Girls only: Would you do this with your guy?

[Anonymous]

First off, I'm 18 and this is my first time exploring this stuff so that probably explains it. Anyway, a fantasy that I've always had is that me and my girlfriend would be over at my or her house, and just chat on the bed/couch, and play the "I'll show you mine, you show me yours" game. For instance, I'd take my shirt off and she would be allowed to look of course and feel around, then it'd be her turn and she'd take her top of completely exposing her breasts and I'd be allowed to do the same. The game would continue until we'd both be fully exposed sitting in front of each other, but we'd both be allowed to feel anywhere or just explore each others bodies without actually having sex. I'd examine down there on her and she'd examine my downstairs. We'd both compare what we feel, like what it feels like to have breasts and what it feels like to get a boner, sort of describe it to each other. I'm still a virgin so this would be like an innocent game without loosing the V card. I wouldn't pressure her into anything but we would play by the rules of course. :)

But anyway, the question is this: Girls, would you do this with your guy? How would it come up in conversation? What would you do in this game? What part of the male body would you be excited to see and explore? What should I expect? And please NO single sentence responses, I'm looking to start a conversation.

[Anonymous]

My bf and I are each other's first everything so that's how we started

We started kissing then touching through our clothes then he would whisper he wants to make love to me and stuff but we waited a whole year before it finally happened.

We just kept touching each other like he started with my boobs and we dry humped then I got to touch him down there for the first time then I saw his come for the first time it was all amazing

I think ur fantasy is cool u just have to make sure she is comfortable w that because I was too apprehensive since I was a virgin

We both got naked many times and didn't have sex just touched and looked and did stuff it was fun have fun

I don't think we needed to have sex because it's like the excitement from touching and looking felt like we were

[Asker]

That's exactly what I'm looking for, except no sex. Plus I wouldn't pressure her into doing something she doesn't want to. But that would be so cool to live this fantasy! If you were in her shoes and we did this, where would you want to see? And would you talk about your body and compare? Is that something you think she will be open to doing?

[Opinion Owner]

If she is comfortable with you she will be open if she feels secure in her relationship with u she will be open

If she just isn't ready she won't be. It's up to her to decide so u can start off telling her how beautiful she is that's how my bf convinced me

He just I don't know made me feel so amazing and he seemed so mesmerized and while making out he would never touch my boob but put his hand under it or graze his fingers over then until I was ready then I put his hand directly on it

I would tell her how much ur into her and ask her if she is curious about ur body at all

I wanted to touch my bf's penis I was too shy to look at it first. I also wanted to see his stomach and muscles

And we compared a lot how much different our bodies are and stuff like that

[Asker]

Wow that's incredibly hot! I am very in love with her and I believe she feels the same way about me. She's not fat and neither am I and I find her very attractive. This has been a fantasy for as long as I can remember. We wouldn't really be making love with each other while we did this or it might lead to sex, but I'd love to sit close to her or across from her and do it. If let her know how beautiful she is. It'd be weird showing somebody my penis but I wouldn't mind if it was her. Plus I wouldn't pressure her.

The comparing thing is hot too, we can both talk about how our bodies work or how we feel. Like she might be wondering what it feels like to get a boner, and I'd wonder what it feels like to have boobs haha and just exploring each others body parts to see how they feel and look. :D what else did you do with your boyfriend? And what else should I expect from a girl if this happens? If you were in her shoes I mean?

[Opinion Owner]

Just be prepared to take it slow she may not want to do anything or let u see her yet

But just keep being into her and telling her and not pressuring her u should be fine b Urself ur fantasy could turn into a nice memory for the both of u

For the most part my opinion is she may or may not be comfortable. It may or may not happen. Focus on her and what she likes most and follow it by that. My bf was shameless he. Didn't care he wanted me to see he just loved me and wanted me that much

[Asker]

Slow is my middle name haha but yes I'm expecting to take it very slow. I wouldn't care if I'm totally make in front of her if she still had some clothes on, as long as she wasn't weirded out by me. I also wouldn't care what questions she would ask me, as anything plays into this fantasy.

I would not seduce her or make her do anything she's regret, and we wouldn't even be hugging or making love if we did this, just casually sitting across from each other on a bed or couch, and just talking/feeling/exploring. From a girls point of view if I may ask, what is it about the penis that girls are attracted to? If I did this with her and had a boner, do you think she's be weirded out?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't really know. It's natural I mean I said ew to my bf it's all like because it's new and I guess it's attractive because I don't have one? They aren't exactly cute but since it's my bf's and I'm a girl that's what makes it attractive

Just like vaginas are ugly but guys still like it. And are aroused by them. It's just physiological

You should ask her these questions in the moment

My bf just kept his cool and played it off when I said ewww and he just explained it to me like it's just what it is and shrugged it off

[Asker]

Oh I see what you mean now :) and I guess that makes sense. It'd be odd for her to see mine but it would also be kind of cool you know? Vaginas are an acquired taste, I for hand think they are beautiful, all of them, but if it was hers it'd be extra special like you said.

