What do you consider the pros and cons for being single?

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FinalFantasyBro · Accepted Answer

As a single man I will list off all the positive and negative of being single.

Pros:

* The only person who you can prioritize is yourself considering you don't have to worry about another person.

*All of your hard-earned money tend to go into things that actually makes you happy.

* Once you leave out of your parents house and gain full independence you realize they I am the only sole decider in my life and I can decorate my places anyway I see fit.

* You can hook up with many random men and women as you want and don't feel guilty about being a cheating bastard or bitch because agian you aren't in a actual relationship yourself.

* Not have to worry about making a lifestyle where you have to compromise because agian the only person who matters is you.

* No having to listen to other people noises or cleaning up after others only your stuff would be needing to get cleaned.

Cons:

× This is probably the main thing but you will feel lonely not having a special guy or girl waiting with their arms out open for you. Especially if you notice all these happy couples going out together! (Trust me sometimes I experience that feeling!)

× While it's true you have a whole place for yourself, it's a much bigger challenge since you not in a relationship you will be the sole house cleaner and the person who needs to pay all the bills. And unlike having a special girl or guy who can help you possibly fix something all that shit will fall on your hands.

× You have to find other ways to find meaningful interactions like keeping in contact with your family and going out of your way to make friends or else again you will feel lonely.

× While you can have sex with any person it still would be just that casual hook up sex, it's not like making love to the lady or gentlemen who will be always right by your side.

× I don't know if you get scared of being alone but yes you will have zero interaction around the house it's just be your own company.

ObscuredBeyond · Accepted Answer

Pros: - She can't backstab you if she doesn't exist. - She can't be abducted / stolen away if she doesn't exist. - She can't get sick and die on you if she doesn't exist, nor OD on something illegal and leave you without words for your grief. - Don't have to check that she's actually a real chick. In past decades, this was usually not an issue. In today's Clown World, pretenders and crazies are suddenly everywhere, until you wonder if anything is still real. - No girl means she's also not a bot. - My publication projects get their time prioritized. - Less temptation to go overboard (can't screw her if she doesn't exist.) - No one touches my phone except me. - If you've never met her, and she plays disappearing games, you can't get hurt. Cons: - Lonely. - Family treats you like an underachiever. - Want kids, but they'll never happen. - Trolls will use your singleness against you, even in the event of debates that originally had nothing to do with relationships. When they can't win the actual argument, will endlessly deflect to theories on why you're single, and how it influences the strawman position they assign you in the place of your actual position, either just to troll or because they're actually that dumb.  - Flesh and blood contact is so much more fulfilling than any amount of natter on Instagram. - Desire to make the social pressures shut their pie holes already can lead to careless decisions in search of a partner. Not even so much because you're into her, but because of the peace of mind of finally getting to flip the bird at everything that was previously nagging at you. "Why haven't I? Why can't I? Why don't I? Just did! Bugger off!" - I enjoy tonsil hockey. And shower foreplay. Without the girl, these aren't a reality.

Emiliamazing · Accepted Answer

Pros:
you are responsible for your own decisions and how they impact you and you only.
Cons:

If you were seeking emotional bonds, you must rely on your friends and family for this feeling.
Often times it is easier to achieve a wide variety of goals when you have a partner working with you to achieve those goals.

when you say single, I am referring to a lifestyle with no children, and no previous baggage.

Pink2000 · Accepted Answer

Being single is amazing. I was in a long relationship that finally ended for good and as much as I was in love I’m happier single. I got into a serious relationship too young.
pros

you don’t have to answer to anyone, come and go as you please, no arguments, freedom, talk to whoever you want, have sex with whoever you want

cons

Possible loneliness

SwellStroke · Answer

Pros:

No intervention or consideration to as what I am doing, where I am going, if I left the toilet seat up or down*generally still down incase I wake up and go to sit, yes that kind of tea bag will wake you up, and not in a good way* choice of where my finances will go.

Cons:

Being informed where I am going, when I am going, and how I am going. waiting hours to hear what kind of food they want, to then spend another hour to have changed their mind and say they aren't hungry anymore. Sharing my paycheck leaving me with enough for coffee through the week.

Now serious note, if you can not tell most of this is taking points that could be considered, though they both have ups and downs. I think its ultimately the induvial and finding the crazy that matches your own. Or as Hedwig sang about in Origin of Love. 3 Races, the Double males, the Double Females, and the Male/Female giants separated into singles whom are all trying to get back to one another.

