Why you are not getting loved the way you deserve

[dakraziest]

Every human on the planet is searching for a companion and most of them have over the years walked over too many bridges which has left thinking that maybe they aren't good enough. Doubts and fear cloud judgement and as humans we often beat ourselves down too hard when we fail specially when it comes to love.

Ask most people and they will say that you need to give love to get love, that you need to make your partner feel loved by you like nothing else but realistically speaking whenever someone does that they end up being hurt most often its the people who were loyal in their relationships, kept forgiving and did absolutely everything that should have made the other person value them so why do they fail?

The answer is simple, love is not just the other person. What most people get wrong is the fact that they need to love themselves before they can love themselves, for example a child cries out when he/she senses trouble, so how can this basic instinct the need to survive be left out when you are trying to please someone else. Women often complain that there husbands or long term boyfriends dont give them the same attention they used to back in the day but what most of those women forget to mention is the fact that they don't go to the extreme lenghts they used to when they were not commited or were in early stages of their relationship. Men often complain how demanding the women is after a few months but they forget that its them who spoiled her and in an effort to impress her in the first place they killed their own needs, desires and wants to win her over now that the period is over the supressed feelings come up like a buoy.....

If you want a healthy relation and are one of those who prefer the notion of love forever then you need to rethink your steps, put yourself before the person you are in love with (im not saying be selfish but be wise). If your emotional needs are met a lot of drama can be avoided and a lot of pain can be bypassed

[Zerodown]

I don't want love. I want to be a god. I want power. I want to control existence. Why would I care for a pathetic chemical reaction like love? Hahahahaaa what a damn joke.

Humanity is a damn joke, so weak, so pathetic. Reproduce like worthless insects lmao. I'll become a god. I'll control it all hahahaaaa

[MysteriousFlower]

I don't put myself first , generally speaking in this type of area. I do agree with this take though.

[Lonelywolf21]

This is so me right now, and especially a couple of weeks back ago. It was/still so hard to accept that you never would get in relationship with the girl you desired and loved so much. It was so hard to accept. It all came down to this: There were something not perfect with you, or you missed something. I know this isn't true and I knew it back then, but still a heartbreak is almost impossible to take.

[Diego9O]

It´s true, you have to learn to love yourself first before you get involve in a relationship otherwise you might feel you are not enough for that person and sooner or later that person is going to think you are afraid of commitment and the stability of the relationship will have flaws behind flaws.

You never will be able to love someone with everything if you don´t learn to love your self with everything.

[pyramid_princess]

I loved your take. Thank you for that!. It made meditate on my past failed relationships, and it gave me some things to think about for future relationships. I agree with everything you said 100%. You thought this out so well.

[Azara]

So. "Everyone needing to love themselves first "

translates into men need to love themselves first and women need to try harder...

[playdatesx]

This is such a good mytake. Everything here, I completely agree upon, 100%.

[dakraziest]

thank u

[emerald77]

This is very true. You should always put yourself first =]

[YourFutureEx]

Moral: Love yourself first?

[gonnadoitsomeday]

Wise advices... thanks man

[loveskittens]

That was very well said. I agree

[Aud_Queen]

Love this!

[Gabby21924]

Good take :)

[JackKerouac77]

Interesting take