Doing that stuff in the moment is good and bad. I like to know what to expect, but in the other hand if I do something and she likes it by surprise it's the best thing in the universe :D can't wait to do this in the future. How should I ask her again? Just out of the blue?

[Opinion Owner]

My boyfriend would take me out on dates and whisper how beautiful I am and he would kiss me and all mesmerized would tell me how much he wants me and stuff

That's a good way to like get it in her mind and then when y'all are alone together u can start by making out and then ask her in that moment once it's really steamy if she is ever curious about ur body and if she wants she can look and maybe if u take ur shirt off u can ask her if you can look too and if she says no respect that and tell her u will wait until she is ready and ask her if u can touch her without looking just ask her what she's comfortable with she will appreciate that

Every girl is different at the end of the day

[RileyShy1]

I definitely would. ;) I'd ask him if he wanted to play a kinky game. Hopefully, I'm not the only one that is very curious of what testicles feel like. You should expect two soft, swishy and warm boobs. A vagina is warm and fatty, depending on the girl. If her vagina is not fatty, then it's just soft and tighter. You know what a butt feels like, right? That too.

[Asker]

Exactly! That's what my fantasy is about! That's the purpose of this game :D if you were in her shoes, I wouldn't mind at all if you explored down there! If she was curious about what they felt like. I'd also describe what they feel like on my end, as she explores and feels around. And same with her, I've always wanted to know what boobs feel like. I've felt my girlfriends and they are fantastic, but I mean to see them too would be a dream and to play it into this game. Same with her downstairs, except I've never seen one. But this game is sort of like what's mine is yours, except no sex. We can also talk about our bodies! You know, getting more comfortable with each other.

[Asker]

And what do you mean fatty? Like the lips and stuff or the inside?

[RileyShy1]

I meant the lips, and the feeling is different if she shaves or not. If she shaves, then it's smooth going down, but can be stubbly on the way up. When they don't shave you obviously feel hair.

[Asker]

I oh see what you mean :D well still that sounds super sexy! I'm not sure what I prefer yet because I haven't been that far with her! I thought you meant if she was like fat haha but anyway thanks for the advice! Good luck on feeling testicles hehe :P

[classicroyalty]

Sorry :) but that's like an obsessed person going into a pizza palor and saying they are not gonna eat anything. I think you should leave it as a fantasy hun

[Asker]

Haha I see what you mean! But we both know its not going to lead to sex, we actually can control it. I'm talking just looking at each other naked and exploring each others bodies, comparing.

[TheNewClassic]

Sounds nice, i would do it. I would love to feel his thighs and dick.
I imagine that it takes a lot self-control to not go further.

[Asker]

Yes I'd have to control myself as well haha, but we can feel each other up, as long as we don't actually have sex, like p in vag. Would you for instance like to talk about your bodies if you were in her shoes?

[TheNewClassic]

Not really, Id rather touch and look and not say much

[Asker]

Oh ok :) that works for me! Random though, what is it about the penis that girls are attracted to? It's looks? It's feeling? Spare no detail hehe

[TheNewClassic]

I dont know how it feels so i can't say much about that but i think they look really nice, especiallywhen hard and when they bounce and the balls too.

[Asker]

Dang haha you sound like you'd make a great girlfriend XD it's just something that I've always wondered! I'm straight so I wouldn't know lol

[TheNewClassic]

Im sure many (straight) girls feel this way :)

[Anonymous]

I would do that, but only after we are married lol And id be most excited to see everything really but I guess his penis most cause im curious what will turn him on and stuff

[Asker]

Yeah a lot f girls said the same thing, which is why I'm not sure what to do because a lot of people are saying it can lead to sex, but not the way I'm thinking of it. I'd like to do it casually, like not in the middle of a makeout session because it would inevitably lead to sex haha but we could both be sitting close to each other on either the bed or couch and then do it, like compare. We'd both have to control ourselves quite a bit though lol but living the moment would be awesome!

