What do you hate about having a crush?

[Anonymous]

I hate feeling so weak. I always get so obsessive and my infatuations end up taking over my life. They literally become the main thing that stands out from the rest of my thoughts which makes me feel like I'm loosing my identity. What I hate the most is that at one point they like me and then they loose interest and happily skip off into the sunset with some other chic...

Yeah...

So what's it like for you?

[Anonymous]

The not knowing, and the not being able to find out. I had a huge crush on my friend and roommate, and for so long I just wanted to ask her out just so I could know whether or not there was even a chance, but couldn't because of the roommate situation. It really ruled out flirting and stuff all together, so I couldn't even really read if she was interested. So yeah, basically crushes suck because your feelings for the other person consume you, but the fear of confessing your feelings keeps you from doing anything and its just bad.

[Asker]

You should just do it. Life is too short and wondering is a lifetime.

[Opinion Owner]

I did. The end of summer after I moved out I asked her if she'd ever want to go out when I got back in fall. She said she would say yes if nothing changes over the summer, so now I just have to wait for two more months hoping she isn't finding someone else or changing her mind

[Anonymous]

I hate not being able to talk to them confidently. I hate getting tongue tied around them. If I ask them out, or they find out I like them, they act disgusted. That seriously hurts that 99.9% of the time if I dare to flirt with a girl I get screamed at and get looks of disgust.

[xPoison]

I know right!! Like a user said, add more people to your crush list, as many crush as possible! I have two right now and one I'm sure likes me, the other I'm not too sure. But you can't trust anything, I am going to extend it to 2 more man!! I just have to find them and they have to be my type. totaling ti 4. Shoot fuck what u heard :p ahaha

[xPoison]

Is like i have no problem attracting men, it's usually the one I like I have problem with SMDH it's either they are shy, and i get shy around them when I'm not shy at all.. Sigh

[n1njagrl]

I used to worry that I would be too obvious that I liked my crush. However I talked with my ex one time and found out that my idea of flirting is really really not obvious and that I just came off as being a friendly not flirty. -____-; So now my only fear is of getting rejected.

[existing_not_living]

It sucks the life out of you.

[Asker]

Lol. Would you like to add some detail to to that :P?

[existing_not_living]

You're stressed out so much about what to wear, how to act, and what to say that your hair is probably starting gray
You think about them constantly and annoy your friends so much they start talking about you behind your back about how annoying it is to hear your incessant complaints about whether he likes you or not
You cry over the smallest thing regarding him such as --- why didn't he text me back?, is he into me for my looks or for my personality?, should I just give up because this is never going to work?
Your social life ceases to exist because you are too busy Facebook stalking him and more importantly your friends are so sick of hearing you talk about him they rarely invite you out anymore for fear of where the conversation will go
I could go on but I'm too lazy to write it all out. haha

[Asker]

"You cry over the smallest thing regarding him such as --- why didn't he text me back?, is he into me for my looks or for my personality?, should I just give up because this is never going to work?
Your social life ceases to exist because you are too busy Facebook stalking him..."

Dude! I'm going through right now! No joke. Coincidentally, just finished Facebook stalking him like half an our ago. I constantly try to forget him because I think it's not worth it, knowing my obsession is doing me more harm than good. Then I miss him and I start texting him again... Just texted him this morning and he hasn't responded... Dear God I need a fucking life.

[existing_not_living]

Same dude! This guy even admitted to liking me but he doesn't want to date and we talked about hanging out when school was still in session but he never texts me first. Like he'll respond when I text him but he only talks to me for like 10-20 minutes maybe even less and then he never responds back after we've already started a conversation and I'm the last person to text. So I'm just giving up now and forgetting about him because he obviously doesn't give a fuck about me.

[Asker]

The one I like has two jobs AND A FUCKING GIRLFRIEND. I mean, he's at least really sweet to me in text msg, so I have him as a friend. We have lots in common and I can relate to him. We are like a pair... that and with the way we met... well with all of this, it feels like he's "the one". But again we planned on hanging out this wednesday, but he couldn't since someone called out last minute. Don't know if one of his fucking jobs permits us from seeing each other next Wednesday either... Think it'll be the last time anyway since he can't fit me into his schedule... it seems like his girlfriend is the only one he has time for :/

Do you think you can accomplish completely giving him up?

[existing_not_living]

I'm not sure. I'm trying my best not to think about it but I have the Facebook Messenger app and I check to see our conversations and it will say when he was last active and when if he read my last message or not and he always reads my messages but he NEVER replies back so I always have to text him first again and sometimes he's active while I'm active but he still doesn't message me. We were complicated from the beginning and he told me he loved talking to me but he wasn't sure about a relationship. And I was baffled when he said he loved talking to me, not even liked. I don't get it though because if he loves talking to me then why won't he?

[Asker]

Does he have a complicated life? And what do you think about my situation?