Hedwig and the Angry Inch --

https://www.youtube.com/embed/_zU3U7E1Odc

YourFavoriteFriend · Answer

I hope I can add something new. Here is my take:

PROS:

I don't have anyone to piss me off
I have all my money to be spent on me (and of course less expenses)
I am free to do whatever I want with my free time
I'm 100% sure she will not betray me
I don't have to worry if my behavior is liked or not (hence always been myself) and If I make her happy or sad with my actions
I don't have to do things that I truly and 100% want to do
I don't have to worry if she's gonna get hurt when I'm not with her (or even when I am with her) or get sick and die etc.
My happiness is determined 100% by only me
I can have sex with as many people as I want and don't have to wait till she's in mood

CONS:

I don't have anyone to piss me off (I'm lonely)
I don't have anyone to share my stuff and life with
I am free to do whatever I want with my free time (I'm bored and I don't know what to do most of the time)
I don't have anyone to feel like it's worth to keep trying/fighting and getting better for
I don't have even the slightest help dealing with my problems and everyday tasks
I don't have anyone to cuddle with in the night ☹️
Sex outside relationship isn't as good

If you live alone and without a roommate, then there are extra cons but I guess that some of the ones said do not apply as long as some pros do not apply. Depending of how close you are with your roommate, do the math.

You don't have anyone to help you in an EMERGENCY
Cost of living is higher
No daily human connection (depending on your work) which is one of the worse things...
It sucks!

I would say:

A good relationship > Single with a good roommate > Single > Single with a bad roommate > A bad relationship

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Pros:

-Don't have to focus on another individual and their challenges.

-Free to do your own bidding and live your life without having to consider your partner's desires and goals that can interfere.

-Saving money

-No pressure to go above and beyond to make someone happy.

-Free to enjoy new potential partners eithout any restrictions.

Cons:

-Your relationships need to be strong with friends and family.

-Sex and intimate relationships will not be as frequent and it can be tough if casual flings are hard to come by or not your style.

-Loneliness can grow and become more preferred.

-Earning potential goes down.

SnowedIn · Answer

Pros: "freedom" however you define it. Some would say finances, some would say the whole bed, some would say to make their own choices. I think any and all of that is true.

The con for me is not being part of something larger. That's what a real relationship is. Being part of something larger. Yes, it's two (? or more?) people surrendering parts of themselves but the joy in that is pretty much indescribable and, even more, what you can create out of that is even bigger. In relationships 1+1 is so much more than 2. And that applies to whatever. Food, house, kids, laughing, fall leaves, bills, anger, problem solving, whatever. Like a wave will amplify a wave, a relationship can amplify each other. And, yes, just like waves can create dissonance, so can relationships. For me they're still the better alternative.

Relationships aren't for everyone and that's cool. But they're pretty awesome.

Thanks, as always, @msputiton for a thought provoking question.

NathanDavis · Answer

hmmm... honestly

I have never ever seen is as a list of pro and cons, for me personally... whether I am single or in a relationship is just a natural choice and also circumstance, so I really have not sat around to write down pros and cons...

I have been happy and content with both, being in a relationship and also being single, because it has been always my choice to be and to do so, and also do it according to my circumstances at the moment... I do it for the right reasons, so it always feels right to me, whichever status it is

so the last thing I would like to do is to come out with "cons" that could make me feel bad about my situation, or about "pros" that could make me feel like I am missing out

beast25179 · Answer

Tough to answer one mans pro can be another mans con being single to me is mostly fine the heart can't miss what the heart never had I never dated and was considered to be a weird freak I don't see myself as anything women would dream of and I have a lot of baggage in the for of mental health and general health problems which put ladies off so I never think of the pros and cons of this subject just I am single and get on with life it was never a decision I made more one that I couldn't help

Sour-rose · Answer

Pros: No drama, no dumb mofo ringing my doorbell at 1:13 AM sayin he been callin' to come for his "bootycall" and I gotta deck him right in the throat because it IS 1:13 IN DA MO-

Cons: No one can agree with my underwear choice when I think they're cute.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I was single by choice for a long period of time.

I could come and go as I pleased, buy what I wanted, date who I wanted, and go home with whomever.

I was a caretaker of a huge hose on a lake, so I kept my ski boat there, and had friends that lived not too far away that also took car of an estate.

We had access to great spots for parties, went to the bars on the lake and it was like wabbit season for Elmer Fudd.

Once the women learned that we lived on the lake and had one of our boats there of course they wanted to go for a ride.

That was about all it took.

I also went on motorcycle trips, just had all sorts of fun traveling.

Life was good.

The cons were other than my friends I was never close to anyone special.

Holidays were spent at my families house.

It was fine, but sometimes you just miss being close to someone.

I have no regrets on how I lived my life.

It was a lot of fun.

