What are the pros and cons of being single? Do you think single life sucks?
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No legitimate con to being single other than having more work to structure your social life in a way that fulfills you if it doesn't already. And being willing to let people go if you want to maintain that single life if it comes down to it.
Because in my experience girls don't spend their time with a guy unless they consider him at least at some point down the road as a potential longterm partner on average. So inevitably the question about the relationship will come up.
She might agree to continue without being in a relationship, but some girls won't and you'llhave to be exclusive or end things. Or they'll agree thinking that you'll change your mind and have Hang-Ups about it later so the relationship is worse off because of the change in her
Pros:
- Spend your time with whoever, whenever if both schedules permit
- Can move locations easily and quickly. Everyone in your life will understand
- more energy to build something of substance
- fewer arguments/BS to deal with that isn't directly tied to your work or business
- as a man your cost of living goes down pretty substantially. When you have a girl that's not the case.
- if you've put in the footwork you can just call someone up for a sex appointment and general hangout without all the extra time requirements day to day. They know you have shit to do and are accommodating of your time.
Like other than wanting to have kids now and not having them currently, leading to a void... I can't think of a downside. Don't get me wrong being in a happy relationship with someone you're madly in love with is very fulfilling exciting, and we buy the whole lot of positive emotions
But having a really good single life is amazing in so many ways, especially if you're building a life of substance. Any downside so I can come up with there's a solution to it as a single person.
Someone to talk to you? You have friends and family for that. Don't want to sleep alone? You can call some of that pretty easily for that. Granted as a guy you may have to put in a little work first before you're doing that, but nonetheless you can
You want that connection with people? Go out and connect with people, be your true self with them and really emotionally Bond. You don't have to be tied to someone in a monogamous relationship in order to have a connection with them or sex
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Pro: No maintenance.
Con :Everything is on you.
Pro: Family isn't passing judgment on her.
Con: Family is passing judgment on you because she doesn't exist. They want grandchildren.
Pro: Reduced risk of anyone slashing your tires or cutting your brake lines.
Con: Your job is never good enough. Family puts you down for being unable to find a better one. Without her, it's all about money.
Pro: If she doesn't exist, she can't have an opinion about my hobbies.
Con: I still have to enjoy them alone.
Pro: Family can't accuse you of not saving yourself for marriage if there's no one there to skip steps with.
Con: Only makes you wanna get it over with faster, and makes skipping steps sound more appealing.
Pro: More money in the bank.
Con: Fantasy women can only distract you from your misery for so long.
Pro: Cock block patrol less likely to harass you.
Con: Some of them will still find a way. It's always worse when they're on you over your nonexistent interactions with nonexistent women! The only thing worse than a misguided white knight, is a misguided white knight defending maidens that aren't even there!
Pro: If she doesn't exist, she can't humiliate you if your junk is inadequate. She'll never see it!
Con: You'll still get BS emails from total strangers claiming to have revenge porn of you, that's logistically impossible for them to have!
Pro: She can't put you down over what you're not comfortable trying on her.
Con: Sometimes, you just wanna hug and watch the sunset together. Her gleefully taking a bratwurst between the salmon fillets can wait. But neither scenario will ever happen, so back to finding those lesser magistrates that will be needed to arrest Obama and his puppet Brandon.
Pro: No worrying about the geopolitical ramifications of finding a foreign flame.
Con: But her one nip slip will stay with you forever. Her smile, those adventures... now only faint memories. Your hatred for Pooh's government has neverending fuel, because of all the nostalgia you can't get back.
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Pro's: - more free time and no restrictions. Moving somewhere? No problem. Traveling with friends/family/alone? No problem. Go clubbing? No problem. Mostly boyfriends want to hang out at least once per week and it can be hard when you wanna see many friends and family, do 3 sports and study at the same time. Must admit that this is now less of a pro now in coronatimes.
- Dates are expensive so being single is cheaper.
- not being in a toxic relationship. This is the best pro tbh.
- not being dependent on another person to feel loved. I personally hate this dependence.
- not having to adapt to another person. Your partner wants you to know where you are or when you're gonna hangout again or how often we should text etc. This can be exhausting in the beginning.
Con's: - you basically don't have a person that feels really responsible for your well-being. Sure family and friends do kinda, but you can't expect them to come at night when you have the worst period cramps and you just want to snuggle.
