Do girls get friendzoned?

[AceMartinov]

It's kind of a dumb question... but do girls get friendzoned? If they do, I'm pretty sure it's not as often. Do you have any experience? Have you been friendzoned as a girl?

[kheserthorpe]

Yeah, but much less often.

Most friend zone situations are the outcome where one person liked the other, so made an effort to get to know them and try to sustain something, but never pushed the flirting/sexual side so didn't find out they'd get rejected till they were already friends.

Guys approach much more often than girls (even poorly) so guys end up here more often.

On top of that, guys have lower standards for casual sex then relationships, so even if he's out of her league dating wise, there's a good chance he'd hook up with her, which would actually put her in both the friend zone and the friends with benefits zone, the latter being more significant.

Finally, guys often get into the friendzone by sucking up and girls just think they are nice sweet friends. Girls are less raised to suck up to guys to get their attention. They are more likely to throw sex on the table (and be friends with benefits zoned). males who get friendzoned it seems like a sexless relationship to the guy, because it's more like female-female friendship.

For a girl to get friendzoned, she'd actually have to qualify as a pure friend, which means more likely being 'one of the guys' and actually not that many girls can pull it off.

Girls who get friendzoned tend to be, bluntly, outgoing, funny, and fat.

To girls who get friendzoned: if I just described you, your personality is great, which is why you get friendzoned while millions of overweight girls get ignored. Lose some weight and you'll have your pick of guys.

[BuchitaBuchys]

I'm not fat and I get rejected by friends aka "friendzoned" ;(

[kheserthorpe]

Apparently girls who get friendzoned tend to be outgoing, funny, fat, OR slim brunettes in Finland.

I advise single men to move there. Seriously, helsinki I think had the best looking women of any city I've been to.

[kheserthorpe]

@BuchitaBuchys you too?

Christ who are you girls friends with, professional athletes? Priests? Gay male models? WTF?

[cheeseysouffle]

being that you two are both girls really gives me confident that you both no what your talking about.

[cheeseysouffle]

*know

[BuchitaBuchys]

Lol no. I have some friends who are athletes, but those aren't the ones I go for. I have "geek" friends who go to Comic Cons. And I ask them out cuz I like the "scrawny nerd" type. But they tell me nope. I'm not really outgoing, I can be, but I do tend to be more shy.

[BuchitaBuchys]

Lol and I do have gay male friends, but I won't ask them out (for obvious reasons) :x

[Mikaychay95]

what if they are outgoing and funny but curvy instead of fat and is attractive?

[kheserthorpe]

@Mikaychay95 it depends on the guys. If they hook up with/date more attractive women (to them) than you, you're in trouble. If they're dreamer virgins who dont' actually have any real life experience and are in love with taylor swift or something you might be in trouble. If your nerd friends are broken like @BuchitaBuchys seem to be, you could be in trouble.

@BuchitaBuchys i can find you some nerds who'd be happy to date you... noooooo problem.

[darkpoetry]

wow you were going great until you said fat girls get friendzoned, all types of girls get friendzone because they give off the wrong impression from the beginning. I know a lot of girls who get friendzoned who are actually hot and pretty as I said girls only get friendzoned because of the impression they give in the first place or if they're too shy or so on, weight doesn't always matter.

[Bluemax]

Of course they do, though with much less frequency.

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[dwiller943]

Yes. I'm friends with nice guys that seem too scared to give me a chance. So they date other girls that are so wrong for them, because they don't wann "ruin the friendship" or because they are "scared of rejection". Even though the girls they go after reject them for assholes. And then me (the girl they assume would reject them), ALWAYS goes for nice guys. But yet they don't seem to notice. And then when I confront them, they make up some excuse. 😔

[spuitkaas]

I've been friendzoned, but I do believe it happends less likely. Girls get fuckzoned and if you got some self respect, you get rejected. Only guys who actually like a girl as a friend but nothing more frienzone guys, but that doesn't happen that often, because a lot of guys would also have sex with their female friend.

[lumos]

I've gotten friendzoned by basically all my crushes ever lol.

[cheeseysouffle]

Yes!!! yes we do. Oh I've hit the friendzone so many times and one time it was to the point where the guy was using me. There is nothing wrong with just being friends and thus, the friendzone. It sucks sometimes when the person is using you though.

[bombamboum]

Girls do get friend zoned but I think they mostly get booty-call zoned or FwB-zoned.
The guy will agree for sex but nothing more, the girl will take it, hoping for a relationship.

[vuden]

Its sad that what you said is true.

[Moss777]

Many many times. I know some of the guys I am friends with like me quite a bit (not because they have said anything, but because of how they act) but I either didn't want to go out with them or didn't have the nerve to tell them.

[Anonymous]

I have friendzoned some girls that my friends thought I was an idiot for because they thought they was hot. There is a lot more to a person than looks. I personally will friendzone a girl if she doesn't have the qualities that I am looking for in a person even if she was the most physically attractive person in the world.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

It happens. Not all girls are pretty and some guys can get a girl who is prettier

Think of it this way, if Mary is a 6/10 and she likes bill, but bill has his heart set on dating Jane who is a dime, then Mary will be friend zoned

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Let's define what you mean by "friendzone" first... a lot of people call "being rejected" the friendzone. When it's really not that.

[AceMartinov]

I think of a friendzone as something like "I don't want a relationship with you, but we can stay friends" type of a thing

[yaddayaddayadda02]

See, I'd say you're in the friend zone only if you agree to that arrangement. Otherwise you were just rejected.

[wintergirl86]

What do you mean by 'friendzoned'? Do you mean as the guy only sees this girl as a friend? Something is wrong with her so he'll never date her?

[AceMartinov]

The last one.

[wintergirl86]

I did once when I was younger. At the time I didn't understand why. Now looking back at it I do get why.

[darkpoetry]

no when a guys sees a girl as only a friend even though she likes him and then BAM! poor girl is friendzoned :( xx

[wintergirl86]

That could have been my problem too. I liked him way too much and he knew it.

[zinithin]

Yes, they get friend zoned, I've friend zoned a few girls.

[CHARismatic110]

Yes. The Friendzone is not gender specific. I've resided there quite a few times.

[Anonymous]

In most parts of society for some unnecessary reason the guy is supposed to ask the girl, so it happens but less often.

[RationalMale]

Of course they do. Not as much, because instead of the "let's just be friends" line it's more the "ignore her."

[Nothing_]

They probably do. I have never really been friendzoned.

[Anonymous]

Yup. I've pretty much friend zoned some girls that showed interest. I don't hate them. I just don't like them in that sort of way.

[Solaayy]

Yes! Girls get friendzoned too :/ lol

[Jakesusername]

Yeah, I have friendzoned like 4 girls.

[matheus_mb]

Sure they do.

[dragonfly1104]

Yes, just like guys.