Why are black men so insecure?

[Anonymous]

Al I see black guys do on instagram is create pages showing their obsession with white girls and latina girls. Snowbunny this, and latina girl this expecting them to respond them. I'm part black so I have grown up a lot of many black men and notice how childish and immature they tend to be up until their thirties, still only caring about their Jordan's and rims. And have realized that all of that cockiness is just a mask on their insecurity. I constantly have to shut my cousins down and put them in their place because I know they're all just a gimmick and so corny with that kinda talk calling themselves the N word. When will this stop? And seriously? Do latinas and white girls actually want them?

[jesseray]

I am inclined to agree.

The closer to the bottom of society a particular black man is, the more value he seems to see in things like jewelry, designer clothes, expensive shoes, rims, and getting with large numbers of women, where each woman seems to have different value based upon the lightness of her skin tone.

This insecurity seems so pervasive that they enter social situations with a mindset of "Either I'm dominating them or they're dominating me" (no recognition of the option of being mutually respectful). They will be especially rude to white men, even when the white guy did nothing to provoke their angst, and they go around running their mouths saying that white men are soft and what-not. The whole time, the white guy was just trying to be civil with them.

These guys walk around with white girls on their arm as though interracial dating is awesome and all that, but once they see a white guy walking around with a black girl on his arm, they feel the need to put a stop to interracial dating, and once they feel they have done due diligence, they go back to their white girl. (rolls eyes) I sometimes wonder how many of these black guys are getting with white girls, not because they like white girls, but because that gives them an opportunity to get one over on white guys.

It does astound me that so many women say they want guys like that. I have nothing against women wanting a black man who has class, who respects the customs of civil society, and things like that, as that kind of man is like every other good man and what woman doesn't want a good man?, but they seem to want these lower class black men -- if they can be called men -- who are just douches to anyone and everyone. That just makes no sense to me. But then again, I suspect that the desire for them is a lot lower than they and the media want us to believe.

[Red_Dragon]

You sound just as bad as they do. I like white girls like I like girls of any race. I wonder how many people like you judge a book by it's cover and assume every (or most) black guys just want a white girl because they can? I also don't see why it's a bad thing to like clothes, jewelry, shoes, rims, etc. People of all races like that. Not just blacks.

I don't see anything wrong with a woman wanting a guy that has similar interests as her. A black guy can have class, respect people, who cares about society's opinion, be a good person, and still like rims, shoes, cars, etc.

I find that a lot of whites like heavy metal. In a lot of rock and heavy metal they glorify devil worship should I assume that every white person who listens to such music is a devil worshiper?

[Red_Dragon]

You sound bitter AF dude.

[jesseray]

I never said that a black guy can't like white girls just because he likes them. I never said it was a bad thing to like clothes, jewelry, shoes, etc., just that people at the bottom of society tend to have an excessive focus on them as status symbols, rather than just clothes, jewelry, etc. I never said that black guys can't have class and be respectful. You are reading far too much into what I wrote.

[Red_Dragon]

Oh I agree with that. Want the rich life when they are living the poor life. Me personally I realize that the richer you are the harder it is to stay humble. Money is very destructive.

[jesseray]

It's gluttony (among the poor) and ignorance (among the wealthy) which is destructive, not money itself.

[Red_Dragon]

The love of it. Nothing wrong with having money.

[Red_Dragon]

And actually I think you got it backwards. It's gluttony among some of the wealthy and ignorance among some of the poor. Some of the poor are unaware and misinformed on how dangerous it is (thus they are ignorant), and some of the wealthy have it but want more and more (thus gluttony and really the right term is greed). Again I say some, not all.

[Red_Dragon]

Technically we are all mixed. I'm considered black but have white and Native American ancestors along with black ancestors. Many other people are the same. So that's the first thing.

2ndly, well I don't use IG or twitter. I really don't use fb either. I've never cared about Jordan's. I usually can't afford them, and shoes are shoes at the end of the day. Rims? Yeah eventually I do want to get some nice ones but they're not that important. If they were I would've had some nice ones by now.

