What do you consider the pros and cons for being single?
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As a single man I will list off all the positive and negative of being single.
Pros:
* The only person who you can prioritize is yourself considering you don't have to worry about another person.
*All of your hard-earned money tend to go into things that actually makes you happy.
* Once you leave out of your parents house and gain full independence you realize they I am the only sole decider in my life and I can decorate my places anyway I see fit.
* You can hook up with many random men and women as you want and don't feel guilty about being a cheating bastard or bitch because agian you aren't in a actual relationship yourself.
* Not have to worry about making a lifestyle where you have to compromise because agian the only person who matters is you.
* No having to listen to other people noises or cleaning up after others only your stuff would be needing to get cleaned.
Cons:
× This is probably the main thing but you will feel lonely not having a special guy or girl waiting with their arms out open for you. Especially if you notice all these happy couples going out together! (Trust me sometimes I experience that feeling!)
× While it's true you have a whole place for yourself, it's a much bigger challenge since you not in a relationship you will be the sole house cleaner and the person who needs to pay all the bills. And unlike having a special girl or guy who can help you possibly fix something all that shit will fall on your hands.
× You have to find other ways to find meaningful interactions like keeping in contact with your family and going out of your way to make friends or else again you will feel lonely.
× While you can have sex with any person it still would be just that casual hook up sex, it's not like making love to the lady or gentlemen who will be always right by your side.
× I don't know if you get scared of being alone but yes you will have zero interaction around the house it's just be your own company.
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Pros:
- She can't backstab you if she doesn't exist.
- She can't be abducted / stolen away if she doesn't exist.
- She can't get sick and die on you if she doesn't exist, nor OD on something illegal and leave you without words for your grief.
- Don't have to check that she's actually a real chick. In past decades, this was usually not an issue. In today's Clown World, pretenders and crazies are suddenly everywhere, until you wonder if anything is still real.
- No girl means she's also not a bot.
- My publication projects get their time prioritized.
- Less temptation to go overboard (can't screw her if she doesn't exist.)
- No one touches my phone except me.
- If you've never met her, and she plays disappearing games, you can't get hurt.
Cons:
- Lonely.
- Family treats you like an underachiever.
- Want kids, but they'll never happen.
- Trolls will use your singleness against you, even in the event of debates that originally had nothing to do with relationships. When they can't win the actual argument, will endlessly deflect to theories on why you're single, and how it influences the strawman position they assign you in the place of your actual position, either just to troll or because they're actually that dumb.
- Flesh and blood contact is so much more fulfilling than any amount of natter on Instagram.
- Desire to make the social pressures shut their pie holes already can lead to careless decisions in search of a partner. Not even so much because you're into her, but because of the peace of mind of finally getting to flip the bird at everything that was previously nagging at you. "Why haven't I? Why can't I? Why don't I? Just did! Bugger off!"
- I enjoy tonsil hockey. And shower foreplay. Without the girl, these aren't a reality.
Pros:
you are responsible for your own decisions and how they impact you and you only.
Cons:If you were seeking emotional bonds, you must rely on your friends and family for this feeling.
Often times it is easier to achieve a wide variety of goals when you have a partner working with you to achieve those goals.when you say single, I am referring to a lifestyle with no children, and no previous baggage.
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Being single is amazing. I was in a long relationship that finally ended for good and as much as I was in love I’m happier single. I got into a serious relationship too young.
prosyou don’t have to answer to anyone, come and go as you please, no arguments, freedom, talk to whoever you want, have sex with whoever you want
cons
Possible loneliness
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Pros:
- No intervention or consideration to as what I am doing, where I am going, if I left the toilet seat up or down*generally still down incase I wake up and go to sit, yes that kind of tea bag will wake you up, and not in a good way* choice of where my finances will go.
Cons:
- Being informed where I am going, when I am going, and how I am going. waiting hours to hear what kind of food they want, to then spend another hour to have changed their mind and say they aren't hungry anymore. Sharing my paycheck leaving me with enough for coffee through the week.
Now serious note, if you can not tell most of this is taking points that could be considered, though they both have ups and downs. I think its ultimately the induvial and finding the crazy that matches your own. Or as Hedwig sang about in Origin of Love. 3 Races, the Double males, the Double Females, and the Male/Female giants separated into singles whom are all trying to get back to one another.