- missing out on physical intimacy. After a little while I do crave for sex bc my own work is not enough. Then you get a friends with benefits but it's always drama and the sex is nowhere as good as it would be with someone you like.
- for me at least, I wanna travel over the world, but many countries are unsafe for a single woman (or two girls) to travel to. A man would be helpful. Luckily in coronatimes I can barely travel anyways.
- people asking why you are single and older people wanting to set you up with their musty sons/guys they know.
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I think it depends on the gender and since this site is used by mostly americans i will try to tell my points in their perspective. I just realized many people on gag are conservative/traditional and so i will just include this too.
Pros for (traditional/conservative) men: not spending money on dates or on women since traditionally men pay
Pro for all people: less drama/ responsibility; no "wasting" time on your partner and you can use all of this time for you
Cons for men: getting virgin shamed; no sexual and romantic experience; loneliness, feeling like a leftover etc.
Cons for women: getting shamed on for not finding a man to marry; feeling the pressure to marry and to get kids;worrying about "wasting" your youth/time since it is important for some (/many?) men according to my experience with gag guys; feeling like a leftover; no romantic and sexual experience ; (afraid of not finding a husband before aging aka "hitting the wall" at 30 )
Ok this is a little too biased and i also can't generalize, of course. I also include my feelings and experience. I am also sorry if this post offends anyone
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Pros:
• you can do whatever you want without giving explanations to anyone.
• you save a lot of money since you don't have to go to dates.
• you can flirt shamelessly
• you have time to your friends
Cons:
• you don't have a love life/sex life (sex in case you don't do flings)
• people think there's something wrong with you because you can't find someone to love you
• you don't have that special someone to have a deep connection and rely on - 343 opinions shared on Dating topic.
I am also single and trust me it is honestly a 50/50.
Pro
Freedom- as a single man/woman your world is literally your own oyster, you aren't tied down to anyone and don't have to share anything because you life is your own life.
More Money- As a single person if you are working and making your money, you realize you don't have to purchase gifts or take them out on dates because you don't have a significant other. It is amazing because the only romantic partner is yourself and obviously who doesn't know how to gift their own selves.
No Baggage- Usually having a SO sometimes come with problems, you and your special man/woman might unfortunately get into arguments, plus you have to make compromise with everything. Since you don't have anyone in particular you don't have to worry about petty relationship problems. It is super calming and great not having a person constantly putting you down or criticizing you.
You are the main focused- Remember when I stated that you have to compromise with your boyfriend/girlfriend if you are dating, it is truth dating and marriage is a partnership. You have heard the expression "there is no I in team" because you guys are officially a team but as a single person you are the focus you do everything for yourself, want to buy something as long you have money go nuts. Planning on a specific trip but worry about pissing off your guy/girl, haha what girl/guy you are the guy or girl. Have any activities that you actually want to do.
Living Alone- While it might be a little more difficult compared to having a roommate or a significant other, it would be entirely worth it. You are the sole owner of your own place, you can literally do whatever you want, take your clothing off, I actually am going to do just that once I live on my own. You can decorate the place in everything you see fit without having to have a input with the so because you aren't dating or married.
Sex- While of course you can have sex with a SO but you can only have sex with the person you are dating otherwise you just cheated on your romantic partner. But here is the jeez you are a single guy/girl you can realistically have sex with as many people as you want and not feel guilty about them because you isn't in a relationship with someone, you are basically a free spirit.
Con
Lonely- Being single might come with tons of freedom and independence, it also comes with the disappointment of feeling alone. You will see all the happy couples on the street or going to places and you constantly realize you don't have that special someone wrap around your shoulder.
Living Together- So you might not be as free around your house unlike the single individual but you suddenly come to not mind having a person around you especially living with you. It is far cheaper because remember you two are a partnership, you guys can split the bills and mortgage between each other so you don't have to be the sole person who is paying bills.
Valentine Day- This day is not entirely special but knowing that you have a SO who you can exchange present with each other and possibly spend romantically the entire day with instead of being a single person who just spending Valentine's Day completely dateless and straight up alone.
Becoming A Parent- Of course you can be a single mom/dad but it is a tad easier being parents with your significant other because you guys can split tasks involving your children instead of being the sole responsible father or mother. (This only applies if you are interested in becoming a parent.)