If all that stuff is a mask of insecurity then I know I'm not insecure then. I think your statement is generalizing, but I understand where you are coming from.

Lastly, yes some white and Latina girls do want black guys. Some even like the black urban lifestyle that black guys exhibit. I think you can like shoes and white & Latina girls without being insecure though. I also think people of all races are guilty of ridiculous IG pages, tweets, etc.

[Asker]

Your right, they're are some that do like them but its for the wrong reasons. When will the black man be liked because he's seen as good provider? Not because of a penis myth or hip hop culture. It's says a lot, and it's not good

[Red_Dragon]

Ehh. Not all the time. Some white girls and Latina girls really like hip hop music, Jordans, urban clothes, rims, etc.

White girls and Latina girls don't like me for the wrong reasons. What's wrong with liking someone who also likes hip hop culture? The penis thing isn't really a myth. Black guys typically have bigger dicks.

[Asker]

Most of the time that's what I see. That's the point I was trying to make. It's attraction created on hip hop culture, not because we're seen as good providers. You just proved my point

[Red_Dragon]

Ah. Well that's with guys of all races though. Some girls like guys who also like rock music or pop music or who has a country southern culture like them or who dresses in black with chains and funny colored hair. People naturally want to mingle with people who either look like them and/or who share common interests. It still doesn't mean that they don't think black guys can't be good providers. Though some girls may think that that's just ignorant of them.

[Asker]

You're not getting it

[Red_Dragon]

Well explain to me what you're talking about. I'm willing to try to understand.

[youcantknowmee]

I heard online from this black guy that he was in a black neighbourhood. And the moment he brought his white girl friends, every black guy wanted to be friends with him. He said that in that black community, being with white girls brings your status high somehow. I'm not sure if it's for a wide range of black guys but I dont think it is. It's just based on where someone is being raised and how. And everyone's insecure at something so it's not only black guys. Personally I don't see anything wrong with interacial dating. Besides, we all came from the same place meaning we're all just one race; the human race. So black, white, brown, those are just tones and values of the same color.

[Red_Dragon]

The beginning of your opinion is ridiculous.

[MyUsernameRules]

You left out yellow. No respect for Asians huh? You don't consider them to belong to the human race? Wow, such a racist!

[Red_Dragon]

LOL!! Hey MyUsernameRules I'm yellow myself. Though I'm considered black.

[youcantknowmee]

There's people of different skin colors. If I were to point out all of them, it would be 1000. You realize that people who say they're white, yellow, brown, black are not actually of that color? And if you are actually serious, which I dont think you are, than I'm sorry that I forgot to write Yellow as well. But clearly you didn't understad my point based on your comments

[Red_Dragon]

I realize that I'm considered black but have white, black, and Native American ancestors. I also realize that everybody else have multiple races in their ancestors therefore we are all mixed.

[Red_Dragon]

Yeah it was pretty much a joke I apologize.

[Anonymous]

Many black people have inferiority complexes (often subconscious) and so they see other races as superior to them. They desire having non-black/light person at their side as a status symbol and they want to mix their bloodline so their kids don't come out dark or black like them. They want to remove themselves from blackness.

[Red_Dragon]

Really? LOL!! This is funny. I find that people in general are often using their subconscious mind more. Regardless of race.

[Internet_Monster]

I don't its like asking do you want vanilla or chocolate, some people hate vanilla and some people love chocolate.
But whatever you say people are different.

[Asker]

What are you talking about?

[Asker]

I ask because I don't see Latino or white guys making pages displaying their obsession for light skin girls.

[Internet_Monster]

I was talking chocolate weren't we talking about chocolate?

[Asker]

No we were not. We were talking about people.

[SandPlanet]

Personally, I think people who feel the need to generalize races like that and put so much emphasis on racial stereotypes, are the ones who are really insecure.

