What matters more in a relationship — love or respect?

[HuangJingwen]

Love can bring two people together, but respect is what keeps them together.
Without respect, love becomes fragile — it turns into control, jealousy, or misunderstanding. Respect means seeing your partner as an equal, listening even when you disagree, and never using love as an excuse to hurt.

Love is the emotion; respect is the foundation. One touches the heart, the other protects it. When both exist, the relationship grows stronger, more stable, and more peaceful with time.

In my view, respect is the highest form of love — because when you truly respect someone, love naturally endures.

[ohsheeT]

Love is more than emotion love is more than a word. It the fibers of our universe of God's its everything at one time

Have you ever had someone making love to you non stop and orgasm after orgasm after even
More intense to where you become one with each other like a soft jello magnet pulling and pushing and holding each other so tight and at the same time flowing around each other and when you finish you roll off of each other and you go in to an out of body experience for like 20 to 30 min and the love and the peace you feel every where... And then you start to feel something touching your arm and you start to feel it even deeper you try to open your eyes, but you can't. And you fight and you fight and next thing. You know you open your eyes and look around because you don't know where you're at and then you realize you're in your room in your bed and it was the bed touching you

And that you just have the most beautiful outrageous craziest the best sex sex love making whatever you want to call it.
The most intense, beautiful feeling ever becoming one with another.


So it has to be love because with love you have to respect. You have to be the best of everything with love. It's woven into the word. Love everything the best of everything

[HawkPerception]

In many cases, people can love others without respecting them. Many new gen parents all claim they want to be their children's best friends, and have little to no discipline because they're afraid they might make them hate them. The kids are therefore raised not to respect their parents word and act as obnoxiously as they want.

In this scenario, which is a reality for so many practicing soft parenting, respect is actually the more important of the two. Love without respect is trash. It's like saying I love you then smacking someone and spitting in their face. And the thing is, the kids probably do love their parents and if they passed away, they would likely be sad. But in any relationship, respect is a must.

[FreyaRed]

If you make a question can you love someone you don't respect, the answer will be no. Maybe a mother loves her children without having respect in it's usual comprehension of this term for them but she doesn't disrespect them and she respects her own heritage in shape of her progeny.

Ergo. Love can't exist without some kind of respect, while respect can exist wothout love. The conclusion repsect is more important since it's level deeper, a foundation.

[RandomGirl42]

Oh, that is so well worded. I was going to use the example I love my nieces but don't respect them per se' like you would respect the ambassador of the galaxy or something but yes, you said perfectly.

[Vesuvius87]

Both love and respect are two in one. You just can't have one without the other. If someone doesn't loves me then they don't respect me. If someone doesn't respect me then they don't love me.

Without either of of them, there is no relationship.

[Finchie40]

Respect especially in a relationship, because without out it , the relationship and love won’t last long , yes you can still love them , even though you both aren’t together anymore , basically what i experienced with my ex , I still love her but i can’t stand her , she is a selfish disrespectful person that i no longer want to be a part of , after 20 years together , she changed on me big time and is no longer the love of my life , her disrespect and negativity and selfishness destroyed our connection together , like she turned into this demon bitch to me to the point I had to walk away. The negativity out weighed the positive. So for my own sanity I had to walk away. Now I am open to finding true love with a girl that actually has a good heart , that brings happiness into my life , not constant misery

[AviatorTom]

Respect. Without respect, it's impossible to love someone.

[DishLady]

Both. You don’t have LOVE without respect.

[RavVid]

I think there is a guy girl difference with respect to respect.

It seems very necessary to women that they feel respect for a man to bond with him. You see this a lot. A girl with a new boyfriend will emphasis how much she respects him. She will tell him she respects him. When a girl says she has lost respect for her boyfriend she will be out the door shortly later. "I can't see (i. e. respect ) him as a man anymore" is an equivalent statement.

Women are quite harsh in these judgments. Several women here have said that later statement, after pegging their boyfriend. I have heard women say they can't respect a male actor after he played a role that required him to cry.

For myself, what I respect in others, are skills in that I would like to have or to the degree they have. Not surprisingly these are exclusively masculine skills. I might admire the precision of needle point work but I have zero aspiration to do this, so I don't have any respect for that skill. Certainly not in the way I would respect the skill to build a brute of an off road racer.

It is more accurate to say I value feminine skills and traditional ones at that. I might see a woman interacting with a child in a way to encourage skill acquisition and be impressed. And value her and her skills.

I might meet a complete airhead clutz girl and fall in love with her despite not having respect for her capabilities. But she would have abilities that I valued.

The Hunter & Gatherer brain is still dominant in mate selection. HG women worked in the home range whilst HG men ranged in the abroad so our mate selection criteria is necessarily different.

Consequently women might need to respect whilst men might need to value.

[aaron13547]

Respect, both are high vibrational emotions. Respect is the "level" before love. I can't vibrate the vibration of love without having respect. Also I can't hold onto the vibration of love without vibrating respect. However I can respect someone and not yet love them... thats why I say it's the level before. I think they are of equal importance just respect is first.

[Amy10223]

They are equally important in order for any love or relationship to survive. One can exist without romantic love or any kind of love, as respect for someone like your boss, but love cannot exist or quickly dies down if there is no respect within the relationship.

[jshm2]

Lol. Neither.

Loyalty matters more in any relationship.

You get plenty of abusive partners who "love" their spouse. You get plenty of cheaters and fraudsters who "respect" their spouse.

But no one with loyalty will cross the line to do wrong.

[jazzy34]

I'm sorry, but you're incorrect. Love is not an emotion. Love is a choice. Love is knowing the good, the bad, and the ugly about a person, but still choosing to love them. Therefore, love and respect are of equal importance.

[Amy10223]

I am sorry, but love is not a choice. You do not dictate or choose WHO you will fall in love with. When Love chooses YOU, you can do whatever you can to control it--but it guides you with your heart. You cannot control it--it controls you.

[loveslongnails]

Your premise is rather fault when it comes to relationships. The only time I can imagine you would "love" someone but NOT respect them would be with children or siblings. In those cases, you may feel obligated to "love" a family member, but not to like them.

In a relationship, it would be impossible to truly "love" someone without respecting them, so I can't accept your premise.

[Purpleronnie]

Without respect I can’t possibly understand there being love , that just sounds twisted. I cannot even like someone I don’t respect let alone the idea that I could love them.

[rtj1211]

This all depends how you define 'love'.

To me, love is simply not possible without respect.

Lust is of course possible without it...

[MrOracle]

Women need love. Men need respect. Even the Bible makes that distinction, and modern psychology agrees.

[Anonymous]

When you say respect do you mean not cheating on her?

Or you mean talking to her with respect? Respecting her ideas and what she says?

I respect her but I don't love her and then I look for affection outside the relationship
But I still respect her

[Alex-Snow]

Good question. While love is a feeling that is hared by caring, touch, sex, and caring I think respect matters more. But I am young and not ready for marriage or even a ltr.

[chrissykerdock]

respect is everything without it you have nothing

[Twalli]

Respect. Lovers can cheat and still love the one they cheat on. However, if you respect the relationship and the person you are with, you won't cheat.

[Unap0logetic_]

For me personally, it’s respect that matters the most.

[HisBro]

In the long run, respect. In the short run, love.

[red-lipstick-girl]

SRespect is very important, otherwise love has no meaning.

[DavyJ]

It’s potentially a moot point; as love should be fostered through mutual respect and respect through mutual love for each other.