Sex- While single men and single women aren't tied down with a specific partner they will eventually feel like they are wasting their precious sexual time constantly jerking themselves off or basically jumping bed to bed with random strangers. As an actual person who is dating someone you now a specific person who constantly enjoy having sex as much as you do plus it honestly feels nicer because you have a significant other who understand! -
I prefer the single life. Especially after all of the shitty experiences I've had.
While in a relationship in the past I've only felt suffocated, worried, Anxious, tired, stressed, and abused.
While single for the past 6 years going on 7, I've felt like I've had far more independence than I otherwise would if I were with a woman. I've also changed so much for the better over the course of those 6 years being single and they're all changes that I allow myself to go through. No woman attempting to change me into someone they want.
I've made great friends who I can hang out with and do things with and majority of them I even work with! If I had a relationship with a woman they wouldn't let me go out and hang with the guys as often as I currently do.
All I know are pros of being single. I can hardly think of any cons sense I despise Sexual intercourse and I don't feel the need to have any intimate relations. I guess the need goes away sooner for some men than it does for others. 🤷🏻♂️ I've learned that I won't be lonely if I have good friends to do stuff with who actually care about my well being. -
First of all acknowledge the fact that It's okay being single.
Not everyone can get a relationship due to many reasons and some of them aren't even in their control for instance if you're ugly due to you're genetics but it's not your fault that you were given bad genetics but still it does affect you, most people want a good looking partner with good genetics. People will not be physically attracted to you because of that. But if you get rich still people aren't attracted to you but to your wealth. Because your wealth some people might show a little interest but that interest is about your wealth only not about you and such relationships are not worth it.
My point is relationship are not for everyone and absolutely ok if you're single and it equally ok that nobody is attracted to you or you're not attracted to anybody. No need to be sad about it.
End of the day what matters is happiness. And to be happy relationship is not compulsory as you know most happiest people are Buddhists monks. -
Hmm... It actually doesn't suck. And it does too.
It depends on where your heads at.
I'm crushing on my male best friend who has a girlfriend 💔. And I'm single.
So yeah it sucks in the sense that I feel left out from the dating world
And it doesn't, because I have goals I wanna achieve and they are fun doing alone
Pro would be
It's just you doing your thing. Enjoying life alone before you decide to add a constant person
Con would be
You're alone and can't do date nights 😊 - 2K opinions shared on Dating topic.
I really like girls and sex. I had girlfriends from the time I was 16. I love being in relationships.
Not being in a relationship means constantly thinking about and seeking sex. But sex with random girls and without connection, was unsatisfactory for me.
In my mid-30s, I started thinking about finding a life partner and settling down for good. I had a couple more girlfriends, one of whom was a treasure. I virtually lived with her for over a year. Alas, a lifetime together with her was not meant to be, but I still love her with my heart and soul and cherish the time we had together.
Then I met my future wife. I married her when I was 42. We've been married now for 25 years and I couldn't be happier. She's my partner in life and the best friend I ever had. We've built a really good life together. I can't imagine life without her.
I hated being single in the times when I didn't have a girlfriend. It's no fun. - 372 opinions shared on Dating topic.
If you can’t learn to love being with yourself how can you have a happy life if you need to depend on others?
Single isn’t so bad because you NEVER have to live with another persons drama. I loved that while being single however when I became I’ll or when I was injured it’s a huge benefit to always have someone there for you and take care of you, look after you, talk sense into you when you’re in a difficult situation, have sex with, etc
I think being in a relationship is better than being single but some people really are in shitty relationships that they shouldn’t have ever been involved with in the first place. -
I don't know about pros and cons but I know that when I was in a relationship I subconsciously missed being single - it's less pressure and expectations of course being in a relationship was comforting and helpful especially because I always had someone to talk through problems and stuff I was going through with but being single makes me feel lighter and relieved because in the least slutty way possible I realised how many people who were my guy friends I had subconsciously pushed away just for the other person. I think either is good - it just depends on where you are in your life which is better.
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Personally, i felt that the first 2.5 years of my experience w/ dating apps was fun. It was easy to feel optimistic/excited for that first while of time but after the 3rd year of swiping I was starting to get tired of being single.
That 3rd year progressed into another year of the same “game” but just @a different level w/ myself.
After 5 fucking years of that ongoing experience, I ~finally~ found my person in early 2021 and holy crap: I really love being in a relationship wayyyy more than whatever those perks of being single could offer.