[Asker]

What you said doesn't make sense. You're suppose to care. If humanity didn't care we wouldn't have gotten this far. Criticism corrects things

[SandPlanet]

I'm criticizing you for generalizing black people. Better now?

[yourefckingtrash]

But he IS a black person you fucking self righteous moron.

[Tokana]

You say that you're part black yet you refer to blacks as 'them'... this reeks of troll. Thanks troll for helping to continue to propagate the negative stereotypes associated with being a black man; and then to finish off by saying "Do Latinas and white girls actually want them?" As though we are sub-human and disgusting.

[Asker]

No I didn't say all. I grew up in Brooklyn and saw this a lot. What does using the word them have make it a sub human thing. I never said that, I just can't stand how out of all races of men black men tend to make all these ridiculous pages showcasing their obsessions for light skinned women. It's pathetic to the deepest core

[Tokana]

I guess I have to spell it out to you. You say that you're part Black, yet you refer to the black race are 'them' and not 'we'. That implies that you are not Black. Why would you ask, "Do Latinas and white girls actually want them?" other than to imply that Latinas and white girls are too good for Black men. Now take a deep breathe and think before you respond.

[Asker]

Because when I say them I'm talking about the stereotypical black kid. NOI don't think they're to food for us because I know white trash and Latina trash, and the problem is that most of the time I see a black dude with a white girl or Latina they happen to be trash as well. Not all but most of them time

[Asker]

Sorry for spelling doing it fast

[Tokana]

If you've seen black guys with latina and white girls, then why would you ask "Do Latinas and white girls actually want them?" You kind of answered your own question. No?

[Asker]

Listen man, most if the time those girls are wack. Not me, but some do these dudes need to raise their standards and not settle for just any white girls of light skin chick that come their way

[Stuhlhocker]

"Do Latinas and white girls actually want them" go your own race motherfucker

[yourefckingtrash]

Fucking low IQ monkey trying to sound smart by defelecting and picking out ONE FUCKING WORD.

Fucking stupid ass niggers will never change

[realerthanreal]

I love when Allen Iverson hit that one white girl with a chair lol. Most black men want black women.

[Asker]

I know your right most black men date black women. But the minority that obsess over light skin girls make all these pages on social networking sites showcasing their obsession for light skinned girls making people think that we all hate our own women. They acting like slaves. When in reality most a latinas and white women don't want them.

[AnimeLover12]

actually where I live this is every race even whites, Im native American and see a lot of native American men show off by trying to fight someone for no reason or something stupid for attention, but I live in a ghetto area so that's mainly why

[Anonymous]

Why is ANYONE insecure? This isn't a one race trait.

[Red_Dragon]

The ignorant thinks so.

[Asker]

You dont get it

[Opinion Owner]

Who's ignorgant and who doesn't get what? The question is 'why are black men so insecure?'. To group all black men into a group saying they're all insecure is idiotic. Everybody has insecurities. If the poster was only referring to those people he knows personally then ask him to rephrase the question! I do get it, thank you very much!

[Red_Dragon]

I'm saying the ignorant think that it's a one race trait. Calm down. LOL!!

[Asker]

Not all you minion

[Asker]

I never said it was a one race trait you imbecile

[Anonymous]

It does come across as rather pathetic does it not? I think the a lot of them are weak minded to be honest. That's just my opinion.

[Opinion Owner]

But then again, weak mindedness is found in men of all races. I definitely see white boys putting these Asian girls on a pedestal when Asian girls much prefer Asian boys.

[Asker]

Your right. I notice Latino men don't do this in general, I'm general they seem very confident from my experiences

[Anonymous]

They don't know any better. They have bad role models

[Anonymous]

The real problem is why does the media encourage the victum mentality and promote it.

[Asker]

We still have colonial mentalities that's why.

[Tokana]

umm... you can start by negative stereotypes that effect black people on a daily. Exhibit one... the question that nony posted.

[Opinion Owner]

Thats what i said victum mentality