Why would my FWB be jealous over me?

[Anonymous]

See, I've got this guy whom I've been FWB with for almost 2 years now. Anytime he knows I'm hanging out or hooking up with other men he gets REALLY jealous and gets mad at me. Why would he be doing this? He has a girlfriend and has other women too and I'm not jealous over that. I am actually very happy being single. Could it be he's insecure about possibly losing me? He's 16 yrs. younger than me. Does he possibly have more feelings for me he's not wanting to admit to? Or does he just want me to only be with just him? We have such hot passionate sex when we do get together except he doesn't like to kiss and that bothers me a lot as I absolutely love kissing especially him and he knows it. (Which has been about 3 times or more a week for the past few months now.) What should I do? I tried to ask him why he's jealous and he denies he is. I told him he gives me very dirty looks and then refuses to talk to me for a little bit if he knows I've been around other men. (Even if NOTHING is going on between me and the other men) Then if we end up having sex shortly after he shows his jealousy it's awesome sex too. I'm about to end the FWB with him as he doesn't show me enough respect and I've caught him in too many lies lately over simple little things. So what's everyone's opinion about this situation?

[jacquesvol]

A FWB is first a friend. Friends don't have to be jealous. (jealousy is a pain in the *ss in any case)

Either he just has a jealous personality or he feels a bit more than friendship for you.

[Asker]

I agree with you a FWB is a friend first and we had a wonderful friendship. I didn't like him being jealous over me as I wasn't his as he wasn't mine either. I haven't seen him jealous over other women he's messing around with except his gf. I've asked him if he has more feelings for me and he said no we are just friends/ FWB but honestly his actions speak louder than his words.

[jacquesvol]

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Question Asker I agree with you a FWB is a friend first and we had a wonderful friendship. I didn't like him being jealous over me as I wasn't his as he wasn't mine either. I haven't seen him jealous over other women he's messing around with except his gf. I've asked him if he has more feelings for me and he said no we are just friends/ FWB but honestly his actions speak louder than his words"

You know, once sexuality is a matter, men can become jealous, just because they're afraid to

[jacquesvol]

(Mixed it up a bit, sorry)...

...jealous, just because they're afraid of comparison on sexual domains: deep down most men are unsecure in that domain, that's wy a number of them insist on or prefer virgins: virgins can't compare, which is reassuring to them.

[Asker]

I have told my FWB that honestly no man has ever made me feel as great as he does when it comes to the sex we have been having. I have told him before that I could handle being FWB with him forever with the friendship we have and also with the sex that we have. I enjoy him in so many ways and he knows that. I just wish he wouldn't be jealous over me as that makes me want to not be his friend/ FWB because that's not fair to me that he tries to stake a claim on me like that.

[jacquesvol]

"but honestly his actions speak louder than his words"

I'd be inclined to share your opinion.

[Asker]

I have told him how it seems that he shows a lot of jealousy towards me when it deals with me and other men. He denies it all the time and I have told him that his actions speak louder than his words. I have even had people who knew nothing about he and I being FWB ask me why he was jealous over another man being near me. He's been the one who leads on to people finding out about our FWB status. He tells certain people about our status just to get them to not want to be with me. He confuses me!

[Cartiphilus]

It sounds to me that, being on 20, he's very emotionally immature. Not kissing during sex tells me he sees you as nothing more than a whore. It time for you to end the FWB with him.

[Asker]

He doesn't like to kiss at all. Not just with me but with other women also. He says he doesn't like kissing. I don't believe that he sees me as nothing but a whore as I'm not that way. He and I have an awesome time together both in and out of bed.

[Anonymous]

I think because the sex is so good between you two he feels that when you are with other men you are doing to them what you did to him. That is also the reson why he doesn't kiss you too.

[jacquesvol]

Could be right on the spot indeed.

[Asker]

Maybe that is why he gets jealous over me being with other guys. The kissing thing is because he just doesn't like to kiss at all. His girlfriend had even told me that he doesn't like kissing. He will do things for me instead of kissing. IE, I love when he gives me bites on my neck and he'll be all over my neck with bites instead of kissing me on the mouth. Don't get me wrong we have spent many times just sitting together and kissing and he said to me,"You really know how to kiss me and make me want U"

[nothingtosee]

He has no right to be jealous! He knows that you two are friends with benefits. Sounds like he needs to be educated on what a friends with benefits means. Fuck him! It sounds like it's time for you to cut the ties and find another friends with benefits.

I hope you find several guys who want to be your friends with benefits, all at the same time! There's nothing better than knowing that, you can call up a guy, at any time, day or night and ask him to come over and fuck you, and he won't say no. Especially if you confess to him that you just got back from a date, the sex was horrible and you need some orgasms, NOW!!! Hey, put me in coach!!!