Tina19 · Answer

Pros

● you have freedom in your life
● you don't have any responsibility to make the other person happy you don't have to make your decision just to make them happy
● you don't have to make time for them out of your busy schedule you can use free time to enjoy hobbies
●you can meet different people of opposition sex hangout with them and hook up as well or keep a friends with benefits

Cons
●I can't think of any as for me i have lot of emotional support from family and friends feel lonely

Kori1236 · Answer

Pro: no one questions my decisions, cooking for 1 is easier than 2, my finances are my finances.
I CAN SPREAD OUT ON THE BED!!!

Con: it gets lonely, I lack that sexual and intimate connection relying on friends and family for that social aspect of my life.

Fuentes · Answer

Pros:

Not being bothered all the time
Not having to spend money for no reason
Don't have to deal with the emotional rollercoaster women have whenever they feel like it.
Nobody is nagging me
I do whatever I want

Cons:

NONE.

Twalli · Answer

I think the biggest thing only applies to sex. If you are sexually promiscuous, being single allows you to have sex with whomever you want, whenever you want. You can really only have sex or be romantic/flirty to your partner in a relationship. Most other things that people mention really depend on your relationship and whether or not you are married or share a bank account. I pretty much do the same things I did before getting a girlfriend except I cook more (because, unlike me, she perceives hunger), do some of her laundry when she's here (but I already did my own so it's not really noticeable), and talk to her a lot more on the phone (which means I talk more on the phone, as opposed to hardly ever). I still buy stuff I want, still do things I enjoy, and still make sure I am happy first.

Paul09 · Answer

Pros : tons of free time to do what I want. Think how I want. Get to know myself more keep trying to improve myself. Be a better version of myself. More income for myself.

Cons : can feel lonely. I don't get to connect mentally and physically with anyone. Can get bored. I do less, in not a huge fan of doing certain things alone. I don't have the charisma to meet new people. I've always wanted to share life experiences with a special someone. I don't know if I could fully trust anyone to get that close to me, to accept me for me.

Wish4UrB00ty · Answer

Pros: you can do pretty much whatever you want whenever you want.
you don’t need anyones approval or permission to do what you want.
And you don’t spend as much money…

cons: you don’t get anyone to really bond with.
you don’t get any physical connection.
you don’t get as much money coming in.
And you don’t get anyone to argue with…

abc3643 · Answer

There are no cons to being single except:
1. When you get old and have operations that require someone else to drive you home.
2. When you can car pool with your spouse if one of you has a car needing repair.
In both cases, you can usually find other workarounds.

NZGirl07 · Answer

Pros

Not having to consider a second person in your decisions
Buying whatever grocery items you want
Not having to get up early for another person
Lots of space and time to develop within yourself and do things you like

Cons

Having to sleep alone
Not having a constant companion
Not being in love, with all the nice feelings attached to that
Feeling lonely more often

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

More time to plan, more flexible as in being solo come and go here and there without thinking (my partner has other plans) more me time, easier meal plan, i will be saving more energy to put in doing/learning something. I would do better economiclly but i wouldn't be living in a house, o would be living in a mich smaller department, smaller car so less gas. These are the pros. Cons! I will be all alone and i don't want that 🤷‍♂️

Adam1978 · Answer

Freedom of doing whatever you want during your free time and spend your money as you want.

Con it sucks to be sick or hurt because you still have to do everything. No one is going to cover for you.

Other than that each relationship can add or adjust all pros and cons. So they can be better or worse than being single.

RavVid · Answer

Just having yourself to please is a big plus. On the other hand if you aren't content with your own company then I guess you could feel lonely.

Not having to go out for sex is a big plus of a relationship but then new girls are the most exciting.

melanieeeB · Answer

Con: no cuddling and no sharing of your life with someone Pro: you can do more stuff just for yourself

mattclark242 · Answer

pro date anyone you want or sleep with anyone you want.

Pro chat with as many guys and girls as you want with out someone say you are cheating.

pro no drama Unless the someone you hook up with made drama with you (I. E a baby) or they are mad at you for something or they gave you something.

cons - No one to help you improve yourself

cons- No one hit your phone up

cons - no one to kiss or chat or sleep with lonely Saturday nights

Mtbgirl · Answer

Freedom. Lol. Kidding. I like being in a relationship but some times it’s draining. But it’s definitely nice to have someone that looks after you. But with that also comes with headaches. Right ! So I do enjoy my time alone. It’s a time to regroup and spend time with family and friends. I feel when in a relationship, friends end up taking a back seat.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

To be honest:

Pros: its amazing if you have strong self confidence and get along with yourself very well; you are free to do what YOU want and no compromises with someone; no drama; peace; travelling alone is easier and you are more adaptive

