Is getting lunch/coffee cheating?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year now and we had an near-falling out around Valentine's Day and we almost broke up. Once that happened, I started to doubt our relationship but nonetheless we are still together and even though things are "back to normal" I still have my doubts about our future. With that being said, there is another guy that has apparently taken interest in me, he's in one of my classes, and we got coffee together the other day. He wants to get lunch tomorrow and refers to me as "beautiful" and things like that. I don't want to break up with my boyfriend because I love him, and I know these doubts are just because of the fight we had. I would never cheat on my boyfriend by kissing or having sex with another man, but this guy that has started talking to me likes to meet at places and chat. I like his company and he came Into my life at a time where I was unsure of my relationship. At this point I don't know whether to cut ties with this new guy or continue to see him as just friends... but either way I don't want to/am not ready to end things with my boyfriend. Any thoughts?

[BubblyMaria]

Sticky situation...
Mmm I would say it's not cheating but it's not right either. If you want it to work with your boyfriend I would come clean and explain how this all came about. Depending on what he says you can take it from there. I would personally cut other dude off just because he's obviously interested and if you love your boyfriend, you'll just be intentionally be temping yourself with this new guy. I'm sure you and your boyfriend will fight again someday and you'll probably go to the guy and you might slip up. Not calling you a cheater, just saying. Relationships are about commitments and if you're not ready to stop seeing other people then maybe you should have not gone back.
Good luck!

[Marihorror]

"If it's something you wouldn't do in front of your partner, then it's cheating."

Are you hiding this information from your boyfriend? If so, then it yes it is cheating. If you truly believed it was an innocent meeting between friends then you wouldn't be second guessing yourself. You know deep down that what you're doing isn't acceptable.

[Illusive_Man]

Today , we learn ECONOMICS!
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In economics and business decision-making, a sunk cost is a cost that has already been incurred and cannot be recovered.

Now I'm not you and I'm not sure how you feel about your boyfriend but what matter now is... do you think it'll work out?
If yes , do continue.
If no , cease right now to cut your losses.

[Red_Arrow]

This guy is attracted to you and is calling you beautiful and things like that. You are arranging meetings with him for lunch, coffee, whatever. "I like his company and he came Into my life at a time where I was unsure of my relationship." You are getting more interested in him. Keep meeting and things will get more heated. You figure out what you want to do.

[godfatherfan]

If you are in a relationship with someone you have ZERO reason to be out alone with another man. Let alone going on dates. Yes, these little things your doing are going on dates with another man. So you are cheating. Cheating in a relationship is disgusting. Your trying to find excuses for these actions and you want people to tell you it is ok. Well it is not ok. It makes me sick to hear things like this. You should break up with your boyfriend if your going to continue to cheat.

[GuardianNiveus]

I would say lunch/coffee in and of itself is not cheating. Friends are capable of doing that. But if he's calling you beautiful and stuff you should just make things clear to him, and if things start to get out of hand then put an end to it.

[Bellibooo]

If you have to ask if it's cheating, then it's at least close to cheating. It depends on what that coffee date meant to you two.
Besides, this other guy clearly likes you, don't give him false hope, that's just mean.

[MissBB]

Tell the other guy to cut the romantic crap and stop referring to you as beautiful. Also don't do or say anything you wouldn't be comfortable doing in front of your man

[GoodDogNigel]

I think if you pay for yourself and just treat it like hanging out with any old friend than it's fine.

If you look at it as a date and treat it like one, it is one.

[Drooogie4]

I'd say since you're unsure, it's not okay.
Don't go against your gut morals.

[Phoenix98]

Well what do you plan on doing with this guy in your class, pursing a platonic relationship or cheating?

[Anonymous]

You're placing yourself in a position of temptation. Even if it wasn't cheating, do you really want to do that?

And is it cheating? Very grey area. I lean toward yes.

[DiamondRuby]

If you have to ask if it's cheating, it's cheating