Hedwig and the Angry Inch --
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I hope I can add something new. Here is my take:
PROS:
- I don't have anyone to piss me off
- I have all my money to be spent on me (and of course less expenses)
- I am free to do whatever I want with my free time
- I'm 100% sure she will not betray me
- I don't have to worry if my behavior is liked or not (hence always been myself) and If I make her happy or sad with my actions
- I don't have to do things that I truly and 100% want to do
- I don't have to worry if she's gonna get hurt when I'm not with her (or even when I am with her) or get sick and die etc.
- My happiness is determined 100% by only me
- I can have sex with as many people as I want and don't have to wait till she's in mood
CONS:
- I don't have anyone to piss me off (I'm lonely)
- I don't have anyone to share my stuff and life with
- I am free to do whatever I want with my free time (I'm bored and I don't know what to do most of the time)
- I don't have anyone to feel like it's worth to keep trying/fighting and getting better for
- I don't have even the slightest help dealing with my problems and everyday tasks
- I don't have anyone to cuddle with in the night ☹️
- Sex outside relationship isn't as good
If you live alone and without a roommate, then there are extra cons but I guess that some of the ones said do not apply as long as some pros do not apply. Depending of how close you are with your roommate, do the math.
- You don't have anyone to help you in an EMERGENCY
- Cost of living is higher
- No daily human connection (depending on your work) which is one of the worse things...
- It sucks!
I would say:
A good relationship > Single with a good roommate > Single > Single with a bad roommate > A bad relationship
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Pros:
-Don't have to focus on another individual and their challenges.
-Free to do your own bidding and live your life without having to consider your partner's desires and goals that can interfere.
-Saving money
-No pressure to go above and beyond to make someone happy.
-Free to enjoy new potential partners eithout any restrictions.
Cons:
-Your relationships need to be strong with friends and family.
-Sex and intimate relationships will not be as frequent and it can be tough if casual flings are hard to come by or not your style.
-Loneliness can grow and become more preferred.
-Earning potential goes down.
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Pros: "freedom" however you define it. Some would say finances, some would say the whole bed, some would say to make their own choices. I think any and all of that is true.
The con for me is not being part of something larger. That's what a real relationship is. Being part of something larger. Yes, it's two (? or more?) people surrendering parts of themselves but the joy in that is pretty much indescribable and, even more, what you can create out of that is even bigger. In relationships 1+1 is so much more than 2. And that applies to whatever. Food, house, kids, laughing, fall leaves, bills, anger, problem solving, whatever. Like a wave will amplify a wave, a relationship can amplify each other. And, yes, just like waves can create dissonance, so can relationships. For me they're still the better alternative.
Relationships aren't for everyone and that's cool. But they're pretty awesome.
Thanks, as always, @msputiton for a thought provoking question.
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hmmm... honestly
I have never ever seen is as a list of pro and cons, for me personally... whether I am single or in a relationship is just a natural choice and also circumstance, so I really have not sat around to write down pros and cons...
I have been happy and content with both, being in a relationship and also being single, because it has been always my choice to be and to do so, and also do it according to my circumstances at the moment... I do it for the right reasons, so it always feels right to me, whichever status it is
so the last thing I would like to do is to come out with "cons" that could make me feel bad about my situation, or about "pros" that could make me feel like I am missing out -
Tough to answer one mans pro can be another mans con being single to me is mostly fine the heart can't miss what the heart never had I never dated and was considered to be a weird freak I don't see myself as anything women would dream of and I have a lot of baggage in the for of mental health and general health problems which put ladies off so I never think of the pros and cons of this subject just I am single and get on with life it was never a decision I made more one that I couldn't help
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Pros: No drama, no dumb mofo ringing my doorbell at 1:13 AM sayin he been callin' to come for his "bootycall" and I gotta deck him right in the throat because it IS 1:13 IN DA MO-
Cons: No one can agree with my underwear choice when I think they're cute.
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I was single by choice for a long period of time.
I could come and go as I pleased, buy what I wanted, date who I wanted, and go home with whomever.
