My girlfriend seems different these days?

[Nagasumi]

My girlfriend and I love each other very much although we have only been in a relationship for like a month, or can I say because it's only the first month? We would text each other very often, saying we miss each other, love each other etc. Suddenly, she changed, it was still quite recent. She doesn't text me first, give vague replies, like yea, haha, Ikr. It is always me starting the conv and without me saying anything, no conv at all. I'm stating to think she doesn't want to talk to me anymore and likes me anymore. What should I do?

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

It sounds like she is disinterested. Like the girl below said, get a new one.

She may be disinterested for various reasons which I will enumerate for you:

1. She got tired of you. You text her all the time right? She's over it.
2. Maybe something is going on in her life, something emotional.
3. Maybe she's interested in someone else.

I saw your profile and I know that you are from Singapore. Keep in mind that maybe your culture differs from my American culture and that what I have said reflects this. Still, any girl that just stops talking and doesn't try is kind of a bad investment. I suggest you just move on, kid.

[Nagasumi]

Any ways to mend instead? :(

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

Your only hope is if she's going through something emotional. Tell her that you noticed these changes in her and ask her what is wrong. See what she says. But be warned, a lot of women do not do well with confrontations like that and I suspect Eastern Women do even LESS well than Americans.

If she tells you about family problems then that's your answer but that's basically it man. You have to remember to try to lay back a little bit. Don't become too devoted. I don't like saying it but that is what I've learned, you must maintain some distance from woman for your own self-respect, dignity, and emotional health.

Women try to by-pass what I've said by accusing you that you are dooming the relationship from the start. Don't believe it.

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

You seem like a good kid. I hope I'm wrong. Really.

[Nagasumi]

I messaged her yesterday. Then she gave me a seen so I asked her what's wrong and told her the change. She said she didn't feel like talking yesterday night. Then she also said exam stress which is likely to be true but can also be an excuse. I'm sorry I don't understand that much :(

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

Yes, I heard that Asians have very stressful examinations. But you are a smart, you realize it could be an excuse. You can wait a little longer to see what happens. Maybe a couple weeks after exams to see if she changes. Do not text her so much. Let her text you.

[Nagasumi]

Thank you so much, you gave me confidence.

[Nagasumi]

Any more tips? Sorry she is the first girl and I don't wanna lose her.

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

Be prepared to lose her. Few people are truly loyal these days. This is a sad fact you have to realize.

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

i do not mean for you to be sad and never trust, I just mean that you must be aware of life and the changes it brings.

[Nagasumi]

Omg we actually got back tgt. She thought I didn't like her anymore.

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

Good man. I'm glad to hear that. :o)

[doctorloveadvice]

Let her go. This usually means she's moved on or is cheating on you

[Anonymous]

Get a new one... just saying

[Nagasumi]

I would prefer mending instead of finding a new one. :(