Is texting someone daily being clingy?

[loveskittens]

Please define how much is too much.
Calling
Hanging out
texting
Email
etc.

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Thanks everyone for the feedback. It's for future reference

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Email as in Facebook messages etc.

[soneoak]

Clingy is subject to the perception of the person.

Being who you are is more important. If they don't like being spoken to, they better be fine with you speaking to other people (else just dump them, no point being with someone who doesn't care about who you are.)

Perhaps it is better to say, people who find connection to what you have to say, or are constantly stimulated by your thoughts and ideas would be more willing to listen, especially if they can also converse and be heard.

People don't like talking to assholes who only know how to talk but never listen. They also don't like speaking to sycophants who don't really agree with them but are pretending to so as to 'get' some kind of favour later on.

Naturally these people get dumped. And the umbrella description sometimes include them as 'clingy'. You want attention, but never give any when needed.

Basically it's fine to ask for attention, so long as you're being fair and giving attention when needed. Learn to grow a spine and never let a person reverse the tables and call you clingy when they are the ones who demand attention, but never welcome your requests for it. Just dump them and let them figure out what they did wrong. Don't perpetuate mistakes. Don't blame yourself for what is clearly their fault.

[loveskittens]

Thanks. By the way, brevity is the essence of wit.

[soneoak]

And intuition can not be conveyed in enough words.

[loveskittens]

Cool

[Squall17]

I never understood where that started from. Probably some bullshit magazine. If you like someone it's never too much. Somebody that describes that as clingy is someone that really wasn't that interested I. The first place.

[loveskittens]

Thanks i agree

[kimmythebomb]

I don't know if your situation is similar, but I literally just dumped a guy I kinda liked because he kept calling me. We were unable to text for X reason and he would call me like four times a day. He woke me up this morning. I'm not a morning person. I work everyday and am very busy. He would call while I'm at work an interrupt me when I was with a client. Very annoying. But if that's not this situation then you're good 😆 If she REALLY likes you , you can call her at 3:00 am and she probably won't get mad 😊

[HoshiOMitte]

actually, It's never too clingy if she likes you equally.
but to answer your question: depends on how she response to your texts n calls I guess.
if she's always reply with short answers n never bother further the conversations. daily greeting is more than enough. asking too much might make her feel pressured.
if not, go for it. be as chatty as you want ;-)

[loveskittens]

Thanks

[NeedingAGoodSeeing2]

This is spot on. If you have sent an essay for a text and you receive a one wird answer. Two things you know for a fact. 1) You are being played. 2) he's about to dump you

[playdatesx]

First sentence, couldn't agree more.

[bloodmountain1990]

Yeah I hate that shit. When girls agree to date but then they have little to nothing to add to the conversation and it feels like an interview instead of a conversation where they make no attempt to further the conversation. n

I feel like it puts pressure on me in 2 ways.
1. Eventually I run out of stuff to say and I feel like I'm trying to too hard and can only ask generic questions at a point.
2. I gotta watch how much I text without coming off clingy

Then again some girls I've dated are much more talkative in person than they are texting like they're almost a different person.

[loveskittens]

Yea i know the feeling

[HoshiOMitte]

@bloodmountain1990 yea. im one of those that talk less in text msgs. mainly cause I hate typing on phones. and also when there's time for one to pause and spell check the text, people tend to delete half the stuff they typed, if not all... im definitely guilty of that
but still, if i like the guy enough to want to continue some sort of conversation, I will definitely response.

[bloodmountain1990]

Yeah well that's the thing, they'll respond to my texts but not initiate conversation so that's where it gets confusing in the sense that you don't know if they're not interested or just not much of a texted

[bloodmountain1990]

Texter*

[HoshiOMitte]

Does she ever initiate conversation? If one is just being polite, it will stop at a response. if she ever throw a question back for someone that doesn't text much, she is some what interested. if not at all... probably not.

[playdatesx]

You are only clingy if you are also unwanted.

For the guy I like, my heart flutters and I get all fuzzy and warm when he calls me and every time I see him. I enjoy all the messaging we do every day. I love his company, I love his voice, I love his touch.

