Why does it feel like I'm the man in the relationship?

[Saphyre]

I'm a 19yr old female dating a 34yr old man. We have been going out for a little over 2 months and it feels like I'm the man and he's the woman. When I say that I mean he has a lot of what I think are feminine needs, i.e: several times a day he needs reassurance that I love him and that I won't leave him ( " Baby do you love me?" " You're never going to leave me are you?") He always asks me am I ever going to cheat on him, when we go out he thinks every man that walks by wants me. I haven't seen any of my family and friends have stopped calling because he gets all whiny if he doesn't have all of my attention and isn't the "only one". He always wants to fondle me and be all over me when all I want to do is watch the game. I even quit kick boxing because he thinks it too dangerous.I try to make suggestions like getting him to watch the game or come outside and play a sport or go somewhere but he just turns everything down and thinks I'm questioning his masculinity and that I don't love him. I'm trying to be patient but its like its just getting worse and worse. I try to tell him how I feel but he just starts whining and tearing up so I just keep things to myself. I'm getting really annoyed with this daily routine PLEASE HELP!

[philosophersdilemma]

He's probably in a different place in his life than you are. Most certainly, actually. And he's probably been through more than enough to know that he's certain of what he wants, and perhaps because of that, he needs that reassurance. Dating someone older than you is fine as long as you two want to same things in a relationship. Clearly, you're somewhat annoyed because he wants more than you do.

I'm with someone who's older (not that 15 years older, but significant as well), and he's the exact same way. You've just happened to stumble into a relationship with someone who's ready and ravenous for something more meaningful.

[pinkfetish]

This sounds a lot like the beginning of an abusive relationship. No one should ever be given the right to isolate you from your friends and family. You shouldn't have to stop doing the things you like in order to cater to his insecurities. If you express the way you feel to him and he doesn't care, or comes up with another lame excuse, he doesn't like you for the person you really are, and you deserve someone who does.

these are some signs of an abusive relationship.

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[wanacot]

It feels like you're the "man" cause while your man may be 34, he's acting like he's 14. Typically when an older guy is dating a younger girl it's for one of two reasons. The first is he wants the "trophy" girlfriend. The second is he's not emotionally stable enough to date someone around his own age. It sounds like your guy falls into the latter. If I were you I'd ditch him in favour of someone a little more emotionally stable.

[Anonymous]

Wanacot is right. Maybe you shouldn't date people 15 years older than you. No 34 year old is going to date a 19 year old unless something is wrong with him or he just wants sex. What's with all these young girls falling into this B.s.?