Should I swallow my pride and fix things... as always?

[TheEmma]

Asking a separated question because I can't update the other one anymore.

Last night, my gf and I got in a fight explained here: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1270535-does-drinking-beer-make-you-feel-cheap

After the fight, she called her dad and left. We haven't talked since then.

Some people are telling me to call her and ask if she was mad because of something else and fix things, but others are telling me not to do anything and wait for her to apologize. But the thing is, We always fight over stupid things liek that and I'm always the one who fixes everything, even when it's not my fault, so I don't know.

Honestly, I'm getting sick of having to fix thing all the time. Should I do it again?

Yes, call or text her.

No, wait for her to do it.

[Anonymous]

My answer to the first question is no and I could bang on about beer but that's not the issue. I think she's pissed or unhappy about something else and she's taking it out on you. I feel for you because you're on the receiving end of some bullshit. If you're always the one to be conciliatory I'd leave it this time, after all, it is her having a go at you! I think she needs to learn to be more considerate, that's obvious. If you're there trying to patch things over then in the conflict which she started it's you doing the making up and it should be the other way round. Whatever the problem is you need to talk about it, but not through you chasing her up after her unreasonable behavior.

[TheEmma]

Yeah, actually the other question was supossed to be just about beer but people started giving me advice and it made me think lol because my original plan was to just wait for her to say something but now I don't know.

So should I just stick to that plan and wait for her to call me? o should I call her and ask for an apology?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think there's a wrong way to play it, so really search your feelings and go with what you feel inclined to do. It might not be an easy choice but in there somewhere you'll probably be leaning one way or the other. If it was me and I decided to call, I wouldn't ask for an apology over the phone, it might kick off again and you can't sort shit over the phone; people just hang up and then it's friggin radio silence for however long it lasts lol. I'd tell her we need to talk, meet up and deal with it. Don't be combative and mud slinging but be sure to make your point, you've gone through the emotional equivalent of bumping into someone by accident and getting punched for it. Then try and get to the route cause of her current neurosis lol. Once you've dealt with it make sure you emphasize again how you feel. Also remember that constant bouts of drama will take their toll on any relationship eventually.

[TheEmma]

Thank you! I'll send her a text and if she agrees, I'll go to her place. We live 2 blocks away from each other.

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds good. Good luck!

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for MH! Y'all good?

[TheEmma]

Nah, I sent her 3 texts, she didn't reply so I called her and asked if she wanted to talk but she said she was going to bed and that maybe today. It's 5pm and we haven't talked yet but I'm done. I don't care anymore. If she ever grows up and wants to talk, good we'll do it, and if not, that's ok too. It was good while it lasted.

[Opinion Owner]

That's a bit shit, but that's probably what I'd be thinking too! The balls in her court. If she does wanna talk then great, but things will have to be different from now on. But if she wants to fuck it up then fine, you're not the one who's got problems.

[TheEmma]

I hate when she acts like that and I'm tired. I always have to go after her but not anymore. I'm not gonna break up but she has to grow up so I won't say anything. If she wants to talk or misses me, she'll have to call and apologize or if she's angry because of something else, at least bring it up because I'm not a mind reader..

[Opinion Owner]

I completely understand and totally agree with you. You're doing the right thing, looking at it the right way. Some people lose their shit when they hit a rough patch in their love life, you are being remarkably stoic and logical. Respect!

[TheEmma]

It's hard but I'm done lol I don't like having to chase her all the time. Thanks for the help :)

[Opinion Owner]

No problem, all the best!

[crazyincalifornia]

Personally, I don't swallow.

[TheEmma]

I always swallow my pride

[Ihav2fart]

Na she a classy bitch...

[Error_204]

Yes. Do it.

[TheEmma]

Ummm