So: pros of a relationship - literally sharing your day to day life w/ someone you're genuinely attracted to inside and out + the comfort of physical affection.
Cons: any potential thing that could cause a form of disharmony whilst together. Lol
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Pros: self development, hobbies, work out more. Get into a routine, less stress/drama and anxiety. Increased self esteem. More 💰, more free time and freedom. Meet more people and flirt. Grounded and reliable. I don't have someone pointing out my faults and bad habits. I don't get triggered with insecurity and jealously.
Cons: Nosex or intimacy. No plus 1 or "social security" Lonliness, depression and fewer milestone moments. Hooking up ND friends with benefits is only fun for a few months and their usually full of drama and not worth it. Settling for medicore sex with a guy who doesn't care for you is sad. - 9.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.
I used to think so. But when you realize how shallow an unengaged most people are you come to the realization you aren't really missing much. I mean what's the point of being with someone if you're still really alone? Also you don't have to be with someone to love them and care about them. I got 2 ears and I can listen to those that need it. I have a mouth and I can give encouragement to those when it's needed. And I have 2 arms and can give a hug when someone is feeling weak. I have faith that if God wants me to meet someone who will become my partner then it will happen. Till then I'm content to do his will.
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Pros:
- More freedom
- More money
- Less worrying about your physical appearance
Cons:
- Crippling loneliness (if you're not a female)
- No sex (if you're not a female or good looking)
- No family or kids (usually)
I personally think being single sucks despite what the media tries to tell you nowadays. However, I think being with the wrong person is even worse than being single. -
I like being single. I'm a senior in high school heading off to college in several months, and I like that I can plan my future without trying to fit in a relationship. It gets lonely sometimes, but having a partner would seriously inhibit my self discovery and I don't want that
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I enjoy the solitude too much only caring for myself only my own problems to deal with no issues no witnesses I’m a stranger unknown John Doe when I’m alone no attachments completely unhinged and free to do as I please no one asking questions if I could be the only person in this world I wouldn’t ask for anything else I have no problems utter euphoria when I’m isolated no noise no pest the rest of you are the problem I need to be alone I only tolerate people but I hate everyone for no reason other than existing booze and money are way more important to me than people
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No, and if you think life sucks being single.., this is why you're single. You won't get a good relationship until you're happy by yourself and realize there's more to life than relationships. I'm never interested in one. I'm a pretty girl in a small town so there's not many selection of girls, and I get a lot of guys hitting on me because of that reason. However, I decline them all because I dont like relationships. I am happy with myself.
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Yeah; it sucks big fat monkey nuts. Because if your goal is to be in a long-term relationship, and you're not in ANY type of relationship, then you can't get any closer to achieving your goals. And that represents stagnation in life. Which is existentially distressing.
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Pros: Nobody can cheat on you being single, you dont have to report to anyone, you can have more self care time & drama free
Cons: Nobody to cuddle with when you feel lonely but you don't mind being alone, its complicated,& feeling like the outsider or third wheel if some of your friends have a partner and you dont, also dont forget seeing all the happy couples and in your head you're like oh shit.. im single. -
Cons
1. No sex, Obviously lol
2. No communication
Pros
1. Your entire income is Yours to keep
2. Explore your hobbies and interests to the Fullest
3. No need to give federal reports about your entire day
4. No arguments or fights
5. No mind games - 1.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.
No single life is for the most parts the easiest life you can live. It's only when your sick it really sucks. The rest is completely up to you. So there isn't one type of single life it mirror the person. That is for a guy. Girl can have an much easier life in a relationship if they don't become drama queens and wreck it. For a guy that option doesn't exist or is so rare that he can't expect to get a woman that let him live that life in peace. It would be like finding a unicorn.
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I’m single
to your pros
- I can’t do anything because I have school and work and my dad is sick so I have to take care of him, therefore how can I do anything?
- I don’t really have friends because they are busy or moved on with their life (ie: marriage or in a relationship)
- if I act like a proper, respectful, old school guy (meaning being chivalrous) it won’t matter. Girls get annoyed by flirting and I accepted I’m a piece of shit who doesn’t deserve love. I’ve also realized it doesn’t matter if I “focus” on myself, help others, pray for others, stay in shape, dress well, have good hygiene…All that is pointless.
My life is over ✌️ 👋
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