Cons: no emotional support & you have to manage that alone; loneliness when coming home from work; no one to share and enjoy time together; no one that truly understands you and feels good with you

maximumpower · Answer

Pro:
- Your money is just that - YOUR money
- Freedom (cannot be overestimated)
- No drama

Con:
- Third wheel at family events
- Loneliness (never a problem for many)
- Moral support (always at a cost, tho)
- Family

AFAIC, single is THE way to go - especially in the day and age of "empowerment" and "equality."

exitseven · Answer

I liked not having to answer to anyone else. I didn't like that nobody cared what I did anyway.

inhua · Answer

pros - more independence, less expectations and less responsibility cons - more stigmatization and negative connotations e. g. "oh she must be crazy" and "oh he must be a weirdo creep"

DoctorSex · Answer

As an INTJ male,  There are no cons to being single lol  The pros are endless. Time, resources, self development. Kind regards, DoctorSex

jimmy2 · Answer

Prison; it's all good. Leave, go, do what you want. Eat sleep join in when you want

Cons
No one to talk to. To make love to. To hold. To know that she will be with me always.

So it's kinda do if you damn
N and don't id you damn

AsaKyo · Answer

Pros:
- No relationship drama
- More time to yourself
- Get to keep money in your pocket

Cons:
- No one to hold, kiss, cuddle, etc
- Very susceptible to depression or loneliness

That's all I got lmao

TroyDT2 · Answer

Pros: can do what I want with my free time, with whom I chose, spending whatever I want to spend on what I want to spend it on.

Cons: umm, no one to remind me when I've been in my studio for too many hours?

bigpauly · Answer

I enjoy the freedom of being single. I can do what I want whenever without really thinking about it.
the cons would be when I could use emotional support on a level that you can really only get from being in a relationship.

dustybiker · Answer

Pros- freedom  Cons- not having that rock in your life that makes everything better.

bananathunder · Answer

Pro: Freedom, My own hoodies, Toilet seat options Con: Loneliness, Increased masturbation, Cum everywhere

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

There aren't any pros. The cons are being bored way more often, paying twice as much in rent and utilities, and a lack of sexual affection.

Kevinb18222 · Answer

I was single for 7 years and liked it. No stress. No fear of getting my heart broken. The bad part is is it does suck being alone sometimes. When you’re having a bad day it’s nice to have someone who cares how you’re doing.

Smoothing · Answer

The pros are that you have a peaceful life and can do whatever you want. The cons are that you get no sex or satisfactory one for that matter.

aaron210419 · Answer

Pro: you're free to do whatever you want (if you can figure out what that is) Con: it's easy to isolate yourself and wind up finding yourself completely alone.

mT2359 · Answer

Pros: Freedom, non-interference, No strings, Selfishness about your needs.  Cons: Feeling left out from couple activities, less sharing of feelings, not being taken care of your needs by your partner.

peacesncream · Answer

Pro is I do what I want con is need someone from time to time

humanearth · Answer

Pro You can have sex with yourself and not be judge Con It's lonely has hell

Truthatanycost · Answer

Pros: Pure freedom. Cons: Impure freedom.

Pete671 · Answer

Pro - you can watch whatever porn you like, xdress at home and masturbate freely,,, Cons - poor social life, loneliness eg if you want to eat out,,,

Kayokenx3 · Answer

Pro: Being able to do what you want, when, wherever, and however you like. Con: Finding that special somebody to do the things you want to due to many issues of both men and women individually.

Rangers · Answer

You'd save money being single and there's only one person to pay for but that's it for men

JSmuve · Answer

Pro: you don't have to deal with someone else Con: none

LordOfThePines · Answer

You are beholden to nobody, your time and affection are yours to use as you see fit. But it can be lonely.

ghostfoxgoddess · Answer

Pros are -i don't have to worry about losing you _freedom Cons Its lonely Frustration n feeling left out You feel unwanted at times

Damian69 · Answer

You have more time to yourself, but might get lonely

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Cons are less sex and intimacy. Pros are everything else if you can take care of yourself

Amur8711 · Answer

Pros, no relationship stress, cons no one to make happy or share with.

Anonymous · Answer

Pros Freedom over everything in life Cons  No companionship

Anonymous · Answer

For guys…. pros: more money, more freedom, more happiness, more success, more friends, more things, more adventure, more sex cons: ___

Anonymous · Answer

being single and fuck around is good thing.. everything free

SlothySlob · Answer

You're on your own! But you're on your own...

Anonymous · Answer

I can't think of one single pro.

ZenJen444 · Answer

Same as @Fuentes

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