1. Many attractive women in their 20s reject all but the most attractive and powerful men
2. Many of those men go on to become more attractive and powerful in their 30s and 40sWhen those women turn 30, they become less marketable and are surprised to learn that the top men don’t want them—because they’re chasing the young women they used to be I see a poetic yet sad symmetry in this: the women who rejected the introverted, budding alpha in their 20s now seek them in their 30s—but can’t have them because they’re dating younger, more attractive versions of themselves.
Yuck. Courtship really is a petri dish of anthropology and evolutionary psychology.
The other point being made in the article is that many women who spend their 20’s becoming powerful and independent (education, salary, etc.) often end up unhappy in their 30s. This is because when they finally achieve independence and look for men who have done the same, the realize they’re not looking for powerful, indented women in their 30s; they’re looking for attractive women in their 20s that will makethem feel powerful.
My observations
In general, men pursue beauty while women pursue capability. And as such, women largely focus on how to appear attractive, while men largely focus on how to appear powerful. This makes it natural for there to be an inversion in marketability around age 30, since that’s generally when men becoming more capable (attractive), and women becoming less beautiful (attractive).
Most powerful men don’t want a powerful woman; they want a feminine magnifier for themselves, e. g. someone who makes them feel successful, and loved, and respectable. To most men, this is best achieved through a young, attractive, and kind/positive woman who focuses on him—not on herself.
2. Many of those men go on to become more attractive and powerful in their 30s and 40sWhen those women turn 30, they become less marketable and are surprised to learn that the top men don’t want them—because they’re chasing the young women they used to be I see a poetic yet sad symmetry in this: the women who rejected the introverted, budding alpha in their 20s now seek them in their 30s—but can’t have them because they’re dating younger, more attractive versions of themselves.
Yuck. Courtship really is a petri dish of anthropology and evolutionary psychology.
The other point being made in the article is that many women who spend their 20’s becoming powerful and independent (education, salary, etc.) often end up unhappy in their 30s. This is because when they finally achieve independence and look for men who have done the same, the realize they’re not looking for powerful, indented women in their 30s; they’re looking for attractive women in their 20s that will makethem feel powerful.
My observations
In general, men pursue beauty while women pursue capability. And as such, women largely focus on how to appear attractive, while men largely focus on how to appear powerful. This makes it natural for there to be an inversion in marketability around age 30, since that’s generally when men becoming more capable (attractive), and women becoming less beautiful (attractive).
Most powerful men don’t want a powerful woman; they want a feminine magnifier for themselves, e. g. someone who makes them feel successful, and loved, and respectable. To most men, this is best achieved through a young, attractive, and kind/positive woman who focuses on him—not on herself.
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