My boyfriend makes me cry and I feel like I'm worthless

[amyvic]

My boyfriend makes me cry and I don't know if he knows this. He doesn't talk to me as much as he use to and doesn't seem to want me as much as he use to. It's as if he just wants me for sex but I want to be on an emotional level with him. In the beginning he seemed like the perfect boy but now as time has went on I wonder where this man has gone? Trying to talk to him is useless cause it feels as if he doesn't listen. My friends tell me that if I feel this way I deserve better but at the same time I love him and feel like I give him everything I have so why doesn't he reciprocate those feelings!? Please help me! Girls have you ever been in the same situation? and Guys have you ever done this to a girl?

[TimothyMarton]

This is disgusting, by this I feel he's using you now I don't know if he's just one of those guys that have hard time expressing their feelings or what but this is wrong. I knew people who did this yes but I would never. In my past I helped people sorta like a counseler but in their age groups and free and most times I ran into this it had to be let go.

Let me ask you. You say you love him? What do you love? His looks? cause his personality here seems a bit shallow and that's what a relationship should be based on the person not just the outer shell. by this description your an object to him when he sees fit.

How much do you communicate meaning he expresses himself to you too not just you talking to a wall, you know.

If he makes you cry and he's not aware that's basic if he loved or liked you I think he should sensE there's a problem if he dosen't that's a bigger problem.

Now I'm not telling you what to do don't get me wrong but this seems to affect you pretty negativly, and that isn't good for you move on. There will be others who resoect you more its up to you what you decide but you deserve to be LISTENED to that's the basis of a relationship communicating listening if you don't have that, you don't have much :S

[amyvic]

I love him but it's not just his looks... I think it's how he use to express his love to me...he use to tell me how much he liked me and how much he wanted to be with me all the time! He communicates with me mostly by the phone now he doesn't seem to ever have time to get together anymore. He doesn't even like me asking him questions cause I'm told to stop asking so many questions.

[TimothyMarton]

I see you used "Use to" a few times, your in love with his past self the one that he charmed you with he's not the same guy your describing up there. He's changed now or he's changed then just for you but this is the real him.

Stop asking questions? Wow can I ask? is he annoyed when he says that irritated or what? Cause that's just plain harsh, he's aware you guys are still in a relationship not some sort of friends with benefits deal right cause it totally feels like he's taking advantage of you.

[amyvic]

Yes we are in a relationship but it feel like he looks at it as something different I feel like I have been decieved by him this whole time! He gets angry when I ask to many questions about his past as if he's hiding something. I have at times thought that he is with another girl when he is talking to me though :( When I turn him down for sex he will ignore me for quite a long time then come back as if nothing happened but seem to be less in love with me!

[Moloch]

The honeymoon phase is over, time for the real relationship to begin.

[amyvic]

so the real relationship is suppose to be depressing?

[Moloch]

No the real relationship is supposed to be where you find out if you truly are compatible or not. Thus whole time you two have been on your best behavior, and now that you guys are more comfortable with each other, the real you comes out. That's when relationships get interesting.

[Skyler123]

Please dump him. You know its the right thing to do, but you're holding on in hopes that things will get better or that he'll turn over a new leaf and treat you like he did back in the beginning of your relationship. Let me tell you something the person he is now and the person he was then are two tottally different people. Which one is the real person? I think you already know the answer to this, with time EVERYONE shows their true colors. If he is tottally different from the person he was in the beginning, then maybe the person he displayed to you was a fake, a phony who put on a show so that he could win you over. Now that he's got you he's showing you his true nature. Do you really want to be with some one like that? Do you want to spend the rest of your life with a man that makes you feel any less of a woman?

[deathnote]

Think to yourself... can you imagine yourself being happy with him? Can you imagine yourself living with him for the next 5 years? Can you put up with what he's putting you through? If ANY of these questions have the answer 'NO' in it... I think you should dump him or at least try to make him realize how you feel before you dump him. I noticed you said 'Talking to him is useless' well hunny, communication is a major part of a relationship, and without communication its almost impossible to keep a long term relationship going. You don't love him, you love what he USED to be. His true colors have shown and its time for you to put yourself first and do what makes you happy and feels significant. Good Luck babe :(

[amyvic]

Imagining my self 5 years from now with what he has turned into now would be really hard cause he's turned into something I don't even recognize anymore! and your right I loved what he use to be not what he is now but I seem to not get over the guy that impressed me and wanted me and seemed to give the impression that he loved me!

[Arwens-Fire]

If he is not giving you what you want,or treating you how you deserve,LOVE YOURSELF enough to leave him.Please remember that people treat you only how you allow them to.Forget what he use to be (which was probably a facaud).Look at who is today.Life is too short to spend it in unnecessary agony and pain.I hope you find the strength to leave so that better things will come.Good luck.

[amyvic]

I know that the person who he is today is the real person he is compared to what he use to be but at the same time I feel like I've changed him into the person he has turned into so I feel like its' my fault! I just want that awesome guy to love me again

[Arwens-Fire]

How do you feel like this is your fault?Are you leaving out information?My answer is still the same.If a relationship has gone sour...why stay? You can find someone else.

[amyvic]

i feel like its my fault cause I feel like I have done something to make him change. But it seems to be like he has changed overnight sometimes

[Arwens-Fire]

THIS IS JUST WHO HE IS.YOU CANNOT CHANGE HIM,SO STOP TRYING.THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT,YOURE JUST SEEING WHO HE ACTUALLY IS. LEAVE THE SITUATION,OR CONTINUE TO DEAL WITH IT.YOU HAVE THE POWER TO END IT.THATS ALL I HAVE TO SAY ABOUT IT,AND EVERYONE IS PRETTY MUCH SAYING THE SAME THING HERE.GOOD LUCK.

[ManaX]

"My boyfriend makes me cry and I feel like I'm worthless", I have a friend in this situation, and I really want to tell her but I can't because she's fragile and that's not what she wants to hear. You guys should break up.

[Anonymous]

Dump. He's not going to change, that's just the way it is. Sorry, I know that's not what you want to hear, but it's true.

[amyvic]

isn't there something I can do?

[Opinion Owner]

The only thing you can do is dump him and see what happens. He's going to say that he'll change, and if he does, great. However, I'm guessing that he probably wont.

[thisislifebaby]

uhh dump him he doesn't love you if he did he wouldn't treat you this way he is a greedy, selfish person I don't see why you are still with him.

[Anonymous]

Hey.. Can i say something!! Listen just try to talk to him face to face.. Express ua feeling.. If he's not interested to listen, u know very well what u should do.. Listen to your heart.. If he was special to you try to sort out.. Nd about "using" part getting cosy and Intemacy is not that wrong but if he just want sex frm uh den u know, what u deserve.. Breakup with him, move on, stay happy.. Let him realize what he had lost.. Good luck hon.. 😊 May god bless you..

[Anonymous]

Kick his narcissistic ass to the curb