How to make your friendship stronger?

[vekin]

Good friends are more worth then gold. Friends became a part of who you are. In this myTake I want to share my ideas about making friendships stronger.

1) Focus on what binds you. Things you have in common is the reason you are friends in the first place, focus on that.

2) Give yourself. Trust is in every kind of relationship important and so it isn’t different for a friendship. When you put yoru trust in your friend he or she is more willingly to trust you too.

3) Accept eachother completely. Accept the little unique triats of your friend. Friends are the same but sometimes also completely different. That’s fun but sometimes just irritating or annoying, but that’s ok.

4) Place yourself in the Shoes of your friend. Listen actively, ask questions to determine what the problem is and try to place yourself in that situation.

5) Show respect for his/her opion and life choices. There’s no need to agree about everything to have a great friendship. Friends may make their own choices and mistakes in life.

6) Keep working on the friendship. Create new memories together, do fun things together.

7) Make time to talk. By making time to have a real conversation the friendship can get an extra dimension.

[TheDevilInside]

If they're there for you during your bad times too, know that you've found gold. Don't lose it by not being there for them in their bad times. I've ended a few friendships because they weren't there for me during my bad times, when I needed them the most.

Bad times are where a friendship and a person is put on a test. Make sure you don't fail, if you really value your friend and your friendship.

[vekin]

Too bad some as ended in the past

[Despondency]

These will all make your friendships weaker, actually.

1) Focus on what binds you: "Yes, realize that your completely one-dimensional relationship is actually indeed one-dimensional. Focus on that. It will alleviate the constant state of paranoid boredom."

2) Give yourself: "... up! Invest and be vested in, take those secrets, and give enough kibbled knowledge to maintain. After all that's what friends are for; kibbled knowledge."

3) Accept eachother completely: "What's that? You like being rude to people when drunk? Oh, I'll overlook you said my mother was a sex goddess and that you'd fuck her mouth. That's just a proclivity. It's what makes you unique. And that incessant clicking thing you do with your tongue that no one likes? I cherish it. A lot. We're friends!"

4) Place yourself in the Shoes of your friend: Just fucking poor advice. A real friend knows better than to try and pretend he understands and has the guts to tell you that you're wrong. Sounds good on paper but god only knows how many people have been lead to a quiet sea of death by friends who just supported their stupidity trying to figure out what they never would.

5) Show respect for his/her opion and life choices: Same vein as #4.

6) Keep working on the friendship: >_> But just doing more stuff doesn't actually make a bond stronger. Refer to #1.

7) Make time to talk: Same vein as #1.

[vekin]

Clearly you misunderstood some, i wanted. to keep it all short trusting people would understand that somethings aren't accepted.

[Despondency]

That's the problem though, and kind of the point; a lot of people really don't know what is unacceptable and it isn't always obvious. For instance let's say you are with a friend whom you always pay for, now it's never a lot and never hurts your wallet, and they themselves are legitimately poor. What's the answer to this conundrum under your model to make the situation stronger?

[vekin]

Don't agree with your comment on #4. Placing yourself in her/his shoes, trying to figure out how your friend feels helps you to act in a way your friend need at that moment.

[Despondency]

Actually not being objective tends to be the worst thing you can do for someone, period, friend or otherwise. When someone says "Walk a mile in my shoes" demanding your empathy they are rarely saying it because they are facing an injustice and that's the problem here. Empathy should not be wantonly given, that's not wise; a true friend knows when to understand and when to be intolerable. There are times when there really is no excuse and those times are not as rare as people think; it can be anything ranging from "I failed my tests, but [excuses]!" to "I didn't get my way, but [nonsense reasoning]."

Sometimes protecting people means kicks their shoes off the road and staring at the problem with a scrutiny no one wants to mention.

[vekin]

I just wanted to give some simple advice you don't have to agree with it... just take from it what is usefull in your opion.

[vekin]

Maybe i haven't wrote clearly as i should habe done if it was in dutch...

[Despondency]

Don't mind me. I'm just a man.

[Anonymous]

Ignore despondency - if people say awful things like that (see his part about accepting friends) then why is he friends with them anyway? I don't think one should flat out accept everything about a person if they could work on improving themselves, but I think that empathy is important and can help provide useful advice to help them do so, God willing.
I don't think you were unclear, I think he's choosing to twist your words to apply to friendships that are toxic.

[vekin]

Thanks for these words!!

[Opinion Owner]

No problem!

[vekin]

I started to doubt about what I had written

[Opinion Owner]

I think your English is quite clear actually - just a few small errors.

[Lesbobutch818]

I agree with everything, you must nurture and love people and grow and work with them. Sorry, to find most don't share there sentiment nor care nor care into grown and invest in a human being.

But great list and words much respect.

[vekin]

Glad youliked it

[I_am_repulsive]

Does sex with benefits come to play to make your relationship with them that much stronger? I'm just busting your balls here.. I'm kidding of course. Good take.

[Nathand]

i don't need friends.

The friends (humans) would make life terrible. I don't have to live listening to someone else's opinion. I do what I want with no criticism.

[vekin]

That is your choice

[Nathand]

obviously...

[1GuyOpinion]

Do it at your own peril m8.

There obvious benefit to having good friends but hey, you don't need friends :)

[Starfishlover]

I do this to my friends, they dont give a rats arse about me. Hence why I am always angry.

[vekin]

Sad to hear that

[Spiorad_Aisce]

I like that take - Good advice to keep you focused on your friends

[Anonymous]

Shorter answer: add bullets. Now you no of they really got your back.

[YourFutureEx]

Wish I had friends :/

Good Take :)

[vekin]

Thanks for your comment

[YourFutureEx]

You're welcome :) keep it up!

[phanindra554]

Nice take
I love my friends😃

[vekin]

Thanks amigo

[Unit1]

Friendship is magic

[vekin]

Yes it is

[Unit1]

I'm not sure if you got my reference but still ;)

[vekin]

What do you mean?

[Unit1]

Well, it's from a series of a TV show, featuring, that friendship is magic.

[RainbowFanGirl]

Ahaha, I got this comment. :3

[vekin]

I still don't get it @Unit1 and @RainbowFanGirl

[RainbowFanGirl]

It's from a tv show. :)

[vekin]

@RainbowFanGirl but which one?

[Unit1]

MY LITTLE PONY: FRIENDSHIP IS MAGIC

:D :D :D

[vekin]

Aha that's ages ago

[Anonymous]

Good take.

[vekin]

Thanks