I was a caretaker of a huge hose on a lake, so I kept my ski boat there, and had friends that lived not too far away that also took car of an estate.
We had access to great spots for parties, went to the bars on the lake and it was like wabbit season for Elmer Fudd.
Once the women learned that we lived on the lake and had one of our boats there of course they wanted to go for a ride.
That was about all it took.
I also went on motorcycle trips, just had all sorts of fun traveling.
Life was good.
The cons were other than my friends I was never close to anyone special.
Holidays were spent at my families house.
It was fine, but sometimes you just miss being close to someone.
I have no regrets on how I lived my life.
It was a lot of fun.
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Pros
● you have freedom in your life
● you don't have any responsibility to make the other person happy you don't have to make your decision just to make them happy
● you don't have to make time for them out of your busy schedule you can use free time to enjoy hobbies
●you can meet different people of opposition sex hangout with them and hook up as well or keep a friends with benefits
Cons
●I can't think of any as for me i have lot of emotional support from family and friends feel lonely -
Pro: no one questions my decisions, cooking for 1 is easier than 2, my finances are my finances.
I CAN SPREAD OUT ON THE BED!!!
Con: it gets lonely, I lack that sexual and intimate connection relying on friends and family for that social aspect of my life. - 3.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.
Pros:
- Not being bothered all the time
- Not having to spend money for no reason
- Don't have to deal with the emotional rollercoaster women have whenever they feel like it.
- Nobody is nagging me
- I do whatever I want
Cons:
NONE.
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I think the biggest thing only applies to sex. If you are sexually promiscuous, being single allows you to have sex with whomever you want, whenever you want. You can really only have sex or be romantic/flirty to your partner in a relationship. Most other things that people mention really depend on your relationship and whether or not you are married or share a bank account. I pretty much do the same things I did before getting a girlfriend except I cook more (because, unlike me, she perceives hunger), do some of her laundry when she's here (but I already did my own so it's not really noticeable), and talk to her a lot more on the phone (which means I talk more on the phone, as opposed to hardly ever). I still buy stuff I want, still do things I enjoy, and still make sure I am happy first.
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Pros : tons of free time to do what I want. Think how I want. Get to know myself more keep trying to improve myself. Be a better version of myself. More income for myself.
Cons : can feel lonely. I don't get to connect mentally and physically with anyone. Can get bored. I do less, in not a huge fan of doing certain things alone. I don't have the charisma to meet new people. I've always wanted to share life experiences with a special someone. I don't know if I could fully trust anyone to get that close to me, to accept me for me.
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Pros: you can do pretty much whatever you want whenever you want.
you don’t need anyones approval or permission to do what you want.
And you don’t spend as much money…cons: you don’t get anyone to really bond with.
you don’t get any physical connection.
you don’t get as much money coming in.
And you don’t get anyone to argue with… - 3.9K opinions shared on Dating topic.
There are no cons to being single except:
1. When you get old and have operations that require someone else to drive you home.
2. When you can car pool with your spouse if one of you has a car needing repair.
In both cases, you can usually find other workarounds. -
Pros
- Not having to consider a second person in your decisions
- Buying whatever grocery items you want
- Not having to get up early for another person
- Lots of space and time to develop within yourself and do things you like
Cons- Having to sleep alone
- Not having a constant companion
- Not being in love, with all the nice feelings attached to that
- Feeling lonely more often
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More time to plan, more flexible as in being solo come and go here and there without thinking (my partner has other plans) more me time, easier meal plan, i will be saving more energy to put in doing/learning something. I would do better economiclly but i wouldn't be living in a house, o would be living in a mich smaller department, smaller car so less gas. These are the pros. Cons! I will be all alone and i don't want that 🤷♂️
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Freedom of doing whatever you want during your free time and spend your money as you want.
Con it sucks to be sick or hurt because you still have to do everything. No one is going to cover for you.
Other than that each relationship can add or adjust all pros and cons. So they can be better or worse than being single. - 1.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.
Just having yourself to please is a big plus. On the other hand if you aren't content with your own company then I guess you could feel lonely.
Not having to go out for sex is a big plus of a relationship but then new girls are the most exciting. - 1.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.
Con: no cuddling and no sharing of your life with someone
Pro: you can do more stuff just for yourself
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