As for the guy I dislike, he's annoying as fuck and I want to slap him when he messages me "hi."

[loveskittens]

Thanks that makes sense.

[areyouladygo]

No. To me clingy is when you ask someone "what are you doing" every freaking 5 minutes. Or if you ask them the same question over and over again just because you likr them and want to talk and got no interesting things to talk about. It doesn't matter if the couple like each other equally. They will get annoyed eventually.

[loveskittens]

Thanks for the feedback.

[sammy_31]

Ehhh I don't think so but excessive messaging and calling perhaps may look like it is. If it seems clingy then... does that person even realize how much care you have for them? Whether it be someone you like or a friend and family memeber. I text mostly everyone at least everyday even a hello, good morning, how are you because I care. :)

[Agrojag]

I wish my friends were like you.

[sammy_31]

Thanks.

[sammy_31]

@Agrojag

[Aroura]

it depends on the people, my love language is touch and quality time, basically that means, if my SO doesn't take the time to tell me they are thinking of me, they don't care about me, yes some see it as clingy, BUT my most recent bf understood, and would do it to humor me, i would do little things for him because his was acts of servous, doing something like refilling his water showed him i loved him, even though it didn't do anything for me, so it depends on the people and if you communicate

[Gabbycrose]

It really depends on the level of your relationship... If you are just starting to talk then if she likes you then she will want to text all day. I wouldn't hang out but once a week because too much then she will get tired of you very quickly and if the relationship goes anywhere then talk on he phone for about 1 to 2 hrs a night and if she doesn't answer don't keep on calling until she does just wait for her to call you and emailing is just weird don't email

[iloveyaLikeSeriously]

My bf and I don't see each other much now that its vacation from school, so we text all day 😂😂 I don't know if its clingy:/

but we love each other, that's why

[loveskittens]

That's nice

[iloveyaLikeSeriously]

Hahaha🙈

[R3d_Anonymous]

Clinginess is also subjective in my opinion. What may be clingy for one may be too aloof for another. Again, it is about finding the partner that matches your preferences.

[loveskittens]

Thanks for the feedback i agree

[Donaldduck]

I reckon it can defiantly appear like you way more interested than them (especially if you are the person texting first/calling most etc) But i am a super emotional person and when i need to text its like needing a cigarette and i just have to. If it makes you happy who cares ;)

[MzTee]

if you text and don't get a response don't text again until you do.
don't feel the need to text everyday, give them a chance to miss you, that way when they do get your text it puts a smile on their face instead of the eye roll.

[loveskittens]

Thanks I do that.

[MayByesMayBno]

I found it pretty clingy when my, now ex, would send me early morning texts that were like novels about how much he loved me and how I was his everything and we had only been dating for about a month. It was too much too soon.

[loveskittens]

Thanks for the feedback. I understand that

[jayyyjayyy]

Emailing is weird. BBut if you guys are feeling each other then go for it.

[Anonymous]

it sort of depends. if i like the guy, i don't care if he texts me all the time, i'll probably think he's really sweet. but if i don't like the guy, one text is one text too many.

[JackKerouac77]

I dislike texting as a form of communication, but I'm not opposed to shooting them around.

Just respond when you can, don't let it distract you from real life.

[trellisromeo]

No it ain't clingy if you not blowing up her phone before she can reply back...

[loveskittens]

Cool

[Anonymous]

my bf and I are long distance so texting every day is necessary.

[Anno_Domini]

Same with my fiancee. We call everyday.

[thewanderingme]

only if you text excessively.

[loveskittens]

Thanks. What's too much in your opinion

[thewanderingme]

it's all situational. if you have no plans to get together and don't have anything worth talking about but keep texting anyway, that's excessive.

[loveskittens]

Alright thanks

[thewanderingme]

you're welcome. (:

[Osixhundred]

Females think everything is clingy i stamp on everything if they say your too clingy then everything you do is clingy

[Ihav2fart]

If it is then I'd be 1 clingy ass mother fucker.

[linkywinky]

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[Ihav2fart]

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[linkywinky]

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[Ihav2fart]

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