[existing_not_living]

I think that you should cool it down for a while. He seems like he is really busy and unfortunately since he does have a girlfriend in this case I do kind of understand why she does come first. He probably wants to hang out with you but due to his busy schedule he has limited time to himself and chooses to spend it with his gf. I would just try to move on for right now. Maybe try having a fling with someone?
My sitch: I'm not sure if he does. His phone bill hasn't been paid so I can't text him :/ and I have to FB message him. He's has like 5 brothers and is only close to one of them so I think he has issues and I understand that but I don't get why he won't even try to be friends with me.

[Asker]

Dear God both of our lives suck! I think it's hard for both of us to move on... According to each of our situations, how long do you think I should move on? How long do you think you should move on? (Either taking a break or completely ending it. You decide.)

[existing_not_living]

I think we should both completely end it. We need to find people that will actually give us their attention.

[Asker]

Its hard... he's done so much for me... i've never related to anyone as much as him.

[existing_not_living]

Well, you never know. One day he might return your affections but at the moment you have to decide what's best for you --- moving on or allowing yourself to be completely immersed in a boy that won't/can't give you the time of day? The guy I like is the absolute opposite of me but I love the way we argue with each other about different topics. I've never liked someone so much. It's gonna be hard but we can do it.

[Asker]

I WOULD have him as a casual texting buddy... but he wouldn't always answer me and that'll just keep that obsession going. (sigh) If you love something set if free. If it comes back, it's yours. (Cheesy quote I know) I won't delete him from my contacts but I'll stop. I won't come running back after the first week and text him again. I'll stop.

But the next (which is the last) time I see him. Would it be stupid if I said a thank you for what he's done for me? Not just a simple thank you but an emotional thank you? He did something huge for me but won't admit it. Why is it? I don't care if it makes him feel uncomfortable but I just need to come right and say it to get it off of me. No, i'm not going to say I like him.

[Asker]

But again, an emotional than you and make him admit what he did for me. Even if it makes me uncomfortable, even it makes me look vulnerable. (Don't know if it'll make him seem like I like him though)

I was suicidal last year. And what he did for me has helped me a lot..

[Asker]

Sorry if I'm confusing you.

[existing_not_living]

You're not! I was suicidal last year too. I ended up in a mental hospital for 10 days and partial for 2 weeks. I would thank him. I think it's a great idea!

[Asker]

I'll do it :D Even if i seem vulnerable and makes him uncomfortable? And, y didn't he admit it? you'll get best answer :)

[existing_not_living]

Aww thanks :). He probably doesn't want to give himself that much credit. He's being humble :)

[Asker]

Im sorry for the bother but one more q. Would it b bad if i get overboard and emotional or should i just take a risk and do what feels right?

[CourtJester]

I hate that I have to be the one to make an effort. I sound retarded, but I hate pursuing girls. Does she like me? does she not like me? should I tell him? It's so frustrating.

[Asker]

Yep. I'm also doing all of the work.

[FRIDAY_]

Try to get a lot of crushes as much as possible. You wouldn't really have to obsess on one person alone. In case one of them breaks your heart, you still have other guys to crush on. It's just infatuation, it's not like you're flirting around with all of them (which should also not be an issue until at least of them falls for you at the same time).

[Anonymous]

Not being able to do anything about it because of my current state. Jobless, still living at home, broken car, and no degree (I only have a diploma) but this girl, I would do anything for, if she gave me a chance

[Asker]

I'm sorry... I don't know what to say...

[Opinion Owner]

Seems to be the story of my life "I don't know what to say"

[Anonymous]

I have a wife an I'm infatuated with her best friend who's dating an living with my bro. She stares we make eye contact occasionally I see her every weekend.
How's that for hate having a crush lol

[Anonymous]

I feel ya it's frustrating and I wish I could just come out and say I like you can I have your number do you want to hang out or something. It's confusing and exhausting

[NovemberJoseph]

Exactly the same as you. I'm in that position right now, I was abandoned while she happily walked into the sunset :/

[Anonymous]

Not have the ability to approach the person and let them know I am interested in getting to know them.

[genericname85]

The worst about it, is the rejection, that follows, if you tell them your feelings

[TheNewClassic]

They never like me back and i can't get them out of my head, its the #1 thing in my head!

[brianakayee]

I feel obsessed and stupid.. stupid because I'm obsessed.

[Anonymous]

Having a crush sucks cause I can't think straight and every song I hear reminds me of her.

[Asker]

Yeah... even though it's not love song. Lovely isn't it?

[Anonymous]

Same way with me. I feel ya. It's a big tease when they don't like you back lol

[Annymous8]

I always have those "What if?" thoughts.

[Asker]

For example?

[Annymous8]

What if he feels the same way?

[still_waiting]

Not getting what you really want.

[Jsmith123]

Yup. Feel ya

[still_waiting]

So depressing.

[Anonymous]

I hate when the feeling isn't mutual.