And of course lol if she was curious to see that I wouldn't mind :)

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I can definitely understand wanting to do it, but the reason I wouldn't until marriage in because me and my bf aren't even kissing till our wedding day lol

The most we've seen of each other is when we went swimming together lol

[Asker]

Oh dang 0_o not even a kiss? I like waiting until marriage for sex but no kissing would require an enormous amount of control lol

And that's still cool though! How old are you guys if I may ask? And have you not had your first kiss yet?

[Opinion Owner]

Nope lol And it's not so bad lol

Thanks! He's 16 and im 18. I've had mine when I was 16 with my ex but he hasn't had his and we decided we wanted to wait for ours ^_^

[Asker]

Well from a guys point of view, it's probably killing him to not be able to kiss you! :P you can say that but us guys are wired very differently and we want to show our love for our girlfriends by kissing them and making them feel special! But I guess if he wants to wait too it'll be that much better! I'd be careful though age wise, as I've noticed there are quite a bit of laws against relationships under 18

[Opinion Owner]

Well it was his decision so.. lol

And in our state we are perfectly legal, even more so because we don't do anything :) lol

[Asker]

Oh I see :D and true true! Well hey good luck with what's to come and hopefully all goes well with your guys relationship!

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks! Good luck with yours as well :)

[Anonymous]

Sounds good. Just be prepared to eat her out and vice-versa.

[Asker]

But wait that doesn't help me haha what should I except to have happen? I'd love to do that if she'd let me but remember it can't lead to actual sex. If you were in her shoes, what would you want to happen?

[sharw0609]

If i trust this guy, which means i love him, then, i would.

[DoReMiFaSolLaSiDo]

No! I stay away from temptation.

[Asker]

Oh trust me we both know its not going to happen, the actual sex part, but anything else can go and we will be taking it slow. What would you expect if you were in her shoes? What would you like to see?

[DoReMiFaSolLaSiDo]

No. I would tell you to put your dick away

[Asker]

Oh :/

[DoReMiFaSolLaSiDo]

Lol xD

[Asker]

But in all seriousness, even if you wanted to do this in your relationship, would you? If you and your boyfriend were comfortable doing it? That's where I am in my relationship and I'm looking to discuss with somebody that is where I am

[DoReMiFaSolLaSiDo]

No. I told you dude. It's great to feel comftorable in a relationship and with your sexiality. But it's best for me-personally- not to do those things.

[Asker]

Ok, I guess I see what's you're saying. It's ok to feel that way with each other, but this will most likely lead to sex? Is there another way we can show love for each other? Like feeling each other up with clothes on? Or cuddling? What would you suggest?

[DoReMiFaSolLaSiDo]

Watching movies while cuddling, making food together, holding hands, giving kisses. Stuff. You don't need to be physical to show your love.
Even though it's one way people to, because they love each other.
If you want to feel each other up, go ahead. It it may lead to sex one day. Even if you think your mind is made up not to do it.

[Asker]

Ok :( as sad as your advice sounds, it seems really helpful and I completely understand. Cuddling is nice, we'll try that! Just having her close to me and holding her is more than I can ask for. Weird question though, what do girls feel about boners? While we cuddle its super obvious that I have one, and I've always wanted to know what she's feeling :/

[DoReMiFaSolLaSiDo]

I wouldn't mind if my boyfriend got a boner. As long as he isn't trying to seduce me. A guy might have a boner since you're up against him, or it might just be a thing that happened.
I wouldn't make a big deal.

[Asker]

No absolutely no seducing, I would NEVER do that to her. I'd never pressure my girl into doing anything, but girls don't mind boners? It's always been a bit awkward to have her up against me and all of a sudden I can feel it start growing and getting bigger, when it's super obvious but she never says anything.

[DoReMiFaSolLaSiDo]

No. I wouldn't mind. I would secretly be giggling in my head. It's just a boner. It's not like gonna poke you n the eye.
Since you're comftorable n your relationship. I doubt she would mind.

[Asker]

Haha well since you out it that way I guess lol that's cool that girls secretly like our boners! This whole time I thought it weirded them out and kind of made me self conscious :/ but it seems there are some girls on here that actually like the feeling of it while cuddling as I described! That just makes me wonder about her though lol

[DoReMiFaSolLaSiDo]

Lol. Wh not ask her?

[DoReMiFaSolLaSiDo]

*why

[Asker]

I could do that, but wouldn't that make it even more awkward? Like "hey does my growing dick weird you out?" Lol if you were in her shoes how would you like your boyfriend to ask you? Or would you be the one that says something about it?

[DoReMiFaSolLaSiDo]

I wouldn't care if my boyfriend asked me that. I would jus laugh it off, and admit to feeling it-