of... but it's better to be single than in a bad relationship with the wrong person.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

There is nothing I can do single that I can't do in a relationship. I'll hands down choose a relationship over being single.

Not sure why anyone says you have to give up freedom, I'm still quite free in a relationship.

YollyM · Answer

Be single until you don't feel like you need to sacrifice who you are in order to be in a relationship. If you still feel like you would have to sacrifice yourself to be in a relationship then you're just destined to be the rich single aunt🤷

hIopinionated_ · Answer

I would definitely choose the single life. It’s just so much fun. There’s no expectations from anyone and I can do what I want.

LazerBean · Answer

I have so much fun being with my husband, I would never be able to give that up.

DCooper · Answer

Single for sure. Frankly relationships are a lot more drama and instability than fun or stability.

Sour-rose · Answer

Single. Fk off with being with some bish who can't understand wearing a skirt on a windy day is fun.

lilyanony1 · Answer

Relationship... I like being single but I'm getting older now. I need to start growing up with someone

hihihiok · Answer

I had a bad break up , so I feel being single is the choice coz my head sucks at trusting or falling for someone now.

Càitjet · Answer

Being single is lonely af. Being in a relationship comes with challenges.

Agape93 · Answer

If you think of relationships as a loss of fun or freedom, you're in the wrong relationship

RuthlessAggression · Answer

Some people, do what's called "open relationship" or become polygamists.  I think it's all a load of crap, but, you could go that way, and still "be in a relationship"

_deeznuts · Answer

Single rn lol bcs im hella busy w/ work and school. I wouldn't prefer single in the long run though.

Marshymallow · Answer

Whatever seems right at that moment. I’m not opposed to either

AsaKyo · Answer

Being single is cool, but a relationship can be really good if the person isn't childish and immature

Anonymous · Answer

Being single is easier. Until you realize you chose it over a meaningful relationship and you have no one to share in your life successes with. Being the 3rd wheel when your friends are married with kids is lonely.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

A good relationship has it's own freedoms. And let's be honest; the freedom that being single gives you is often quite under utilized.

tanvishah123 · Answer

I like my single life and i would love a relationship too but only if it isn't a half ass thing

HighValue · Answer

If a relationship isn't fun/enjoyable then it isn't the right relationship for you.

poneglyphs · Answer

I don't choose to be single I would like a relationship but no one likes me besides girls who want my money

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Being both is fun. While you're single, you're focusing on yourself and in a relationship you're growing together

BurntKeyboard · Answer

A relationship, always a relationship. I don't have freedom anyway because I'm basically locked in my parent's house 24/7. I'm actually only 18 and still a student, I just signed up wrong

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

The right person doesn't feel like a prison. They feel like a safety net.

davner · Answer

well i dont really know. id say stay single till the right person comes along tho

Zolly99999 · Answer

I would definitely choose a relationship IF I could ever find the right person.

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

Dating post-divorce has been generally fun, when time allows... which isn't very often.

jengeorge26 · Answer

Maybe when I am in love 🥰, I will be ready to give up my freedom?

NishantPu · Answer

Have a relationship. If it's work. Bingo. If it won't. Stay single for a few year until you ready to repeat the cycle.

Twalli · Answer

Relationships are generally a good thing, you don't have full freedom, but if you set boundaries you can still have a fair bit of freedom.

Annoymous15 · Answer

I would prefer being single in a relationship ☺️ whot I mean is having my own time nd space in a relationship.

TheFlak38 · Answer

Being single means freedom for men. Women get literally crazy without men.

zagor · Answer

You can have both; just wait til 25 to have a serious relationship.

VanguardTitan · Answer

Being single doesn't hurt. Being in a relationship puts you in the possibility of getting hurt.

Becca1998_ · Answer

I can be both but relationship. I’m in one and enjoying it.

Anonymous · Answer

Pretty simple. Choose single unless she is really worth a full commitment.

Anonymous · Answer

No need to decide now. I mean do whatever you feel like and enjoy freedom while it last.

Anonymous · Answer

ill stay single women are nothing but prostitutes

Anonymous · Answer

Why not try both?

Tigerbait6 · Answer

Single. By far.

katestar · Answer

I agree with that.

EaterPeter · Answer

@dwilson24

jimmy2 · Answer

Yes it is ❤️

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