My boyfriend makes me feel like crap.

[alexxx18]

Okay so I'm a little sensitive and my boyfriend knows that. But he still feels the need to snap at me and make me feel like crap for saying or doing something that he thinks is rude or bitchy of me.. Like yesterday we were in bed doing our thing and he accidentally kneed me in the face and just stopped and put his face in his hands... I know he was embarrassed but I was fine and I tried to let him know but he continued to awkwardly lay there... And I said "sooo are we done or what?" And he started yelling at me and saying how that was such a bitchy thing to say and continued to put me down while I'm bawling... I can't handle being screamed at very well which he also knows. Things escalated and they almost got resolved but once again I said something out of line... He told me he didn't know when I felt like being comforted by him after a fight and I was crying and spoke a little emotionally that it was a hundred percent of the time... But he thought I was "yelling" at him and when I tried to tell him I didn't mean to and he totally misconstrued that, he called me a liar and continued to scream at me in my face. During these fights he is so irrational so I have to work really hard to think about everything I'm going to say because I really just want him to calm down at that point... But he gets mad when I cry because he says I just do it to make him feel like an asshole and unfortunately I can't help it when I am getting yelled at.

He also has a huge time admitting when he's wrong... I've caught myself apologizing for so many ridiculous things just to keep the peace.l Every once in a while when we're not fighting he'll tell me he knows he does this to me but it only goes well for a week and he's back screaming in my face again...

Ugh I know that all seems so petty but it's the one that made me Google "boyfriend yells at me" lol. I just figured an example would better explain what I'm going through... and I really need advice because he really is a sweet guy he just has such a temper but I really do love him more than anything he's done so much in my life. What can I say or do to make him realize how bad he's hurting me without him taking it offensively?

[Macsm32]

Wow! I can so sympathize! I know how you feel. I was married for 10 long years and got trampled down so much for so long that I felt like I was dirt. Well, it's a psychological thing with him. Mind game. You know what you are capable of and you deserve better. You know that and have told yourself that, I know. After a while, you will realize that you just need to walk away from him when he is yelling at you. Take a drive and clear your head, but nevertheless, don't let this continue! It is verbal abuse. Some people, male or female, you just can't reason or talk to them. There is no need to walk on egg shells just to accommodate someone's feelings when they are the ones disrespecting you. When he realizes that you aren't gonna be around to take his mouth and that you can be with someone who will respect you, things could change. Don't let him know that it gets to you anymore. Chin up! You will make it. Hide the tears too, because he gets satisfaction when you cry.

[ALWAYSclassy]

Stop making excuses for him. Unless he is developmentally disabled he knows exactly what he's doing. He doesn't respect you because you tolerate too much. Get mad at him and tell him off, there's no way he should be doing all that. Why are you still with him again? Your boyfriend is verbally abusing you. You need to stop thinking that it's you with the problem and you who needs to fix things. He is completely out of line with his behavior. If you have to say "he's a sweet guy BUT" that means there is a problem. I don't know too many sweet guys that would yell in their girlfriend's face as they are crying. Also he is manipulating your feelings. Classic signs of an abuser. You have the power to stop this because if you don't it will get worse. Just tell him how you really feel, if he takes it offensively then he is in the wrong. Don't be scared to be respected.

[snowangel88]

No guy in the world is worth crying over constantly. If he gets mad at you for trying to explain your side, you need to run scared. He's going to get worse, and fast. Please, do yourself a favor & get out of this relationship. No one wants to see you get more hurt (emotionally, or God forbid, physically).

[Jermaine1502]

Ok so I just want to tell he knows what he doing and he's doing it on purpose but he knows that you will back down and cry and he sees that as some kind of a weakness and honestly he really loves you he would try much harder to control his "temper" at least toward you.

[obscene]

Hey, you're still with him!

Jerks get all the girls

He's only trying to impress you

[hunnie-bunches]

it's called verbal abuse and I don't know how long you have been with him,but these kind of men usually end up hiting so you should runnnnnnnn

[Hippy]

Yes love she is right I was with a guy like this for 3yrs and that accidental knee in the face I'm sorry to say love but he new what he was doing I have seen it to many times.

[brealbyew]

Hey,

I know you posted this more than a year ago, but how is your relationship? I am just wondering because a.) I hope you are doing a lot better and b.) I'm pretty much in the exact same situation and wanted to know how things worked out.